How To Start Seeing Rejection as Redirection

Hello, Cadre fam. What's going on? Cadre crew, Jill and Mary here, your social emotional learning experts, and we help develop people in their emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence. Oof. EQ things like self confidence, self awareness, self esteem, all three things that can be totally beat down, dragged through the streets when we get rejected. Oh, that's what we want to talk about today. So how many of you have been rejected in your life? Two hands. Maybe it was two hands last week, maybe it was yesterday.

But all of us sitting here watching this video, a part of this conversation, has once been rejected. Second question, follow up question. How many of you love to get rejected? Not as many hands went up, but we want to throw a little perspective shift out at you. We have really worked at, and I want to say that worked at liking to get rejected. And that sounds like liking to cold plunge. Nobody really likes to cold plunge as much as a buzzword as it is right now. As much as a thing as it is right now to cold plunge.

Nobody really likes to do it, but what they like is the benefits. So it's almost like short term gratification versus long term gratification. Rejection is either redirection, it's sending you in a direction that you should be going, or protection, keeping you from something that you shouldn't have been involved in in the first place. So it's taken a lot of work, it's taken a lot of practice for us to enjoy rejection, because what that makes us do is go back to the drawing board and come up with another solution to get to the outcome we want to get to.

And make no mistake about it, that outcome that we expect to have happen might totally change from getting rejected. One thing that we love to teach on, one thing that we really love to coach on, is the concept that if it's not the front door, how many of you have ever tried to open a locked door? Like, you're going full force at it. You think it's gonna open. Boom. Whoa. It's startling, right? It doesn't move. It is. It's very jolting. We always love to say, if it's not the front door, it's the back door, and if it's not the back door, there's probably a window.

But in recalculating your route, things will probably change in a way that you didn't expect them to. And that's what we want to highlight today. It is a mindset. It's a perspective switch. So when you go after that promotion that you feel like you are the best candidate for, and you don't get the job. That feeling afterwards of taking that blow to the ego, it's. It's hard. You feel like you are not enough, and then that not enoughness can totally wreck the rest of your day. It could wreck the relationships or the people that you interact with in that day could bleed into the next day or into the next week.

And as opposed to you staying in that mindset of I'm not enough, you get to pause and think about, it's almost like looking at your life like you, like your life is a rolodex. We want you, then, to challenge that thought about, okay, well, look at all the things that I've actually accomplished to bust that myth of I'm not enough. So that you can see that this rejection was an opportunity, another opportunity for you to figure out what is next. Really. You can use your rejection as fuel, which is hard.

We've pointed out so many reasons as to why it's hard, but we know that you're not here watching this video and partaking in this conversation to do things that are easy, because the concept of doing things that are easy, breeding things that are hard later on, we want to flip that. Do things that are hard now because it makes things easy for you later. So, embrace that rejection. Ask questions about why you didn't get the job, what you could have done better. So you can continually refine who you are to make the product that you're presenting, the best product possible moving forward, because we're here to tell you, when it's right, it's right.

When it's right, it's right. So, this is the challenge to you, is, okay, how do we look at rejection as a gift? It is a gift. And I know that's probably hard to hear right now, but it is defining. It's redefining who you are. It's building your character. It's building your resilience for you to do the next thing. And what we know, because we're just like you on so many levels. Yes, we are. Is that there's always a reason you might not understand the reason for the rejection as soon as you'd like.

It's not gonna necessarily pop up tomorrow. It might. In certain, in certain circumstances, it might. But in ten years from now, when you look back at what you were rejected from, you will understand why you were rejected from it based on what you're currently doing. That has led you, the rejection led you to what you're currently doing, whether it was offshoot after offshoot after offshoot, it started with that rejection. So keep that in mind. That long term gratification. That rejection is meant for you.

It's not happening to you. It's happening for you. Okay? So. Got this. Go off. Have a great day. Understand that you are incredible, regardless of what other people see in you right now. And you are a world changer. You got this.