Well Behaved Women Rarely Make History

Hey, Cadre fam. Lucky to be alive today. Excited to join this live stream with you guys. I'm gonna try to get through it without coughing. I'm not. Did you know they make lavender flavored Vicks vapor rub? I bought that today, put it all on my chest, and then thought, oh, that's gonna smell so nice. And then remembered, I can't smell anything right now, so. Kind of defeats the purpose of buying the one with the lavender in it. But nonetheless, I'm sure I smell good to nobody else in my apartment right now because I live alone.

But anyway, let's get started on our topic today. I have a lot to talk about with well behaved women. Rarely make history. One of my all time favorite heroines from history in celebrating women's History month in March, here, we're going to talk about Harriet Tubman. I have loved this woman since I was a kid. I came across her in, like, a. I think it was a middle school history class or something when we had to research someone, and I was just engrossed with her life and her mission and how strongly she felt about what she went after in life.

It was the coolest thing to read about her, and I actually got to dress up as her, an acting character at an event in middle school, which was super fun. But she's just, to me, one of the most remarkable women in history because she was born into a lifestyle of slavery, and a lot of people who are born into a lifestyle sometimes just kind of give in to that lifestyle. They're like, well, these are the cards I was dealt, and this is the life I've been given, and I'll do the best that I can. And they get into, like, very much self preservation mode, especially when you're in a really horrible situation.

But she said no. She said no. I'm not agreeing with this lifestyle that I was born into, and I'm actually going to help save other people. And she felt so strongly about her mission that she made contacts with tons of people. She was a really good networker. She was really good at sales. She was really good at self defense. And she got 70 people to freedom. The numbers are skewed in the data, but from the research I've done on her, it was 70. But even if she'd gotten one or herself to freedom, that's a pretty remarkable thing in history.

But what I love so much about her is the grit and resiliency and the fact that she just said, no. I believe in this, and so I'm going after it, and she broke all the rules. Like, she broke every rule to do this and didn't care about the rules. And people who know me think that I'm a rule follower. I am actually not a rule follower. I am a rule follower when the rules make sense, believe it or not. So I was thinking back to some times when I've, like, channeled my inner Harriet tubman of when I broke the rules, and it didn't always turn out well for me, I'm gonna be honest.

But I always have remembered her throughout life when I have decided to break a rule. Because I say to myself, at the end of the day, I have to go to sleep with me, right? Like, I have to put my head down and sleep, and am I going to be okay with this? That I have broken this rule that somebody established, and am I going to be okay with that, breaking that rule? And so, one I can think about in particular, that ended so badly, but I still, to this day, stand by what I did. I actually didn't break a rule, but I.

I have a couple examples I'll share. The one that ended up so badly. So I worked on a unit, and as a nursing assistant, I was two weeks on the job, and the patient that came up from the ER to our unit had been, um, was there because he attempted to end his life. And he had a suicide note in his belongings. And the nurse that, you know, took him, he was. He was, you know, conscious, but not found the note and took it out to the nurse's station and started reading it out loud. And I felt so convicted that this was wrong and morally wrong that I called the anonymous hotline and said, I'm really not okay with what's happening.

And long story short, I was ridiculed. They found out it was me. I was singled out. I was eventually kind of asked to leave the unit as a staff member. The manager sided with the nurse, long story short. But I did what I felt was right, even though I usurped her leadership in that moment and, like, went straight to the top and said, I don't think this is okay. Another example I can give you is a time when I actually asked somebody at the hospital to do something that was against the rules because it was the best thing for the patient.

I've done that a couple times, and I'm somebody who actually used to write rules for hospitals. Oh, junk food junkie. Thanks for joining. Thanks for tuning in today. So if you are somebody that always follows the rules, I am not saying that that's bad, but what I am saying is if you're given an opportunity to do the right thing, and sometimes that means breaking a rule. Remember the people in history that have done it. Remember the Harriet Tubman's, remember the Rosa Parks? She's another phenomenal example of a woman that just said no, flat out no.

I'm not doing that because I don't believe in it. You have to dig down deep and really decide, if I believe so strongly in something, then I'm willing to put my job on the line. I'm willing to put my reputation on the line. I've done that a few times. And know at the end of the day that there are people who see you. There's people up there who see you. There's people around you who are watching you. They're watching your actions. And that speaks more to someone than somebody who follows the rules and puts their head down and does what they're supposed to do.

And just remember, if you do something so noteworthy against the rules, you, you might actually make it into a history book like Harriet Tubman. Because those people, they didn't follow the rules, but yet we talk about them to this day because they were that inspirational to us. As somebody who said, I don't believe in this and I'm going to stand up for what I actually believe in. So that's the wisdom I wanted to share with you guys today. Thank you for tuning in with me. Yes, I agree with you, jungkook junkie.

Some rules are meant to break if it's not in the best interest of everyone else. Yes, totally, totally true. So thank you, guys. Love you all. God bless.