1 Week Later, I Still Am Hurting

Good morning, Cadre crew. What a great day. Just got done having coffee with one of the Cadre creators, Chris Edrington, at one of our favorite places here in St. Paul. It's good to see you, Chris, as always, just great conversations. Good to have coffee with somebody that you care about, love, and that you're inspired by. So it's always good to see you talk shop, talk everything together. It's amazing. But over the course of last week, since the big run, number one, my body's still in recovery mode, which is definitely can feel that.

6 miles is no joke. But there's three questions that individuals suprisa happy Mondays. Right. But I got three. What's up, Amy? I had three questions that individuals asked me through the course of last week after, you know, we kind of talked about the run or had conversations about the run. And, you know, I just wanted to, I just wanted to answer those. And I think that it may just, you know, spark a little light bulb in your head, too, as you continue to move forward with different things in your life, good, bad or indifferent.

Number one, what was harder, the training or the actual race? So many of you have heard this from me now kind of for months. Here on Cadre is every single weekend, including this weekend, I run at least a ten miler, if not more. This one was really fun yesterday because my son, my little six year old cam man, joined me on my last 2 miles, and it was just this beautiful moment. You know, habit stacking is really hard, right? You know, habit stacking is really, really, really difficult with consistency, discipline, etcetera.

So is one weekend where, you know that it's going to be insanely painful, that it's going to be difficult, that it's going to push you to the limits. All the other things, you know, this level of difficulty or is every single weekend for three years, building the consistency, discipline habits, etcetera, you know, is, is that more difficult? And the reality is every single weekend is hard. Every weekend, you know, when it's time to lace up the shoes, when it's time to get ready to do that run like it is, I almost get anxious walking around the house.

It's like, ah, maybe I'll clean up this, maybe I'll vacuum that, maybe I'll do this. Because it's like, you got to go back into the tank again, and it's just long enough that it really sucks, right? Like where it really, really sucks. And, you know, yesterday in Minnesota, it was like 92 degrees and humid, and I went right during the heat of all of it. Cause I just wanted to feel, you know, that together. So, you know. So again, what is harder, the race day or training for it all day? It's training to me, that's.

That one's not even close. The race was difficult. The race was hard. But getting yourself ready to go mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically, all the things over the course of three years is, bar none, hard. And always remember habits and happiness. If you want to be happy, you can find happiness quick and it's fleeting and whatever, but habits are where the real self confidence and real self growth for oneself really just, just spark. So when you start building really good habits, you just turn to be really proud of yourself.

You know, like, go to the gym every, like, maybe it's three days a week, start there three days a week, maybe it's going for a walk three days a week. And when you fulfill that and you do 30 minutes of walking, you're going to feel really proud of yourself with those habits. So building those habits, we. I always say in America, we don't, we don't have a happiness problem, we have a habit problem, right? And, you know, so if you can start building those good, good habits to instill consistency, discipline, etcetera, you know, you're going to find yourself in a really good place.

Number two, what were you thinking about when you hit mile 50? And also knowing that you're only halfway. So this is, this is a great, great, great question. 6 miles basically with no crew. It was just all myself, my wife, I had a couple other individuals do it, but it was, it was really just me. Right. And so at night, it was really important. And, you know, an individual from Cadre Reese actually asked me this question, you know, you know, what did you feel at night? And the reality was, like, I felt the cold, hard isolation of any individual suffering from a mental health crisis, of substance abuse disorder, problem where they're isolating.

And I wanted to feel that all night long and to see how that felt, to be alone. And I was right. At about that time when I was getting towards mile marker, let's call it the thirties, the forties, the fifties, running through the night and nobody. Right. I mean, the very first thing I heard was my wife at, I think like 630 or seven in the morning, you know, that connected with me. So, you know, that was a long, long, long night. And to be honest with you, what did I think about doing? Quitting my mind went there a lot.

My mind went to this spot of quitting, especially when you're at 30 and at 40 and at 50, saying, I got to do this again. Right. And then I thought about it, and I went deep in, and I said, you know, for somebody that's struggling alone, for somebody that's sitting, you know, at home alone or somewhere that doesn't have the ability to connect and isolate, like, I got to go deeper, and I got to do it for them, right? And I just. I just kept going and going and going. Um, and so, you know, how did I feel?

I felt lonely. I felt disconnected. I felt isolated. I felt low, you know? And then all of a sudden, I had somebody pick me up. Really, at mile. I was almost mile 50 on the dot, and it was Alec and Ethan and two individuals from Cadre, right. And they picked me up. They picked up my spirits, and it was like I was like a walking, talking individual suffering from a mental health crisis or substance abuse crisis, right? Like, all of a sudden, I had connection. I had people to relate to. I had people to connect with me.

They were there by my side. They're almost holding my hands. They were literally giving me water out of the thing. They were there to support me. And through that support, I just immediately kind of, like, sprung together. Energy and inspiration. It felt amazing. So I'll forever be indebted for you to. For showing up there at that moment when I needed it most. What did you feel like when you finished? Right? What did you feel like when you were finished? And, you know, there was. There was a lot of emotions that went through me at that minute, right?

There's a lot of different emotions, but I think the number one emotion was fulfilled. Like, that I fulfill the goal, right. It was like, kind of like I was already checkboxing the goal, you know, off the list. Like, I felt fulfilled, but it was emotionally, you know, it was emotionally very charged moment with my family. My wife and my kids wrapped up the last mile and a half with me, and it was just an incredible moment that I'll never forget and nobody can ever take away from me. And, you know, this wasn't.

This wasn't a race. It's not in the record books. There's no Google thing behind it. But what I will tell you is nobody can ever take that away from me. You know, just like when maybe you go out and you go do something hard and you have a book that you've, you know, been on your docket that you wanted to read for a while, or maybe it was a big walk that you wanted to participate in, or maybe it was, you know, going to a job interview. But regardless, when you're hard and when you define your hard, it's an incredibly fulfilling, and you feel this immense amount of gratitude, and you're very grateful for the opportunity that you have on this planet with these people, with the community, with the individuals.

And nobody can ever take that away from you ever. Like, nobody can ever take those moments away from you. And so just remember that when you're doing something hard, right? And I know Risa's on this call right now. You know, she's completed, you know, a couple half marathons that I know of. Nobody can take that away from you. Nobody can take that joy. Nobody can take that moment of crossing that finish line of how proud you feel about yourself and, you know, the work and the effort and the energy that you put in to be able to accomplish said goal.

So remember that next time when you want to, you know, ask yourself, like, do I want to fall in the comfort zone? Don't want to fall in the comfort zone, or do I want to stretch myself right in the comfort zone? And, you know, now we're going to go a little bit deeper. And. Sorry, I'm going just one more thing. One more thing today. Okay? I believe there's three different types of people in this world, okay? I think there's individuals who they are who they are, and those same individuals that you see at high school will be the same individual that you see at day 60, 70, 80, until they're, you know, passed, right?

They are who they are, and there's no reinvention of themselves, okay? That's number one. Number two, you're going to find the individual that has to reinvent themselves because they're in crisis. They're in a moment in their life, or maybe it's their one choice, a year or whatever that looks like, right? And so they reinvent themselves on a involuntary basis for the most part, okay, where they have to make a difference or they have to make a change. Then there's a last group of people. And these individuals constantly look for ways to reinvent themselves, to learn to grow and to expand their brain, their knowledge, etcetera.

And we know who those people are. They're always pushing the limits. They're always trying to go out into the outside of their comfort zone. The next time you talk to them, you're like, whoa, did you just go take a microbiology class? Right? Because you know everything about the underworld of the sea. You know, it's like there's always something, right? And you know, which one do you want to be? Do you want to be the one that stays constant? Do you want to be the one that is forced to reinvent yourself through chaos or crisis?

Or do you want to be the one that walks into the room and sees 510, 20 new faces that you saw from two, three years ago, and they get done with seeing you and go, I don't even know who that guy is anymore. In a good way, because you're stretching your limits and you're stretching your bounds and you're trying something new yet again. I know who I am. But you know who you are. Push yourself. Push yourself to new limits. Push yourself to new heights. Trust me when I tell you that heartbeat, that heartbeat that you feel for yourself.

You'll feel a different level of self love, you'll feel a different level of self worth. You'll feel a different level of gratitude. You'll feel a different level of fulfillment. Trust me when I tell you that. Have an amazing week. We have some really great things going on at Cadre when it comes to our live streaming schedule. I can't wait to see all the different messages from our amazing people that are inspiring, messages that fill me, and I hope they fill you. If anybody is struggling when it comes to anxiety, depression, you know, just holding things, you know, holding things in that you want to share.

Right. You know, do you want to share with others? Like, I. Every. Every Wednesday, you know, I just hold an anxiety support group. m.. Central. It's. The zoom is literally right in the links. You can't miss it. Just click on. I'll be there for moderating it. We just do go around Robin, and we just say, like, you know, my anxiety is my superpower, and we're going to dissect this together, and it's a really a great session for each other. I know some individuals that have participated, and it's been.

It's been a wonderful proposition for not only myself, but them, for individual generalized anxiety disorder, right here, all day. Right. You know, with panic attacks, you name it. So for me, it's very therapeutic, and it's a great opportunity to connect with other individuals. We have, you know, our Cadre commitments are out. If you haven't seen the Cadre commitments yet, please go to Cadre IO, check on challenges. On challenges. You'll see the commitments. It's amazing. This one is really, really good.

I think you're going to love them. So jump on in, check out the commitments. You're going to find these five micro bite size goals that'll be able to kind of push yourself in different directions and give you different ideas to kind of, you know, tickle your fancy a little bit with new, new endeavors and new efforts. When you talk about comfort zone and maybe growing outside of it. Right. And then, you know, heading into, you know, the school is, school season's over. So I know that's going to affect a lot of families out there, you know, with kids home all the time.

We're one of them. You know, we have, we have four children where they've been off at school and now they're going to be coming home all summer. So I know that's just going to hit you with a different level of stress, too, you know, trying to get work and try to get this done, try to go through, do vacations and a couple of those things throughout the course of the summer. So we're here for you. If you need coaching in order to work your way through that together, by all means, please reach out to our team of coaches.

We can set up the right coach for you and your family to get something set up so you can identify ways that you can do it successfully and not just have it be, you know, a bunch of stress. Right? Have that ever, have that summer be successful for you and your family. So I hope this all helps, and I hope it helps you, you know, ultimately live the most fulfilling life that you possibly can. So if there's anything I can do for you, please let me know. You can always write in the community feed. By all means, send a message in the community feed or reach out at any time.

At Lwentlentadre IO, I always, I mean, h***, I'd share my cell phone. I don't care if there's something I can do to help and support you, but take care of y'all. Have an amazing week. I look forward to the lineup, and please let us know if there's anything we can do support you on your journey in life here. Bye.