JC reflects on self-care for men while sharing a recent microneedling experience, discussing the importance of seeking medical and wellness care, accepting help, and normalizing practices like facials, massages, and checkups.
JC opens with casual greetings, introduces himself, and notes his busy schedule. He explains he deliberately books activities that support his upkeep and sets the context for a conversation about self-care.
JC discloses several chronic health issues that affect collagen production and describes why doctors recommended microneedling. He explains what microneedling is, how it works, and mentions the treatment's spa-like cultural perception while asking the provider about male clients.
JC points out the low percentage of male spa clients and stresses that men need to take care of themselves. He gives concrete examples of care actions that may feel courageous for men, like getting massages, facials, colonoscopies, admitting limits, or sharing feelings.
JC emphasizes that being nourished allows you to nourish others and reflects on how culture uses shame and guilt—especially aimed at women—to drive wellness behaviors. He contrasts that by noting many women still choose to nourish themselves and grow despite the pressure.
JC directly invites male-identifying viewers to prioritize their care and encourages others to support the men in their lives. He closes with a humorous aside about his treated face and a brief goodbye.
Hey, Cadre, how are we doing on this Tuesday? I almost said Wednesday. I almost said Thursday. I had to think about what I did yesterday. It is Tuesday, my friends. My name is JC. If you've never shared time and space together before, thank you for the opportunity to spend some time with you right now. Hey, Emily, nice to see you, my friend. I'm glad I'm here. I'm glad you're here. I know the things I know and I care about you. may be going, whoa, JC, what happened to your face? I'll talk about that in a second.
I just spent an hour after a busy Monday. My Mondays are always super busy. My Tuesday mornings sometimes are a little less busy. But even when they are busy, I always try to book things that are good for my upkeep in this life that I get to live. A few years ago I was diagnosed with some chronic stuff. some sleep stuff, some neurological stuff, some colorectal stuff that because of the sleep stuff, mainly it messes with collagen project production in my body. So I will appear to age faster than I normally would.
So something that the doctors have suggested is that I get some micro needling done, which helps to spur on collagen production. Now microneedling, you poke little needles in your face really, really fast to spur on recovery and healing and that leads to collagen production. But it is culturally seen as, you know, something you do in the spa, something you do as peaceful, and for the most part something that You know, I asked my the person who provided the service today. I asked her, I was like, so what percentage of men are your are your clients here?
And I was, I'm like, I'm guessing somewhere between 2 and 5%. She's like, Yep, that's right. And then we started talking about, you know, she started talking about her boyfriend and how he's, you know, really hesitant to to engage in in the work that that she does. and all the things. Men, it's important to take care. It's important to do the things that invite you to understand that we are beings that need care, that need consideration, that need thought, that need time, that need rest, that need all of these things.
And what I mean by need is when we are nourished beings, we can nourish other beings. when we are learning about ourselves and considering where we need help, all of a sudden we are better at doing that for other people. And as we know, if you are a male identifying human out there, you may go and say, oh my gosh, it would take a lot of courage for me to to get a massage. It would take a lot of courage for me to get a facial. It would take a lot of courage for me to go to the doctor to get my colonoscopy.
It would take a lot of courage for me to admit that I can't do something today that I could do 10 years ago. It would take a lot of courage to share what I'm feeling or what I'm thinking even though I may not be able to put words to my feelings or my thoughts very well. And that's the point. It is important to take care. We hear it a million times and a million different analogies and a million different quips that you need to put your own mask on before others. You can't fill from an empty cup.
All the things we hear. But those things are true. And here's the deal. A lot of our culture is set up with shame and guilt as the mechanisms to get people to buy stuff and do stuff. And most of the shame and guilt in terms of the wellness world and the fitness world and the being good to yourself world is aimed at women. So what does that lead to? Women having to deal with a lot of shame and guilt, but also on the other side of that shame and guilt, women going, you know what? I am going to nourish myself.
I'm going to consider myself. I'm going to challenge myself. I'm going to expect myself to grow and to be courageous in the things that may lead to me being more, more. My invitation for you today is if you are a guy, a male identifying human in this world, to take care. If you're not, think about those male-identifying humans in your life and invite them to take care. We'll see you tomorrow. I'm gonna go through my day not acknowledging that my face looks like it just got beat up and having people go, What happened?
Maybe they'll have the courage to ask what happened and then I could tell them the same thing that I told you. Take care.
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