Make Your Dreams Come True!

All right, I think we might be on here. Good morning. I was about a minute late to this live stream because coffee, when you, like, hit that, like, second cup phase and you're like, or stage and you're like, am I gonna do this? Am I going for this, like, second one? And you're like, yeah, I have to. I will. I will stop at nothing for this second cup of coffee. Good morning. Good morning. We are live. It's Friday. I say that every time. I love it. I love Fridays because I get to talk about making your dreams come true.

And a lot has been happening in my life around this subject. So. So I just love talking about it because it makes me so happy. And I also feel like it's just relevant to my life right now. And I've spent a lot of my years working on my big dreams. And I think that when you reach your forties and you're like, I'm still working on this, you start to ask yourself some questions, like, now, when am I going to start to see some of the fruits of my labor? What's the vibe here? Where are these big dreams going?

Are they just out there in the stratosphere? But I think it's also the point in time where you start to see some of those full circle moments kind of come back into your life, like, or come into your life and help you realize that there is a plan for everything and just keep putting in the work. So that's the, the topic of conversation that I want to cover today is this kind of full circle moment. And what happens when your big dreams are derailed and how do you get through that? How do you overcome that?

So I want to backtrack a little bit. And I think I shared last week, if you guys tuned in, I have a company that makes fashion emergency kits for brides. And we had the opportunity to be included in this year's distinctive assets. Oscars, nominees, swag bags. And this opportunity came to us not because we budgeted thousands of dollars, but because of a relationship that I had. And it just happened to work out because really what goes around comes around. And I've spent the last couple of weeks sort of packing and prepping and getting these items ready for the top 25.

Or I guess it's 27 Oscar nominees, 26 plus Jimmy Kimmel, the host, which is so crazy. So I'm, like, writing out notes to Jimmy Kimmel and Steven Spielberg and, like, Angela Bassett. I mean, it's just crazy. And one of the actors that is nominated this year, you may recognize him from his youth in the movie Indiana Jones and the temple of to the young kiddo that helps Indiana on his journey. His name is Ki Hui kwan, and he actually was featured on the CB's Sunday morning show, which is one of my all time favorite shows, if you like interesting and often uplifting media that covers really unique subjects and really cool people and shows a side of them that you would never expect.

You should tune into this show on Sunday mornings. But I saw him on the show and I was like, wait a second. I recognize that name from the Oscar swag bags that we're packing and didn't put two and two together, who he was. And he said this beautiful quote on his interview because he hasn't gotten a job. He has not been hired for a movie in something like 16 years. And now he is nominated for an Oscar and he just won a SAG award. And he was smiling throughout this entire interview, even talking about the hardships that he had trying to get a job, going in for roles and auditions and getting denied left and right.

And I can't imagine the life of an actor is an easy road. You know, I think they're always under the, under the spotlight and under scrutiny, but also just a lot of rejection, right? Like, it's very hard. We sit back here as audience members or viewers of their work and, you know, we sit behind a screen and maybe we might make a judgment about their life or say they did a terrible job in that role or whatever it might be. Or maybe it's, they did an amazing job, but we don't know what it took to get there for them.

And we don't know the kind of effort and long hours it takes sitting on set and waiting for your scene to be acted out. And just a lot of work goes into filmmaking. And like, every job, right, there's a lot of behind the scenes work that we don't see. And he just talked about this journey and how hard it was and how much rejection he felt. And I really thought about that, like, man, this guy, here we are all these years later. He was like, I don't know, maybe seven or something when he made that movie.

And now he's in his forties. I think this guy pursued his career day after day, year after year, never landing any other roles. And now he's up for a best actor nomination for an Oscar. And he said this, quote, a full life is a life full of ups and downs. And I just thought to myself, man, ain't that the truth? What kind of life are you living if you're going like this if you're coasting. My friend coach Dar said it last night at her book release party, and I'll get to her in a second, but if you're coasting, you're flatlining.

We want to see a heartbeat in life. This is what we look for when we're looking for the heartbeat. Up, down, up, down. Up, down, up, down. That is a full life. That is a life that's being lived. That is a life that's learning, growing, overcoming, failing. Forward. And when he said that quote, it resonated with me. And I whipped out my phone and I took out my notes, and I wrote down the quote immediately. And then when I went out to pack these Oscars bags for these actors, I came to his and I wrote a personal note on his card that said, a life full of.

A full life is a life full of ups and downs. You. You said that. And I quoted him to him, and I told him, your story is inspiring. Your perseverance moves me. Congratulations. And I just really got to thinking, like, this dream of his, maybe at one point he thought it was derailed, but what I realized was his dream was just delayed. His dream was just delayed. But he did not stop working toward that big goal and that big dream, that job he always wanted, that role he was waiting for, it was waiting for him.

And he said in the interview, he wouldn't change one thing about his past. He wouldn't go back and take any of the roles he was rejected for, because look where it landed him now. The universe had a bigger plan for him to do something huge. And it made me realize that if you keep dreaming and you keep visualizing and you keep pushing forward, you are working towards something. You might feel derailed, but it's just slightly delayed. And there's a reason for that. There is a reason for all of the time that it takes.

There's a reason we wait for the right person to come into our life, to share it with. There's a reason for everything. And if you can start seeing things as just a slight delay instead of a derailment, it might keep you pushing further and further toward your big goals. One more thing I want to say is my friend coach Dart released her book called the Art of bouncing Back. She's a client of mine. I actually dressed her for the back cover. Really exciting. And I went to her book release party last night, and it was just incredibly moving and inspiring.

She has been working on this book for a really long time. And not only that, she has suffered her own setbacks with three strokes, starting at the age of 25. She's in her forties now, and she about. Sorry, my phone. There we go. She talked last night about these setbacks that she had and how she never let it derail her from her big dream of finishing this book. And I was just so proud and so honored to be in the room during that time. And I just. I wanted to share that with you, too. If you are looking for a book about bouncing back and how to find the grit and the perseverance and to embrace the suck, which is one of her chapters in the book, one of her principles, I encourage you to grab that book and check it out and help get you beyond this feeling of derailment and just to get to that place where your big dreams seem like more of a reality.

So, anyway, I hope that this inspires you guys. I just really had it on my heart. I've found myself lately around these big, overwhelming messages of dreaming big, the people who are getting their opportunity and their chance because they never gave up. So I hope that that serves as inspiration for you. And share with me in the community feed what you're working on and how we can support you at Cadre. And I'm always cheering you guys on. So I hope you have the best weekend, and I will see you back here.

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