Monday Motivation

Happy Monday Cadre crew. Hope everybody had a dynamic weekend. Let's give it one second here and make sure the little Cadre dot beeps and once we know that we're live, we're good to go. I had an awesome weekend. We had 4th grade basketball tournament all weekend. It was remarkable. My little son Drew played so hard. They played their hearts out. It was a fantastic weekend. It was absolutely dynamic. But yeah, if somebody could comment, just make sure that this is working. That would be great. That you got received the notification and we're good to go.

Give it one more second. There you are. All right. So we got, I just want to make sure that it was working and everything was going through. Dressing up a little dapper today. How you like that? But who would have thought that losing a tennis match in the most pivotal, impressionable days of my life would churn out ultimately to be one of the greatest things that's ever happened to me in my life. Okay? So let me explain this to you. I grew up loving tennis. I think I talked about this early on a different live stream.

I love the smell of the ball. I love the sound when you dribble the ball on the tennis court. Everything about tennis is still to this day, brought me so much joy in my life, whether it's watching or playing or participating, you name it. But I made our varsity squad in Hutchinson, Minnesota, when I was in 7th grade, playing four singles, let's go. And then in 8th grade, you know, continued to work my way up, sometimes doubles, sometimes singles, you know, kind of wherever the coach wanted me. But I took a good leap of faith, a big leap, Well, my coach took a big leap of faith on me, and I took a big leap in my progression, right?

In ninth grade, I played number one singles for our team. And the previous year, in eighth grade, we lost 4-3 to Buffalo to go to state, right? I still won my match, but we lost 4-3. But I wanna take you to my freshman year, 15 years old, And we were playing again, Buffalo just won the section title the week before, excuse me, the year before. And now we're playing them again at our home, right, in Hutchinson, Minnesota. We had so many people that were watching. It was probably 3, 400 people somewhere around that ballpark that was at our tennis match because we always, Hutchinson has always had this pretty big tennis community, which has been great, you know, as previous state champions and such like that.

So And growing up in 7th and 8th grade, this was just kind of my calling to look up to these guys that were on the tennis team when I was young on the bus and etc. But now I had the chance in 9th grade, if you don't know tennis, it's ultimately there's four tennis matches that are singles and three tennis matches that are doubles. So it's the first one to four. When you get to four, you win, right? So you win the match. But each individual has their own match, right? Like so one singles plays two singles, 3 singles, 4 singles, one singles, excuse me, one doubles, 2 doubles, 3 doubles, right?

So I was playing one singles for a team as a freshman. And I played there, they had a foreign exchange student, Thomas Angel, A-N-G-E-L-L. And Again, freshman, I was the big match. We were kind of figuring like where things would go and we figured it would be like a 3-4, 4-3 type of match. Well, who would have known that there I am as a freshman, the last match that's on, everybody else is done and the score is tied 3-3. I'm 15 years old. I'm playing a senior. from the other school, whoever wins this match, section finals, right?

Whoever wins this match goes on to the state. And sweet little Luki boy here, 15 years old, I lost that match, 7-6, 8-6 in a tiebreaker, 7-6, 7-5 in a tiebreaker. And it was, I was devastated. I was absolutely, utterly devastated. I let my team down. like all the previous alumni that were there down. I let those sophomores, juniors, and seniors that I've been looking up to since I was young, I let them all down. And it was one of the hardest moments that I've ever had to live through, right? To 3-3, I'm the last one out there, everybody's cheering for you, Buffalo fans are cheering, Hutchinson fans are cheering, and you lose.

to ultimately, drop the tennis match 4-3. And it was a crazy 24 hours, right, where I was, I felt down, I felt defeated. I had a lot of individuals on the left, telling me what I mean by on the left is, it's okay, you tried your hardest, we got next year, all those other things, right? And on the right, I had one person And I mean, one person tell me something very differently. And I remember being at his house. I remember sitting for dinner and he was at the match, right? He was a doctor in town that was a really close family friend of ours.

He means everything to me. And he said to me, he goes, you know, there's a lot of tennis matches that you can lose. This wasn't one of them. I was like, whoa, right? I mean, 24, 48 hours later, right? Like, this was one that you just can't lose. He's like, they needed you. And he let them down. I had one person out of hundreds of people, like, give me that advice. And I knew, I knew next year that I was going to be in a position as a sophomore to make a big impact and a difference for our team. So do you want to know what that did?

It lit a fire under my ass. And I guarantee you. from 15 to 16 in the summer of, or summer year of, gosh, would it be, help me out here, 97, 96, 97, that nobody played more tennis in the state of Minnesota than me. I promise you that. I guarantee there's not a human being in the state of Minnesota that hit as many tennis balls, that conditioned as much. I guarantee I played three to four hours a day in the summer. I guarantee you that nobody Nobody played as much as me. I came back my sophomore year, again, still played one singles.

I came back, state ranked top 10 player in the state, all the other things. I buzz saw through people. I absolutely buzz saw. I came back with a fire and a spark and it's all because of those words he said. That wasn't a match that you could have lost, right? And I came back next year. We played Buffalo in the final, my birthday. May 27th, my sweet 16, right? This is a true story. My birthday, the sweet 16. I'm sitting there, right? I'm ready to go. I couldn't wait for this match. I've been thinking about it.

We get to the state, the section finals. We have Buffalo. Hutchinson plays Buffalo, right? Hutchinson plays Buffalo. We're here. We're at the finals. I could guarantee you when I shook that guy's hand, because what ended up happening is like all of your team lines up and they say first singles from so-and-so from first singles, right? And you go up and you shake their hand and he looked at me in the eye and I looked him in the eye and he knew it was over before that match started. You can go back.

I have the receipts to prove it. I won that match 6-0, 6-0, and I guarantee less than 40 minutes. True story. 6-0, 6-0, I've won that match in less than like 30, 40 minutes. And then the rest of the time when I was there, I was cheering on my teammates. I was bringing it for those individuals that I let down the year before. I was the person that was going court to court to court. And I would absolutely light those guys up. Like, come on, we got this. To the people that, I let down the year before, right?

To the Michael Bierlins of the world, the Steve Schuffs, Mike Mallicks, Castle, all these guys that I looked up to that were my guys, like I wanted to show them that nobody was gonna touch me that year. And I did, right? went on to do wonderful things. So we won 5-2 and we beat the arrival that we lost to two years in a row. And I think I went and I set the tone for our entire team. So what I'm trying to tell you today is this. There will be disappointments in your life. You will let people down.

You will be frustrated. Things will happen to you. Things will happen to your children. Things will happen to your friends, all those other things. And you can be the friend on the left-hand side that says, oh, it's okay. Life's gonna be fine. You did your best, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Or you can be the one person that's on the right that actually is gonna tell the truth on how you feel or how you feel in that moment. And you never know what that might do to somebody. And I promise you, if everybody else, even including him, would have said the exact same thing to me on the left-hand side, I don't know if I would have came back with the same intensity, the same fury, the same energy, the same drive, the same excitement.

So I'm encouraging you today. There is the right time to support and bring people up, right? Like he, I know he loves me more than anything in the world. But he also needed to tell me that because he knew that I had three unbelievable years left and he wanted to push to have me push the envelope, which I did. Would I have went on to three consecutive state titles? Would I would have, no, I guarantee I would not have. Would I have went on to play college tennis? Would I would have went on, who knows?

My life could have been very, very, very different. But in that moment, Somebody spoke to me and hit me with what I needed to hear, which was, there's a lot of tennis matches you can lose. Yesterday wasn't one of them. I have a feeling that there's people in your lives that are looking for, maybe it's the sympathy way out, maybe it's the the whatever, and the touchy-feely on this side. But I would encourage you to be the one that lights a fire in some people's eyes too. Telling people what they want to hear, being the individual in their life where you always know that you're the supportive crutch or you're the shoulder to cry on and all those other things.

Flip the script once and let's just, I dare you to see what that does in the norm. I dare you. I dare you to see what that does. So I encourage you today to take this story and see the next time in your life when somebody's down, somebody's sad, somebody's those things. And instead of saying it's okay to be sad, it's okay to be down, it's okay to be hurt, to actually say, Flip the script on your attitude. Change it. Let's go. Right? Like you can sit here and mope all you want for the next year. You can come in and you can light it up.

What are you gonna choose? Which one are you gonna choose? Be that person of people. You never know what it might mean in their lives. So I encourage you to take that story, bring it with, change somebody's life, you will. At Cadre, we have an unbelievable thing brewing here. Unbelievable thing brewing here. What great words. But we have an unbelievable community brewing here. We have almost 1000 people on our platform. We have now partnered with three, four businesses that are starting to roll out and be a part of our community internally within the cadre confines of our walls, which hell, we don't have walls.

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Have an amazing dynamic week, and just remember, you're going to lose that match too someday. What are you going to choose to do? I got up off the canvas and I said, let's go. All right, you will too. Have an amazing day. Bye-bye. Take care, y'all.