Dr. Carrie describes the worst experience she ever had with being judged by others, and the invites the listener to delineate between judgment and the fear of judgment.
Cadre family doctor Carrie: Tell me about a time when you were judged. Carrie: I was definitely judged in middle school after my suicide attempt. She says the only thing that got her through that experience was reminding herself that their opinions don't matter. Carrie wants you to focus on the truth today.
Hey, Cadre family doctor Carrie here. Somebody recently asked me this question. Tell me about a time when you were judged. And to be honest, I had to think of it for this, because I think most of my life, I have feared judgment, but maybe not actually been judged as many times as I thought I was being judged. But then I remembered back to middle school after my suicide attempt, how that experience went, and I was definitely judged. I ended up overdosing on pills and had to go to inpatient psychiatry for a while and missed about a week of school.
And when I came back to school, it was. It was not. Not the warm welcome I was hoping for from my peers, from teachers. My locker had been ripped open. The lock had been cut. They went through all of my stuff. People knew about it. People heard about it. People had come up with a lot of jokes about it. And I felt like when I walked down the hall, I just had stares, like, there she goes. There's that girl that did that. And it was probably the most profound experience I've ever had in my life. When I was judged.
And most people didn't know the circumstance. They didn't know the story. They didn't know that I'd been struggling with depression for a long time, and I'd been seeking treatment. I'd been on medications. And there was just one day that I was pushed over the edge. But it was the hardest thing I think I've ever dealt with in life when it comes to judgment. Because when you have a bunch of your peers talking about you, whispering, snickering, pointing, it's about the worst kind of judgment you can ever experience in life, especially as a kid.
I mean, you know what those teenage years were like. Junior high is the worst. It's the worst. But when I think back to that experience, the only thing that got me through that time of judgment was reminding myself that their opinions don't matter. And I know the truth about the story. There were lots of rumors that were started. I mean, you name it, they probably came up with a story about it. But just remembering what is the actual truth and being confident in the fact that I knew the actual truth, and I knew who my people were that actually supported me and who were there for me in that time of judgment, that intense judgment that I experienced.
And so if you're experiencing something like that today, if you, like, have people pointing at you, talking about you, whether it's perceived or real, I want you to focus on the truth. Focus on the truth about who you are. Focus on the truth about the situation and walk confidently into those rooms of people that judge you. Because a lot of times, judgments happen because people don't know the truth and they make up stories. But the people that do know the truth know who you are, and they know who the true version of you is.
And that's the truth I want you to focus on today. So if you've been judged, if you've been in a place like that, I want to just say, I'm sorry. I know what it feels like. But I want you to walk and hold your head high, knowing that you are a beautifully created human and you have a purpose on this earth. Earth. So thanks for tuning in with me today. God bless.
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