Monday Motion W/ Roe Harvesting Relationships Before They Fade Away

Good morning. Good morning, Cadre fam. Good morning. How's everyone doing? Give people a few seconds to roll in here. Hit this coffee up. It is October. The weather is proving it. So fall is one of my favorite seasons. I am out currently outside of Yellowbird coffee bar here in St. Pa, trying to take advantage of the weather, trying to soak it all up before it gets cold. This is one of my favorites. Welcome, welcome. Animeo. Welcome. So we'll get this thing going today. I hope everyone's doing all right today.

It's Monday. Welcome to Monday Motion with Ro. My name is Rolando. I go by Ro for short. Welcome. Welcome. As everyone rolls in, drop something in the chat that you're grateful for, something that you're grateful for in life that happened to you or something or something that happened over the weekend. Good morning, Jules. Drop in something you're grateful for. And also, one of the things I like to do is a quick check in from 1 to 10. How are you doing today overall? 10 being best day ever, 1 being like, I didn't.

I don't want to get out of bed. It's good to place a number on it. Right now I'd say I'm at about a. I'm at about an eight. I'm at a hard eight right now, so. And I'm only a couple sips into my coffee, so drop in the chat. This month's topic is harvest. This is one of the one. I like the topic of harvest, and I think of crops and farming and all the different seasons that come in life. Watering, pouring, harvesting, getting the crops ready. Eight out of ten. We got. Oh, eight out of ten. Solid eight out of ten.

It's brisk. 42 in northern Minnesota. I know. I'm outside at a coffee shop. I'm like, we're taking advantage of this. I'll be looking forward to this. Or I'll be looking back on these days and, you know, wishing I was still in them. But harvesting. One of the things that. What I like to touch on is when harvesting, when I think of harvesting is relationships. I feel like a lot of us, including myself, don't look at relationships as harvesting. What I like to do is think about all the relationships that have been in my life.

Right? There's a lot of people that I look back on, and I'm like, I really wish I would have followed up with that person or I really wish they would have reached out to me. And I've made it a personal duty of mine to reach out to the people that I Want to keep in my life. Right? Because just like crops harvesting, our relationships, you know, they're not going to last forever, especially if you don't tend to them, they're going to die out or they're going to wither or they're going to fade away.

So sometimes it's up to us to reach out to those relationships and water them and pour into them and just keep them alive to come. And there's a lot of people that come into our lives, whether it's for a season to teach us something or for us to teach them, whether it's a work relationship, a gym relationship. Not all relationships are meant to last forever. But it's up to us to harvest those relationships. Good morning, dream big 30. It's up to us to harvest those relationships and tend to them and water those crops essentially as a relationship and to identify that, okay, is this someone that's going to be in my life forever?

Is this someone that's going to push me, that's going motivate me, or is this someone that's gonna, you know, that needs to be weeded out essentially? Because a lot of those times when we have people around us, those relationships, they're gonna push us, they're gonna motivate us and they're gonna bring certain things about things, things about us out. And you know, so like, what I like to do is I try not to just reach out randomly, but I do periodic check ins. I even put it on. This is a little cheat code.

I don't tell everybody this, but I'll tell you, I'll tell the cadres fear, but I put it in my calendar once a week. I had names that I put on the calendar, okay, reach out to Dan, reach out to Jacques, you know, reach out to X, Y and Z, family, friends. And I have to schedule those. And not so much because it's a task, but because it's important to me and I don't want to forget it because life gets busy. We do all the things, the gyms, the, the walks, the dogs, the run clubs, all the different things and life gets busy.

But I don't want to forget about the relationships that I need to harvest because there's people that come into our lives that take time out of their day to feed into us and allow us to feed into them. And if we don't keep those relationships alive, some people are going to back away and they might think that they're just meant to be in your season for, you know, or be in your life for a season so what I like to do is reach out. Harvest. Harvesting relationships is, you know, it's about gratitude that's in motion.

I'll say I'm giving people their flowers and while they can still smell them, while they're still around. Because there's so many relationships that fell through the cracks for me that I reached back and now it's just awkward, right? Or it's just like, oh, like I should have replied to that text message. Or, you know, dream big. Thank you for the reminder. Yeah, absolutely. And one of the things that really set this in motion for me to think about is I went to a wedding this past weekend with that I was in of a good friend of mine, and I bumped into a bunch of people that when I met them, I was like, oh, like, why didn't.

Why aren't we hanging out? Why haven't I seen you? What's been going on in your life? I have so much I want to tell you about my life, and it made me think. It's like, you know what? I haven't been harvesting these relationships. I haven't been reaching out. I haven't been letting people know that they. They matter to me and that I'm in a new chapter of life and I want to bring them into it with me. Right? And so that's one of the things I'm going to be going into this next season of Harvest. It's the topic that's the theme of the month for Cadre, but also it's something I want to ingrain into my daily life.

It's like, okay, what relationships do I need to harvest and keep alive? So I challenge you guys, if you guys have someone that comes to mind as I'm thinking about this, that's, hey, there's a relationship out there that I should check in or keep it alive or water that relationship tap, drop that name in if you're feeling comfortable. I have a couple, a buddy of mine, Dan is one. Stephen. There's a whole list of people that I need to reach out to, but not just because to keep the relationships alive, but these healthy relationships.

They keep me grounded and they keep me protected from isolation. Because if I let these relationships wither away and fade away and they go on and create this life where they go on to the new chapters, and I'm not a character in that chapter. That's another person that's drawn away from me, that is protecting me from isolation. Because when you let those people fade away, we tend to look. Sometimes we look around and there's Nobody around. And those are the times when, you know, those deep thoughts of loneliness come in and opens the door for anxiety and old habits and dark thoughts and this false idea of safety in that isolation.

So harvesting is a form of stewardship in a way. I believe that God places us in people's lives for a season and for a reason. And it's up to us. It's our responsibility to nurture what those connections look like, what they feel like, and to maintain them. There's a lot of people that come into our lives for protection and even just perspectives. And if we don't tend to them, even the best relationships, they will dry out and they'll wither away. So I challenge people this month, even today, reach out to someone.

Think of three people that you're like, hey, I haven't seen them, I haven't talked to them. Yeah, I might have seen their Instagram post or their Facebook post. I might have liked it. But I challenge you, let's take it a step farther. Reach out to someone and just do a check in and hey, thinking about you. How's life going? Like, that little message could be the tipping point to someone's day. That could be the tipping point for someone to not draw into their own isolation. Or they might see that message and remember, like, oh, there's people out there that care about me, that are reaching out to me.

And it might, it might, you know, it might spawn something. It might turn into a coffee date or a lunch date or a new business venture. You never know. So I challenge you. Pick at least one to three people today to reach out to and just check in and let them know that you're doing well, that you're thinking to them and water that relationship. So as this week rolls out, it's Monday. Let's come into the week hot. You know, let's start off the week with gratitude. Think about the things you're grateful for.

I challenge you. Drop in the chat again if something that you're looking forward to. For me, I get to start a new job today, which is exciting. A big new chapter partner develop business development representative for Partners behavioral health. So stepping back into the mental health, substance use and criminal justice space full time. Super excited. I get to build out telehealth programs and be one of the front men in the community, which I love because I love to talk, I can ramble. I love helping people and I love being a support system for people and I love creating support systems.

So super, super good time for me to go out and harvest those relationships in the community, both professionally and personally. So I'll wrap this up because I have to be to work and I'll leave you guys with this. You can't harvest what's never tended. You can't harvest something that you don't help water and you don't help grow. You're not going to be around to see the fruits of that if you're not feeding into that that comes with relationships, personally. Disciplines, motivations, all these things.

So tend to your crops, tend to your people, tend to your relationships. Water them, nurture them, care for them, and it might be a season for them to harvest them relationships. It also might be a season to let some people go, and only you are going to know that. And it might take some of your closest relationships to help you identify that. So reach out to some people, check in on them, let them know that they are your people, and let's have a great day. It's Monday. Let's start it off right. Let's come out strong.

So thank you guys. Have a great day. I'm going to keep it short and I'm going to go start a new chapter today, so wish me luck. I'm going to go harvest some relationships. You guys have a great day, and I'm going to roll out with some lo fi rock music. Let's do it. Have a great day, y'. All.