How to Emerge as the Best Version of You

Hi, Cadre family, Arisa Costas here, your style and confidence coach and the person who brings you all of the ways to help make your dreams come true here on the app. And I've been thinking a lot lately about being the change that you want to see and stepping into a leadership role, even when it feels really uncomfortable. And I wanted to give you the rundown of the things that I've been experiencing just in stepping into the highest version of myself and the version of myself that I was always a little bit scared to become in thinking what other people might feel threatened by or what they may feel uncomfortable with.

Because when people watch somebody else stepping into their greatest purpose, it can feel really intimidating. And I think that's an important conversation to have. And as I have been experiencing this in my career and throughout my years of being an entrepreneur, a business owner, and a leader in my community, I thought I should bring you some of my tips and tricks for how to navigate the landscape of stepping into the greatest version of yourself and really living out that meaningful, purposeful life that you are meant to live.

So one of the things I want to share with you is it's okay to feel nervous about how other people might view you while you are stepping up and turning into this version of yourself that you've always believed that you could be. If other people aren't comfortable with it, it just means you are serving as a mirror for them and they are watching something unfold that they wish that they had the courage to step into. So I want you to know that it's okay if people don't react the way that you might want them to and how they feel about it.

What they think about it does not matter. So the first thing I always like to say is, cut the noise. Don't worry about how it makes somebody else feel when you are evolving into the butterfly that you are meant to become. Cut that noise. Don't worry about the outside opinions, thoughts and feelings of other people who aren't ready to take that phase. Step into that phase, take those steps and become the greatest version of themselves. The second thing I want you to think about is never sacrifice your authenticity.

Never sacrifice who you are in the room and make yourself small so other people can feel bigger. I'm going to say that again. Never sacrifice who you are and never sacrifice your authenticity just to make somebody else feel better about the fact that they're not ready to grow into that person that you are ready to grow into. So don't ever show up inauthentically and take yourself on the track of being the greatest leader and the greatest person who walks into a room and takes up space. Space and is the biggest, brightest version of themselves.

I've been in that position before. I've made myself small. I thought that that's how I would feel well liked or be well liked by people in the room if I allowed them to be bigger and shine bigger when I knew that I was suppressing something really great and really big inside of me. So cut the noise, and don't ever suppress who you are inside and who you were meant to be. And the last thing I want to mention just about stepping into this greatest version of yourself is just to be unapologetic. Be unapologetic when you make mistakes.

Be unapologetic when you have ideas. Just say, you know what? This happened or this was the idea that I had, and I'm not going to apologize for it. Of course, if you make a mistake and you hurt someone, that's different. But what I'm saying is, make those mistakes, fail forward and learn from them, and just be unapologetic when you make your moves. And by unapologetic, I mean don't be scared about the outcome. Just take the risk, take the chance. You never know what's waiting on the other side of fear for you.

So if you can just move through it without any hesitation, you're going to emerge as the version of yourself that you envisioned. So think about that the next time that you are setting the tone for what leadership should look like in the room. And when you are paving your own way to be the most courageous, brightest version of yourself in the room, don't worry about what's happening around you. Stay on your path. Be fearless, and really envision yourself there. Envision yourself at the end of the road.

What does that look like for you? And don't worry about what other people are doing. The minute that you can just put blinders on, put the proverbial blinders on and stay the course, you will become the leader that you were always meant to be. So I encourage you to think about the ways that maybe you have been being small or the influence that other people may have had on you that have stopped you, that has stopped you from making the bold moves that you've been wanting to make. Think about those things, write them down, and start crossing them off your list.

When you start becoming fearless, the goal is to move through those, recognize them, and then start ticking them off your list so you can step into that version of yourself that you've always wanted to be. I can't wait to hear about the success you have with it. Good luck. Thanks for tuning in.