Make Your Dreams Come True!

Happy Friday, Cinco de Mayo. That means nothing to me, really. I don't really celebrate Cinco de Mayo, but I know a lot of people out there are, so I hope that they're doing that happily and healthily and safely. The airport was crazy. I just flew back into my home state of Phoenix, and it was like everyone and their mother was at the airport yesterday. So, anyway, I'm sure they're coming in to just enjoy the perfect weather that we have in Arizona and maybe celebrate the weekend. Who knows? But anyway, happy May 5.

And yesterday was may the fourth. Be with you, also known as my friend's birthday, and he never hears the end of that. So, anyway, I hope you guys had an amazing week. I have a fun little life for you today. What's up? Alec and I just have, like, a good, kind of, like, full circle story for you. So, as you know, every Friday, I talk about making all your big dreams come true, and it's my favorite subject to talk about. And I was smart today, you guys. Last week, my dog was completely bananas. And so I've got him on the leash right by my side today.

So he's not going anywhere. So we're not gonna have any barking, crazy barking situations. Good morning, Jill and Mary. I love you guys. Okay, so today, I am gonna share some statistics with you that are not boring statistics, and I'm gonna whip through them, and then I'm gonna also point out my members only jacket that's, like. It's vintage, I think, and it's really fun. Anyway, okay, so here we go. I was just in Philadelphia. Now, I don't think I've ever spent any time in Philadelphia. I have driven through there.

I have had a plane stop there, but I've never actually, like, gone to visit and hung out in Philly. So raise your hand if you've spent any time in Philly. And I was there for a little work, a little pleasure, and it was just a quick few days, but I was looking at some of the companies that are based in Philadelphia. One of them is very obvious, and you probably already knew about it, but I did a little research just to see, like, who's based here. Like, what's happening here. Like, besides, like, our founding fathers.

Like, we know they're based. There were. But, like, other than the founding fathers, and, like, Thomas Jefferson, who is based in Philly, and what are they doing? Okay, so one company that's based in Philly is the company Hershey. I'm sure you've heard of Hershey park and Hershey Chocolate. 9 billion. Okay. 9 billion. 7 billion. Okay. 5 billion. Rite aid. Ready for this? 124 billion dollars. Should have started a convenience store. And then Wawa, $13 billion. If you've heard of that grocery store chain and then a couple others, like PNC Financial Group and Comcast.

And there are some big, big companies in Pennsylvania doing some massive things, churning out billions of dollars. And I wouldn't have even known, other than Hershey and the founding fathers, I would not have known who is building businesses and who's creating billions of dollars for our economy, tons of jobs, who's headquartered there. Like, it blows my mind. And when I was there, I was staying right in, like, Penn Square kind of area in central Philly. And I would walk out of my hotel and look up, and there was, like, this.

The town council massive building. Like, town hall and buildings. Like, absolutely blew my mind. And I'm thinking to myself, like, who built these buildings? Well, obviously our founding fathers. But, like, you know, that's clearly the running joke in my head. But, like, people were doing walking tours. Like, everyone was walking around. It had, like, some kind of New York City vibes, and then it had, like, some Greenwich village vibes, and just. And then there were parts of town where I probably shouldn't have been walking alone, and that's fine.

Like, it was. It went from, like, you know, all these different types of gentrification to maybe I should have buddy system. But it was very interesting. And I really felt, like, the energy of this city. And it made me really think about, like, abundance and opportunity and what's available to us that we don't even know is there. Right. There are cities that are buzzing and creating a huge economic impact. And it's really like all these things that were happening around me in that moment that I didn't even realize were available to me.

Opportunities to see new stores and scout jewelry, because that's what I do when I style people and opportunities to connect with hotels, potentially for one of my businesses. And it was just like this reminder that opportunity and abundance is all around us. And I've been so inspired by opportunity lately. And I feel like when we're in the process of making our big dreams come true, right, which we all are and should be if you're not. So if you are not focused on a big dream or a big goal, I encourage you to dig deep and really think about what is meaningful to you in your life?

I don't care what it is. It doesn't have to be starting a business. It could be anything. It could just be riding your bike across the country. It could be just making it to the grocery store one day. I don't care what it is. What is your goal for the day but live in this place? One thing I've realized is people live in a place and they allow their mindset to live in a place of lack instead of really enjoying the space of opportunity and living in that space of opportunity. So people feel what I found a lot of times is disappointed by what they don't have, instead of inspired by the things they could potentially have.

Right? So living in this place of I can be there, I can have opportunity, there are things available to me instead of this like FOMO state of constant like, well, I don't have that, or I'm not skilled enough to do that, or that person's further ahead than I am. I don't have the education to be able to do that. We live in a world now where you can live in an opportunistic mindset. There is so much available to you. There are things that you can learn by simply googling them. There are YouTube tutorials.

There are endless amounts of online resources for you. If there is something that you want to do and you want to go after, don't live in a place of lack. Instead, listen closely. I want you to live in a state that I am calling dream stasis. So instead of homeostasis, I want you to live in your dream stasis. Now let me tell you what dream stasis is. Dream stasis is a place where you are surrounded by inspiration, motivation, exceptional thoughts, big ideas that are always swirling. Living as your best mindset self.

The minute you leave dream stasis and you allow negative mindset in and it can't do attitude into your thoughts, you're going to live in that place of lack and you're going to stay there and you're not going to reach your full potential of your big dreams. Stay in that space of dream stasis and it takes work to stay there. But if you can stay there and you can train your mind that everything that feels negative is actually an opportunity, and live in that place where you've already envisioned yourself, this place exists for me.

I'm telling you, I constantly live. And I've been wanting to put my finger on like, what is this like, mentality that I have? It's like it's not toxic positivity. It's not like a dreamer's world. It's like this dream stasis place. I have no other way to describe it, where I believe everything will and is already happening for me. And it's almost like it's living in an abundant mindset. But it's bigger than that. It's like a visual state where you take this, like, this life that you're living, and you reframe every single thing that is happening to you.

So if you can reframe, you can stay in dream stasis and stay at this, like, happy place where you know that even the tough things are serving a purpose. I have this. Luke. Dream space is definitely your city, Luke. I have this. Marissa, good morning. Hi, Carrie. I have this story, and then I will let you guys get back to your Friday. So last year, we sent a sample from my product line to this company. They said that we could send a sample in. It was a very, very exciting opportunity for us, because if we were to get into this retailer, it would be a huge break for our company.

And they knew who we were. We were introduced by somebody who works at the company, and they knew who we were, and they knew what they were receiving, and they said, absolutely, send it in. We'd love to see it. And once they got it, I got a very disappointing email that said, we're actually not looking to carry a product like this in our company right now. Where should we send the sample back to? It wasn't even like, oh, I'd love to keep this and use it for myself. Really great idea. Just not right for us at this time.

But we'd love to revisit, at least say something like, nice to me. If somebody wants to come and work for me, or if they have an idea for me, I'm always going to receive it with positivity, because they really worked hard on that in their brain. Maybe they were in dream stasis when they thought of it. I don't want to ever knock somebody out of dream stasis, so think about that when you're talking to people. But they told us no. And what did I do? You know, I've talked about this. I printed the email.

I hung it on my warehouse wall and was like, I will stare at this every day, and it will fuel me. I will stay in dream stasis, and I will see this as a no to lead to a much bigger open door. Yes. Cut to this trip. The friend who introduced me to that company tells me that they have somebody new in that position. And if we'd like to take another go at it, he can make the connection so we can send in another sample. And a lot has happened in my company in the past year. We've evolved a ton. Our product looks so much better.

And I have to believe that that no came at the perfect time because I don't feel like our product was even ready. But at the time it was very disappointing. But I stayed in dream stasis and I told myself that, no, it's just leaving the door open for an even bigger yes. And now here we are with the opportunity again. Fresh eyes, a new buyer that has a much better outlook on brands that they might potentially bring in. And he said, she's wonderful. You should definitely connect with her. Let me know when you're ready.

And I think back to that time last year when I got that really disappointing email, but I never left dream stasis. I never lived in a place of lack. Thought to myself, well, this is it for us. I just thought to myself, there's going to be a bigger, better yes, and we're going to be so much more prepared. So here we are again. Because I stayed in dream stasis and I didn't live in the place of lack, I stayed in the place of abundance. I'm able to receive this new information and say, amazing, I'm so excited.

Not, I don't want to send a sample back to them. They rejected me the first time. Heck no. I can't wait to send in a new sample. I can't wait to meet a new person and make a new connection there because she's probably the right person. And if she isn't the right person for us, the next person will be. And if they aren't the right store, an even bigger store is going to come around. So all of this to say that staying in dream stasis and staying in that beautiful place where you feel abundant and you feel inspired and you feel like you are exceptional, you're going to attract the right kind of energy and you're going to attract the right kind of yeses.

So that is my message for you. Today is even in the hardest of times, if you can find a way to reframe, to get yourself into dream stasis and get out of that place of lack, do not live in lack. Do not live there. It is toxic. It's not going to do you any favors. It's not going to serve you, and it's not going to keep you in that even space of believing in yourself. So my message to you today is, always believe. Stay in dream stasis. Never leave it. Believe in the end of your story. Believe that you are already there.

You're just waiting to reap the rewards. You're just waiting for them to come in. And I promise you, you will live in a space where you always are inspired by yourself and those around you. And you will attract people who. Who are also living in dream stasis. And if you wanna start a dream stasis support group, I'm here to start it. I will be your fearless dream stasis leader. I'm gonna make t shirts. It's gonna be amazing. I'll do a Cadre, collab all the things. See, I'm already living in dream stasis with the dream stasis swag collection.

Anyway, I love you guys so much. I hope that this gives you some energy and inspiration to continue to believe in yourself and your big dreams. And I can't wait to give you an update after we send that sample. It's probably gonna be closer to the end of the calendar year, but still, I'll still be here talking about my big dreams, and you'll have been here to hear the cycle of all of them, the nos, the yeses, the maybes, the rejections, whatever they may be. But you'll never hear me leave this place of dream stasis.

And I hope that you never leave either. So happy Friday. I love you guys. I will get you all the swag. Thank you for being here. And happy Cinco de Mayo. I hope it's a very safe, responsible, healthy one. And have some chips and guac, whatever it is. Get yourself a DD if you are enjoying beverages this weekend, and just be safe out there. And I can't wait for you guys to continue to tune in this week. I know we have some great live streams lined up. Always cooking with Dan on Sundays, and I hope that this inspires you to go into the weekend really strong.

So love you guys. Love you. Bye.