Make Your Dreams Come True!

Good morning, Cadre family. And I know we have so many new faces and new users on the app, so I just want to say a huge welcome to all of our new Cadre family members. And I'm just hoping that you are getting a lot out of your experience here at Cadre with our new community feed and everything that's going on. I'm going to give people a second to jump in and just make sure that this is working. The last I went live, I was having some issues, so I just want to make sure it's working for people. So we'll give it a second and see if anybody hops in here.

It's Friday the 13th, which is always a funny day. I mean, means nothing to me, but the media just blows it up like it's going to be some disastrous day. Oh, those like media holidays. Katie, what's up? Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. I'm so glad somebody's here to tell me if this is working. Okay, great. Happy Friday. Today is national make your dream come true day. I'm so excited to talk about this subject and I was so excited, in fact, that I am going to turn this into a Friday series with me because my whole entire life has just been a manifestation of my dreams.

And I've been writing them down and I have proof in the pudding. I have been writing down my dreams for as long as I can remember. So I have a little, I have some funny props. I have some funny props for you today. Okay? 1st. 1st things first. I have my high school senior yearbook. Okay. Here's some proof that I have been working on my big dreams since at least 1999. Now we're gonna go, we're gonna take it back a few years before that. But my senior quote was, you are never given a wish or a dream without also being, being given one power to make it come true.

Now, I had no idea what quote to choose. This was a random quote that I found. I remember that the yearbook staff needed a quote and I was like, I don't have like this life changing, profound quote. I'm 17 years old. But I looked, you know, when I was looking back because I've been journaling forever. I've been keeping journals since I was a little girl. I, you know, I hope that I can track down all of them before the day that I die because who knows what's in there. But I looked back at this yearbook and I just thought to myself, wow, I have been writing down the power of dreaming for as long as I can remember.

Then I have another prop for you guys, because who doesn't love a prop? A page from my journal that I tore out and put into another journal from March of 2002. The quote, go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined. And that's how I started my journaling experience in 2002. And mind you, I had just been through a car accident a few years earlier. I've talked about this a few times, but, you know, I was just starting to come out of four consecutive surgeries, back to back for four years.

And it was really hard to be dreaming big at that time. But no matter what, I have always been writing down and manifesting my big dreams and just putting it out into the universe that your dreams come true if you make them come true. And I'm going to talk to you about what that means. So my history of dreaming is very, it goes way, way back to the early days of my childhood. I have been acting, singing, dancing, and on stage basically my whole life. I started on stage when I was five years old, and I never looked back from the time of dancing to being in childhood theater and just really feeling like my big dream was to be an actress and to be on stage.

Thanks, Katie, for the love. And this, like, idea that I could be anything that I wanted to be. Started so young. I used to write letters to Broadway actors, no joke, and send them to New York City. Like, I don't even know how I got the address. Like, where they. They probably just never even made it. My mom probably never even actually mailed them. Who knows? But I used to write to people like Sarah Brightman and Michael Crawford from the Phantom of the Opera original cast and say, like, if you ever need a backup or if you ever need help or if you ever need me to fill in or one day I want to play Christine Dye on stage.

I mean, I was dreaming so, so big at the time when I, since the time I was a little girl. So the dreaming. And I think, like, you know, getting yourself in that dream state and envisioning yourself and imagining yourself on stage, imagining yourself doing these big things, that is half the battle when it comes to dreaming big. And I think, you know, without those dreams and without visualizing what the end of the road looks like for you, you stay stuck in a place of complacency and, you know, no imagination and imagination and thinking big is what actually helps those things come to life.

With a second step, which we'll get to. I realized from a really young age that I have the power over what happens in my life. I have the power to get certain parts on stage. I have the power to visualize myself in that moment, doing those things, being that person. I hold the key to that. So what do I do now in order to make my big dreams come true? Because life will derail you in a moment's time. We've all been in that state where we've all experienced something that maybe gives us the fork in the road.

It brings us to a place where, you know, we can either keep pushing toward our big goals and dreams, or we can take a path that might send us in the wrong direction and it might help us, or it might aid us in thinking that we're not good enough, right? And I have faced many, many, many of those forks in my life. And I think I realized that after going through something incredibly life changing, that I hold the key. No matter what. Nobody can take my dreaming, my imagination, my thoughts about what I want to achieve away from me.

No circumstance can take that away from me. In fact, I'll give you an example. I mentor a young girl. Her name is Jax. We call her Jax. Her name is Jacqueline. She is ten years old, and she's just gotten a diagnosis of scoliosis. Now, Jax is a dancer, she's a gymnast, she's an actress. She's actually a really good actress and singer. And she is involved in the youth theater that I do a lot of charity work with. And I've recently started mentoring her in the last, say, six months or so. And she just found out that she has scoliosis and will have to wear a braid race for two years.

Now. She's at this impressionable age. She's at the age that I was at when I started experiencing bullying and kids starting to really tease me and be mean to me and for no reason. And I just thought, like, man, this poor, sweet girl, like, how is she ever going to deal with wearing a brace every single day at this young age? And, you know, she looked at her mom and she was like, mom, don't worry, it's going to be okay. I've got this. And she just, like, has this resilience and this attitude where, like, nothing will hold her down, nothing at all.

She is determining the path for herself. She is choosing positivity. She is choosing that no matter what happens, no matter if she has to wear this brace for two years straight, she is going to make her dreams come true. And she's such a great reminder that you have the power in your thoughts, in your brain, in your mind to determine any outcome. Now, there's always gonna be bumps in the road, physical bumps in the road, things that happen. But if you can keep your mindset on that path of making the journey your own and visualizing yourself at the end of your story, nothing can get in your way.

So in order to manifest and stay on the track of my big goals, here are the things that I do. Number one, I journal. Obviously, you know that the 2002 journal is living proof. I'm still journaling to this day. I try to do it daily. I will say I sometimes epically fail at that. But it's always in practice for me and it's always there for me if I want to put it down and come back to it. Put it down and come back to it. And yes, Katie's saying it is hard at times when you are in a dark place. I could not agree with that more.

I could not agree with that more. And this is where, like, that self resilience and that self belief really comes into play. Like, if you let the dark times overpower your mind, it can be a downward spiral. And it is constant work just like anything else. The mental work and the mental resilience is just as important as the physical work, like with Jax and her brace. So, yeah, you're so right on, Katie. And to stay mentally tuned in to your big dreams and to stay mentally on track, it takes work.

It takes daily, minute by minute work. But I think that if you can stay in that place mentally and you can tell yourself mentally, like, this is where, this is the track I need to be on in order to achieve what it is. I'm not going to let anything get in my way. Okay. You have to mentally train yourself when you get up in the morning. Today is going to be a great day. This is my dream for today. This is my dream for my life. These are my big goals. I am going to stay on track as nothing is going to get in my way.

So journaling is a form of manifesting. So that's another thing that I do. I write down future gratitude. And I've talked about this before, the things that I'm grateful for that haven't happened yet. That to me, is a form of dreaming. Dreaming so big that I have already written down that I'm grateful for something that has happened that hasn't actually happened yet. Journaling and manifesting, it's a way of putting it out into the universe that you believe in that you believe in that. And so story end for yourself and nothing is going to get in your way.

The other thing I do in order to make my big dreams come true, and this is a really important one. So listen up. Listen up. This is so huge. Put yourself in the room. Show up. Put yourself in the room where you believe that you belong with the people that you believe are doing the same things that you want to achieve. The people who have the same big thinking mind that you have, the people who are accomplishing things that you think are so unbelievable, but they're going out and doing it. And if they haven't done it yet, they're working toward it.

So find those people and put yourself in the room with them. Now, you might not be able to get in the physical room with them, but put yourself in a digital room with them and put yourself in the same mindset that they are putting themselves in. We are one click, one follow, one connection away from the same types of people that we want to be. So put yourself in the room with those people. And the last thing is to take risks. I looked back at letters and notes, and I save everything from people that say encouraging words to me.

Sometimes I just want to reference them at a time in my life when I overcame something or I persevered through something or I accomplished something, if somebody congratulates me or cheers me on, I save that note and I refer back to it all the time. And I can't tell you how many notes and how many cards and handwritten letters to me said, you are a risk taker, and I treasure that about you. I have lived my life by a series of risks that I have taken. I have never backed down from an opportunity.

When somebody says, let's move across the country. I've never been there before, but let's go. Do you want this job? 100% I'm going to take that job. I know nothing about it, but I'm going to take the risk. And always on the other side of it is some kind of reward or some kind of lesson. So take risks, because you will never achieve your big dreams, no matter how big or small they are. Any kind of dream without taking risks, opportunities, chances, and throwing yourself out there, throw be the spaghetti and stick to the wall, because you just never know what might happen for you.

And with that, I will leave you with this. Quick that author and writer Roy Bennett said. He said, dreams don't work unless you take action. Dreams don't work unless you take action. So I fully encourage you to do some deep thinking about the big dreams that you want to achieve. Ask yourself, how am I taking action? What am I doing to work toward my big goals? What am I writing down? How am I putting myself in the room? Am I even leaving my house? Am I putting myself in the same space as people who are doing the things that I want to do?

Am I living in a city where a company is home based that I want to work for? Am I throwing myself out there on social media and engaging with people so they see my name? I'm doing something really scary. This year, I'm launching a podcast. It's something I've been thinking about for a long time, and I've been fearful about whether or not I'll be a good interviewer. And what I realized was I just have to be myself. If there's one thing that being here at Cadre has taught me, it's that people want my authenticity.

They want me to be me. They're here because they enjoy people keeping it real. So I decided that because of Cadre, I have the courage to go after something that I have been so fearful about for so long, because this group gives me that power. They hold space for me to be my authentic self. So I'm going to show up on that podcast, whether I have five listeners or 5 million listeners, and I'm just going to be me, and I'm just going to ask questions that I am genuinely interested in learning about and getting to know people in a way that I think the world will want to get to know them.

I'm going to ask those kinds of questions and have conversation. Am I a little bit scared and nervous? 100,000%. But it doesn't matter because I won't know unless I try. And if it's a failure, great. Amazing. I learned. Maybe I'm supposed to have a tv show instead. Whatever it is, whatever it is, I'm going to learn something from it, and it's going to be great, and it's going to be an incredible experience. And I think if you can just go into achieving your big dreams with that mindset, that you're always going to learn something, you're always going to get better, you're always going to fail forward, or maybe you're going to have massive and wild success that exceed your big dreams.

So I encourage you to think about how you're taking action and then take that action. Dreams don't work unless you take action. So on national make your dream come true day, tell me in the chat whether you get a chance to watch this live and car jazz. Thank you. Thanks for the thumbs up. Glad you're here. So good to see you. Tell me in the comments. Tell me in the chat. Pop onto our Instagram. Pop onto the community feed. Forget about Instagram right now. Go to the community feed. Engage. Tell me what you liked about this and just, you know, really work toward believing in yourself, because at the end of the day, that is the power that you hold, and you are responsible for taking the action and making your big dreams come true.

So happy weekend. Happy Friday. m. Unless this schedule changes, sometimes things come up. m. Mountain standard time. So love you all. Thank you for being here and just so grateful, beyond grateful to have this community. So good pep talk. Thank you. Let's go. I'm so jazzed. 2023. Like, don't even mess with me. 2023. I am so jazzed about this year. I am, like, all in on my wellness, like, all in on no alcohol, all in on exercise, all in on self care, food prep. Like, I am not backing down this year.

I've really realized over the last month or so how precious this life is, and I've always had that in my mind. But don't forget, like, you have one, one short life. So if you aren't working toward your big dreams, what is it all for? So I love you guys. Have a great weekend. Thank you for being here.