Make Your Dreams Come True!

Good morning. It's early in Arizona. m. I've been up for a little bit and I actually changed up what I was going to talk to you guys about. Just like what was on my heart last night. I had this like download from my brain and started taking these like vigorous notes. I changed my mind this morning because I just feel like I never know what is gonna feel relevant to talk about in terms of making your big dreams come true and happen. And I feel like it's important to talk about what's happening in my life and just share it with you guys and just tell you what's on my heart.

So I will tell you about the download I had last night really fast. I am watching that show. Welcome to Wrexham with Ryan Reynolds and Rob McElhenney, who purchased the team Wrexham. It's a very Ted lasso sort of story and I don't know like which came first, the chicken or the egg with Ted Lasso or Rexm. But I have been so inspired watching good morning junk food junkie. I just love your name so much, your handle. I've been watching this show and I am so inspired now. I mean, none of us can go out and buy a football team, a soccer team, but I am so inspired by this journey that they're taking.

And the download that I had last night was this whole like underdog mentality, right? Like there's this sense of community happening in the town of Wrexham and Ryan and Rob, their job and their goal and their mission is to keep community alive in Wrexham. And it's so interesting how much the fans weigh in on the success of the team and how much pull the fans have when it comes to making decisions about their football club. And I just like love how there's this underdog mentality and it got me thinking about where I'm at in my life and what it's like to be the underdog and what it's like to come up from behind or even have a come up or like be working on coming up.

I mean, be in like the throes of it. And if you, if you haven't watched this show, I. I recommend it just because it's done documentary style. Ryan Reynolds and Rob McElhenney are so funny and there's so much heart behind what they're trying to build and what they're trying to keep alive. And I don't know how many seasons this thing goes on. I don't even know why I started watching it. Probably because I'm a huge Ted Lasso fan. It's like, be a Ted or be a nate. I will always be a Ted in the world of kindness.

But anyway, I just wanted to tell you that story. But that isn't the premise of my life today. That is not the premise of my life. The premise of my live today was. I was just thinking yesterday, I was at a meeting with a friend and she said, do you ever feel like the universe is poking you? Like, poking. Poking the bear? Poking the bear. And I thought, tell me more. She's like, you know, you feel like you're being tested. Like, nudging you to check to make sure that you are ready for more. And I got to thinking about it, like, how many times when we've done the work and we've worked so hard to get somewhere, maybe it's therapy, maybe it's taking a break from social media, maybe it's, you know, whatever it is that we're working on and working toward and we finally get to that good place.

Like, I'm gonna. I'm gonna quit drinking and I'm gonna just, you know, I'm gonna stay out of that space and I'm not going to go around people who are drinking and I'm not going to feel tempted. I'm not even going to buy it. I'm not going to do anything. And then the universe maybe, like, throws you a little one of taps you and nudges you and tests you and puts you in a situation or puts something in front of you that will check to see if you're going to go dip your toe in last year's waters or, you know, this lake of the past, which is, you know, something I am famous for taking a deep dive in.

And I love Ted lasso. Oh, yeah. Yeah. Check it out. Welcome to Wrexham. And it's documentary, so it's on Netflix. So it's like, how many times have I done the work and then been nudged and tested and poked? And life, to me has been a series of that, right? Like, you do the work, you do the work. You're climbing up, you've done the work. You reach your spot and then something nudges you and maybe it pushes you back down. Maybe it just kind of gives you, like, a little nudge. Sometimes it's a big old hit.

Sometimes it's a shove down the mountain, right? And I realized, like, I have gone back to those old places before. I have done that. I have been triggered by things. People have triggered me. Actually. Something came up for me yesterday, somebody from my past was creeping in my stories and creeping in my social media and showed themselves there, and I couldn't. I couldn't believe it. I've done so much work to get this person out of my mind, out of my life. They were not a good person for me. And then they show up liking my stuff on social media.

It was very triggering for me. And I went to a place really fast and really hard, and I went to a place that felt really uncomfortable. And all these emotions started swirling about my past and all these things that I had worked so hard to get out of my brain. But I realized in that moment that I went there quickly, swiftly. I stayed there for maybe. Maybe a couple of hours, which in my world is like the blink of an eye, right? I hamster wheel so hard, and then I just let it go. And I realized I have the power.

It's my social media. I can block this person. I can get rid of them, and I have the power. And it also sort of, like, fueled me a little bit, whereas sometimes in the past, it might not fuel me, it might just trigger me, but it fueled me. This person never believed in my journey. They never thought I could make it. And it was a little bit of like, hmm, I see you seeing me. I see you looking at me. And it was one of those moments where I was like, I am not going to let this thrust me into the waters of the past and leave me there flailing with no life jacket, no safe depot.

Like, no, thank you. I have done too much work. And I realized that, like, every time we get that little nudge, every time we get, like, even a shove or something from the universe that says, I'm just gonna put this in front of you to see how you're doing, where you're at, what you need, what you still need to work on. Do you need to go back to therapy? Do you need to start spending more time with friends? Do you need to journal more? Do you need to keep doing the work? I'm just gonna put this in front of you, and I'm gonna test you, and it's a series of that, and it's gonna continue to happen throughout your life.

And even though you've done the work on something, it's not always going to be easy to continue to stay in the space. That takes a lot of grit and a lot of resilience and a lot of blocking out the noise. I talk about that a lot, like, cancel it all out. I have found out if we don't let go, of our past. We can't move forward with goals and dreams. Oh, it's so true. It's so true. But the universe is going to keep throwing things from your past right at you, and it's going to keep testing you, and it's going to be a series of tests.

And I think letting go of the past is sometimes a lot easier said than done. Out of sight, out of mind is always a good thing. But when those things creep back around, it's always interesting to see where you're at and how much progress you've made, and if you can stay in that place of progress. I have more notes I like to take. I take, like, tons of notes when I'm talking about these lives. So I guess, like, the point. The point of this is. The point of this is, is that the nudges and being in those spaces where you are going to be challenged and you are going to be tested, and you have no idea if you're going to be okay.

In that moment is a great opportunity to cheer for yourself and to champion yourself and to think about the progress that you've made. And you have a choice. You can either jump in last year's waters and flail, or you could maybe, like, dip your toe in and just see, like, do I. Am I gonna. Am I gonna spiral because of this? No, I don't think so. Or am I going to stay above water? Am I going to stay on the dock and watch my old self, you know, help them, maybe give them a hand, help your old self.

Pull them out of the water and take them with you into the future, because going back to that place isn't going to do you any good. It's not going to do any. Anyone any good by going backwards and watching yourself sink, because you've already done that. You already did that, and that felt terrible. And the nudges and. And the shoves from the universe or whoever is your higher power, whoever it is that might be testing you is showing you that you are strong enough and that you can come out on the other side and that whatever it is that you're working toward is worth it.

And the thing that was taking you off your course is not worth it. It is not worth stepping out of your track and going backwards and throwing yourself in the lake and not having that life vest or that lifeboat. Look at all these people joining. Let's scroll back. Okay, Luke, the problem with the world today is we care too much about what others think. Yeah, no kidding. I can talk a little bit about that. One. I mean, there was a quote I posted the other day about Reese Witherspoon saying, you're finally free when you don't care what others think.

But as a self proclaimed people pleaser, anyone, I am an empath, and I care so deeply about people, right. And I've had an incredible, incredibly hard time in my adult life separating the difference between caring about people and caring about what people think and how that might affect me. And so, yes, freedom comes in releasing what other people think, but a lot of people put their worth in what other people think. And I'm not saying that's what they should do. It's just something that we, especially as women.

And I don't want to generalize, but I do know that, you know, growing up in my house, it was, make sure, please. Thank you. Yes, ma'am. No, sir. You know, we were so polite, and all of our successes in the household were driven by how well behaved we were and how people thought we behaved. And if we were the nicest kids on the block and, you know, we were the daughters of an educator, and did we show up perfectly? And I think a lot of that comes from, you know, just your past and how you were raised.

And it's not always an easy thing to just say, I don't care what these people think, because you've only known that for so much of your life. But I think you're right. Like, the minute that you can free that, free yourself from that, you can feel just a lot of inner peace, knowing that it doesn't matter what they think. It doesn't matter. And I think if we can help teach our kids of today that, you know, you can be. Niceness and kindness are not mutually exclusive. Like you, you can still be a good person and hold firm to your boundaries.

The past is like a curveball. It comes out of nowhere. We just need to not thrive. Yeah, the past. Oh, gosh, it's like the. Like a freaking fastball. I'll tell you all the baseball terms, all the baseball metaphors. Yeah. My past hit me like a freight train yesterday. Freight train. I was like. My whole body just. I almost, like, lost feeling in my whole body. That's the kind of trigger that I felt. And the fact that I was able to come out of it in the timing that I did it means that I know that my body's doing the work, my mind is doing the work, but it comes out of nowhere.

Good morning, Jill and Mary. So, anyway, my messages to you today are to stay diligent about doing the work, whatever that means for you, whatever that means for you, know that the universe is going to continue to test you. You're going to get poked by the bear and they're going to say, I'm just going to put this person back in your life or I'm just going to put you in this situation. Just to see. Just to see if you are strengthening your mind, strengthening your boundaries, learning how to come out of these things.

And if you're ready for what's next. Because the higher you get, the further you get in your career, the more nudges, the more pokes, the more people, the more things that might trigger you. So the further along that you get in your life, the more uncomfortable people are going to be around you. So the universe or your higher power, whoever it is, is preparing you and just checking on you to make sure that you're ready for more. And the other thing is, is this underdog mentality. It has nothing to do with this topic, but I just love this underdog mentality.

It's like the whole, show them, don't tell them I love this. Come from behind and keep doing your thing and don't let your ego get in the way. And I don't know, just go watch that show, that Wrexham show. Because Ryan Reynolds and Rob Bacalhenny are so funny. And I just like, love the people of Wrexham. It reminds me that, like, without community and without standing with your people, what do you have? Whether your community is just a few people who believe in you, or a stadium of 10,000 people cheering for you, making sure that your club stays alive.

But there's something about community. There's something about, like, building that core group of people around you. The people who believe in you the most. The people who will fight on the sidelines for you. Not physically fight, but you know what I mean, fight for the win. So who are your people that are helping you fight for the win? And I love you guys. I've got my greens and my coffee. I haven't had my first sip of coffee yet, so it's happening real soon. But I'm gonna just go out and make it like such a killer day.

I can't wait. And I'm not gonna let the waters of the past yesterday, you even remotely enter my brain today. And I hope that you can try to do the same and stay in that space where you're just untouchable. So thank you guys for being here. Junk food junkie, Luke, Jill and Mary and anybody else who watches this, I hope that this helped you. And I just, like, love these chats that I get to have with you guys. So happy weekend and let me know what you thought in the community feed about today's livestream.

Talk to you guys later.