Cadre Today - How to Help Your Men

Help me I think I'm falling in love again When I get that crazy feeling I know I'm in trouble again I'm in trouble cause you're a Rambo and again when a sweet talking ladies minion and you love your loving. I can love your freedom. I love me some Joni Mitchell. Joni decides to make music the way that Joanie's voice and mind and creativity make music. All of a sudden you hear a little bit of, a little bit of brass, a little bit of spring. We can be a little bit more supported, we can be a little bit more.

It's truly a gift. And hey, Carrie, nice to see you, my friend. So as I mentioned. Help, help, help. That's the name of today's Cadre today. Last Sunday, last Sunday night I led a service and I talked about it. I think on Monday's Cadre today I led a time for people who maybe this time of year where there' supposed to be a lot of light and positivity and togetherness for people who don't feel that this was a space where people could spend time together feeling maybe less happy or less light and maybe a little bit less alone because they're being alone with other people who are also feeling alone in this room.

And I was not surprised because I hold space like this a lot. I was not surprised that the room was 100% women most of the time it is. Why? Because we condition men to not know how or not to have the courage or the strength or to think that they have the need to receive help or to be less than always good. Bravo to our, our women in this world who are maybe a little bit more courageous, a little bit more aware. But also I'm glad we created a world where some of our people feel that the rooms that are created are for them.

I think we have the opportunity to create more rooms for more people and have a really simple, not simple meaning easy, but simple meaning one step. Thing that you can try to maybe invite some of the men in your life to find the things that they need. And that one step is do it with them, invite them, tell them that you're thinking about them and then walk alongside them. All that is is one step, right? Literally say, hey, come do this thing with me. They go, why you go? Because I think it's a good thing to do.

And then walk them into that world. Invite them to belong, invite them to be uncomfortable. Invite them into a space where they get to ask questions. All of a sudden really beautiful things happen. They become a person who starts inviting other people. Because there are a lot of wonderful men in this world, as we know, and we see a lot of them right here in the Cadre sphere who are doing that work, who are doing that work to go, okay, how do I do good things for me? How do I rest? How do I think?

How do I heal? How do I feel? We all need it. When we don't get it, we become, I want to say weird versions of ourself or worse versions of ourself, but I'll just say different versions of ourself. Invite people who need things to experience those things with you. Hold their hand, walk with them, be excited, tell them you're thinking about them. It's a really powerful tool that you have. And I invite you right now to do those uncomfortable things and exactly do what we just spoke about. Right when we walk into those spaces, we change our lives as much as we change others.

So no matter where you are, no matter what's going on today, just give a little help. Y' all help people into the rooms they're not in because they really want to be there. Jody Mitchell, play us out. We'll see you later. Yeah. La.