Cadre Today - Maybe It Isn’t Balance That You Should Be Seeking

I'm trying to learn to love myself and what's good for my mental health. I read a lot about self help. I'll never be polished. I see the cycles happening now. I'm responsible for shutting them down. It took a while to figure that out, but it's my job to stop it. There's lots of reasons messed up. I grew up around things that were not healthy. I'm working hard and it's looking up. If I stick to. And I'll hit the pause button there. Good morning, Cadre. How are we doing on this Wednesday? I hope you are doing good on this middle of the week.

Whether you're kind of a traditional work week person Monday through Friday, or whether you work some weekends and so on and so forth. I feel like Wednesday is always in the middle somehow. Wednesdays are never Fridays for people, I feel like. But if Wednesday is your Friday, please let me know. I'd love to, love to put you in my mental library of someone whose Wednesday is their Friday. Well, if this is the beginning, the end, the middle of whatever journey you're on, I hope you're doing well. But if you're not, know that that is a okay as well.

Hey, Teresa, nice to see you. I'm. And if it's actually helping or hurting us. And I love this idea of balance. Part of the reason why I love it and love talking about it is because it's one of the things we don't think about meaning we hear. It's like, oh, I just need to find balance. And we go, yeah, that makes sense. I need to find balance. Done. And I go, is balance something that we shouldn't be seeking? Meaning, work life balance. That sounds great. But also, who in the heck has the opportunity to balance their work and their life?

Maybe maybe a CEO, maybe an entrepreneur, maybe someone who doesn't have respons any crossover responsibilities with other people who say, hey, I need this from you right now. I was sending emails at 2am this morning. Does that make me irresponsible? Okay, call me irresponsible, but there are people and responsibilities that needed me at that time. So it's like, oh, I lost my work life balance. Here's another balance. How often is the idea like, oh, well, you need to balance your right and your left.

You know, it's like make sure, make sure you don't get off balance. Right? If you, if you do an exercise in a certain way on one side that you should then do the exercise on the same way on the other side. Hey, Michelle Rowe Nice to see you, my friend. Thanks for joining Godre today. Today, right, because we know it's like as, as what percent better just said, hey, work life. Balance is a myth, right? We've gotten used to saying that one. But then I guarantee more people struggle with the idea of like, well, yeah, but if I do a bicep curl on my right side, I should do it the exact same way on my left side.

Exact same weight, exact same amount of reps, exact same form and function. And I go. Rather than seeking balance in life, balance and capacity, balance and strength. I always say this. Balance. The amount of time you spend exploring what you're strong at and what you're weak at, what you like doing, what you don't like doing, what you know, what you don't know, what you're confident in and what you're not confident in. I'll stay with the, with the movement analogy because I think it's, it's the one that helps me make the most sense.

Let's say you're in a yoga class, okay? And you do a posture on the right side of your body. So a posture that is very. The, the right side is, is, is the focus point, right? You're standing maybe on, on your right foot. Then all of a sudden we get to the complementary side. First of all, why do we Most often, 99% of the time start with our right and then go to our left. There's an imbalance there. But then number two, we get to the second side, we go, okay, now balance out your body. Find the same expression you found on the second side as you found on your first.

But whenever I'm teaching, I always raise this, hey, who's right handed in the room? X number of people raise their hands. Who's left handed? X number of people raise their hands. Who's epidextras? X number of people raise their hands. I go, how many of you broke your left ankle playing soccer in third grade? X number of people raised their hands. How many of you play a sport that is very right dominant or very left dominant. How many of you, XYZ and I go, okay, naturally you are an imbalanced person.

Why do we attempt to find balance or symmetry when that's not something that we are. We aren't symmetrical beings. We aren't balanced beings. Our lives are not balanced. You want to know why? Because they're not supposed to be. The optimal human experience isn't a balanced one. It's an aware one. It's an optimized one. Right? It's one where you go, hey, I know if I'm doing a task in a certain way that maybe it's my right side that's going to lead. And another task may be my left side or I need to give myself more grace here or more permission here or more time here.

There are times where imbalance is going to be your optimal state, if you acknowledge, if you plan, if you strategize, and if you give permission to know that. So in a world that attempts to tell you, here's the three steps to or here's the big truth. Today I invite you to go, huh? Anytime people are inviting you to seek balance, maybe seek an equitable amount of time spent considering where there is balance and where there is not. Not to potentially bring them into equality, but to go, huh? How do I optimize my existence here?

Because, yeah, work, life, balance sounds maybe good, But is it the optimal way to do life? I don't know. Something to consider. So wherever you are today, whatever's going on, have a good one. Have a really, really, really good day. A little grassroots to play us out live for today. Y Teresa Rose, 1% better. Michelle, everybody.