SUNDAY SPARK ⚡️ SESSIONS WITH ALEX MUIR!

And welcome, cadre to another Sunday Spark session. This is your host, Alex, Alex Muir of Mindset. m. Pacific, and we're talking about how boundaries are establishing boundaries and how they're protection, they're offering a layer of protection. And when you're in a state of overwhelm already, you're overcommitted. You don't want to overcommit yourself any more than that. Let's talk about it. 12, thanks for tuning in to the live, happy to have you here. Speak well under, welcome alive, thanks for tuning in.

Yeah, I've been getting better at saying no more. And even when I do say no, hey, speak well under, thanks for tuning in, good to have you here, saying no is difficult, but saying no is necessary sometimes, and that's why boundaries are so important. It is offering yourself a layer of protection and saying no is not a bad thing. It's an energy saver in some cases. So one simple statement that you can use as part of your way of saying no is, I think I wrote it in the chat as well, or not in the chat, but in the title of this live is talking about thank you for thinking of me, or thank you for reaching out to me .

Yeah, what was it? Thank you for reaching out to me, or thank you for thinking of me. I will have to say no at this time. That's all you say. Just a wave, like a polite wave saying no without, you know, that fear of offending someone is close to you, like a friend, a colleague, a mentor. Thank you for thinking of me. Thank you for reaching out to me, but my answer is no. It's a very polite way of just pulling back, being firm, but not being like, oh , wait too much of my play right now. I can't commit to this kind of a thing, because I know when we're in a state of overwhelm, sometimes we can feel snappy or reactive or no, you know, hey, Lou, welcome to the live.

Thanks for tuning in. I've been a minute. And also speaking of boundaries, I've been establishing and I love how Luke, how in a couple of your lives you're talking about unplugging, right? I want to make that more of a habit of unplugging for certain times, right? I'm going to do my best to let people know in advance when I unplug, but my God , does it feel good? Because, you know, we were posting every single day, right? It's a lot of cognitive load sometimes, right? So establishing boundaries, well in advance.

I'm still working on this. Let me know in the chat what everyone's strategy is, how far in advance you let your team know or when you're unplugging, or you know, like, or you make a post about it, I'm getting better at it, but I feel like doing a post like that in advance. Like David Asprey of like the biohacker, upgrade labs, I think it's upgrade labs podcast, David Asprey. Like he talks about that and he actually makes a post when he's going to be MIA kind of a thing, letting his followers know, like, hey, I need a digital detox, I'm taking the weekend or a week, just letting them know and it's like, and they're actually really behind it.

So that's something that, you know, I'm working on more is like, yeah, I, you know, posting every day is super important, like getting your message out there, getting the piece of content out there. Like one piece of content a day is always my mission. Yeah, we, we totally speak wonder, like, we don't need to offer a long drawn out like explanation for, you know, an explanation isn't always needed for, for saying no, right? Saying we're just saying no, we're not, we're not, no need to elaborate on it.

We're just, you know, our plate is already full. And we can't put anything else on our plate. So thank you for reaching out to me. Thank you for thinking with me. Well, the answer is no at this time. And boom. We can, and they, they know that you're not an option as of this time doesn't mean that you're not an option forever. Just means you're not an option as of this moment and, but later down the road, then you can reopen that dialogue or reach out yourself and then reestablish. Oh, you know what?

Thank you so much for reaching out to me previously. Don't even have to say you had a lot on your plate. You could just say, I would love to take you up on that offer of X or a CD or ABC offer when you reached out prior, don't even have to. Yeah. Because then it just shows you, you, you value them reaching out to you, you, and, but you also respect yourself and respect your time and their time as well. Um, you know, let's say it's, it's a, it's a muscle that all of us, you know, um, people pleasers like myself, uh, learning how to muster and it takes time, it takes patience, takes practice.

So, um, but we can all learn together, right? We can all learn from each other and, uh, it goes a long way. So. But, uh, but yeah, but boundaries, again, boundaries super important, they, they help a lot, um, with, uh, continuing to foster your relationships, your friendships, keeping them strong, keeping them cohesive. And I've actually been doing it recently, actually. And although it's difficult, especially with some really close friends of ours, because we're doing so much, uh, trip planning for Japan, me and my wife are going to Japan end of October, um, and, you know, it requires a lot of planning, a lot of logistics and, uh, we're, we're literally within three weeks of leaving.

So because of that, we've had to say no to, you know, found more family visits, friend visits and stuff like that, because we, we've, you know, there's a few things that we have to get done before we leave, right? Um, so when you have moments like that, it's okay to say no, it's okay to pull back, you know, temporarily. You're not saying no forever, you're just saying no for right now. So keep that in mind. Hopefully find this live helpful. I'll keep my lives, like, tighten them up, keep them shorter, less rambling, more concise, more actionable, more practical for you guys.

Um, because, you know, not every live is going to be 15 minutes. Sometimes it'll be five. Sometimes it'll be 10. Um, but, uh, as long as you can glean a piece of wisdom or a piece of a, uh, practical tool I can give you in each and every live, I think it'll go a long way. Um, and I'll leave it there for today. Thank you for tuning into Sunday Spark Sessions. set on my TikTok channel. And if you like additional lives, I've been starting to experiment with TikTok lives. I film my workouts. I might even film my, um, like, mobility, like me and my wife just got back from a friend's wedding.

Um, absolutely speak, Wunder. Really appreciate you tuning in to this live. Luke, thanks for tuning in to this live. Rose A612, if you're still there, thanks for tuning in to this live. Um, yeah, and I love collaborating with all, with all of the college contributors on here. Amazing people. Um, you know, great advice. I love seeing all of your posts and content and, um, I'm going to be tuning in to this morning to more of your guys' lives, because we're putting great, uh, content in the world. We're putting, we're, we're inspiring people, we're, we're bringing positivity into the world and the world needs more of that with everything going on.

So, you keep doing you, cadre's fear and, uh, have an amazing week ahead. Thanks for tuning in to this live. Ciao. [BLANK_AUDIO]