Social Emotional Learning 3

Hi, Kadri fam. Hey, Kadri. It's Jill and Mary here, your favorite dynamic duo. And if you don't know us by now, we're the founders of a company called Girls Mentorship. Girls Mentorship is a personal growth and development company for teen and tween girls. Hear us out. If you are not a teen girl, that's okay. Because what we teach girls is not only a thousand percent applicable to adults , it's also extremely beneficial. If you can't tell by now, the two of us have a ton of energy. It's a quality that honestly used to land us into a ton of trouble when we were growing up.

But now it's something that has served us incredibly well in our adult years. So the question becomes, how did we go from being the disruptive class clown type to using our energy to impact and inspire others instead? We attribute our way of being to a concept called social emotional learning. e. their emotional intelligence. We like to refer to it as our street smarts. And today we wanted to find one of the five, there's five of them, components that make up the SEL framework. Today's concept is self management.

And we're also going to share with you a little bit more about how Jill and I use this concept in our everyday lives. Building from the foundation of self awareness, which we talked about in our other videos, self management is the ability to successfully regulate one's emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in different situations. This is achieved by effectively managing stress, controlling impulses, and being able to motivate yourself. We don't have to explain to you that life will have its challenges.

If you're here using this incredible app and watching these videos, it's likely because you've already faced and overcome quite a few of them, and you're probably looking to better equip yourself for when more of those challenges pop up. What we do want to make a point around is the fact that when those challenges come up, you're the one who gets to decide whether those challenges are happening to you, or whether they're happening for you. A perfect example that I'm assuming most of you can relate to is, for me, last week, I was getting ready to leave work, and I walked out to my car, which had a flat tire, whomp, whomp.

And it wasn't just flat, it was flat flat. Like, I couldn't even attempt to drive it down the road to the nearest discount tire location. I had to get my spare tire out, change the tire, and then drive it in order to get it plugged and put back on. I really didn't have the time for this inconvenience. My schedule was jam packed, and I had places to be. However, in that moment, I got to choose. So I chose patience. I had to make time to handle this unexpected happenstance. So how would getting angry or annoyed help at all?

I also chose gratitude, because it had literally been 16 years since I changed the tire. And thankfully, one of my coworkers was able to drop everything he was doing and not only help, but also teach me how to do it in case it happened again, responding to the situation this way, instead of reacting to it allowed me to get it handled as quickly and seamlessly as possible, and not let it affect what I had going on for the rest of my day. Quick question, how many of you lose it in a situation like that, or in traffic, or lose it with your kids or your coworkers, or maybe with yourself?

This is your opportunity to practice responding in a different way, which means take a second to breathe and think about your next action versus reacting the same way you always do, which looks more like letting your emotions run the show. Our challenge to you is to notice the things that bring your energy level down throughout the day and how you react to those things. Where could you buy back some of your energy from the things that are robbing you of it? Is it with yourself, your family, your coworkers?

Only you can determine where you're leaking energy, but we can assure you that there is almost no better feeling than plugging that energy leak. Now go, go out there and manage yourself. When you're feeling red, take a quick second to think before you act, you deserve to show up as your best green self. Until next time, everybody, bye.