Host shares a 12-day solstice ritual of writing 12 wishes, burning one each day and saving the last to read on New Year's, and discusses coping-ahead strategies and boundary-setting for challenging family interactions over the holidays.
Happy Monday. Milo's having like some. You choking, buddy? What's going on? Say hello. Milo wants to say hi to you. Oh, he's giving you a kiss.
For the 12 days of solstice, you write down 12 wishes for yourself for the next year. Over the next 12 days until new Year's, you pull one out, you don't look at it, and you burn it. I'm working with my therapist to Cope ahead for some boundaries this week.
Happy Monday. It's Monday, right? Just had a panic of not knowing what day of the week it is because not normally here on Mondays, but I think last week I let you guys know I'd be here today instead of my usual Thursday because Thursday is Christmas and I'll be with my family. Milo's having like some. You choking, buddy? What's going on? Say hello. Milo wants to say hi to you. Oh, he's giving you a kiss. So I wanted to share something I saw on Instagram this weekend that I thought was a really, really cool idea.
And it's something that you can do starting today. Even though, like, technically it's. You're supposed to start it December 21st, but you can absolutely start it today. You can, you can do it really anytime from now until New Year's. But it's this like, little ritual. I don't know what it's called, but basically you write down 12. It's like for the 12 days of solstice, you write down 12 wishes for yourself for the next year. So for 20, 26. And then over the. And then you like put them in a bowl and like shuffle them up so you can't see what they are.
And then over the next 12 days until new Year's, you pull one out, you don't look at it, and you burn it. If you don't want to burn something just for safety reasons, you can just throw it away, but don't look at it. And then on New Year's Day, when you pull out the very last one, you can read it. And that is your only responsibility for them to be a perfect way to set myself up for disappointment. Or like my perfectionism would come in and I'd be like, okay, well, this is what I need to do. I have to do this.
I've made a resolution. I have to do it. And then if it didn't happen, I would beat myself up. Or I'd like try and do it all in January. And then obviously, like, you can't accomplish a year long goal in one month. And I would just burn myself out. And yeah, I just found that resolutions were not a great thing for me to try and practice. As someone who struggles with a lot of perfectionism, which you all know. So. But yeah, so I'm gonna try and do that this year. Hopefully if you guys try it, I'd love to know what your wishes and.
Yeah, we're coming up on Christmas. If you celebrate. I will be with family this week. So I'm working with my therapist to Cope ahead for like some boundaries. I want to make sure I'm setting conversations, making sure I'm aware of things that I'm comfortable talking about and not comfortable talking about and just trying to do a good job of taking care of myself. I know sometimes for a lot of folks, being with family can be, it can be triggering, it can bring up a lot of old stuff. It can be overwhelming.
It can be hard for us to sort of like stay grounded in our adult versions of ourselves. Like I always like regress to like a 4 year old version of me when I'm with my family. So practicing staying really grounded and making, making sure that I remember like I'm an equal human. I'm an, I'm an also an adult in this scenario and like I have every right to believe and feel the things I do and trying to like, stay true to that is always my challenge. So that's something I'm going to be working on and we'll report back.
But yeah, I, I think the next time I see y', all, it's gonna be 2025, because let me think, Monday is the 29th, which is my birthday and then 30th, 31st. Yeah. On January 1st. So I will see you in the new year. I hope you all have a phenomenal rest this week. I hope you try and get some rest. If it's not carved, be gentle with yourselves as always. And if you try that little 12 days of solstice ritual, please let me know. I would love to know what that final wish is that you get on January 1st and I will see you in the new year in 2026.
Say bye my. See you in 2020.
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