Make Your Dreams Come True!

Good morning, happy Friday. Or afternoon. Oh, my gosh. We're going crazy. Sorry. Okay, get it together. Good morning, good afternoon, wherever you may be. It is Friday, June 16, and I live for this time slot. As you guys know, I like to spend lots of time preparing for you. So I've got my notes. I think today is going to be a great message. I hope that you have been enjoying these Friday messages from me about making your dreams come true. I am specifically in costume today, wearing my legalized dreams t shirt.

Because this is what we do here. We just make our dreams come true and we make them happen. So I will give it. I'm going to give it one more second just for some people to pop on. There's Dan. Oh, my gosh. Dan. Okay, so we're good. We're live. I just like to make sure that were cooking with gas. That was for you, Dan. Okay, so today I am talking about, well, a couple of things. I always like there to be some kind of theme with what I'm talking about, which we all typically do. But today I'm talking about getting out of the box and staying there.

And I have a story for you. Of course, I am going home to my home state of Maine. Yes, I am from Maine. I know that state does exist. People did come out of that state of Maine. Some. A lot are still there. But yes, it's way out there, way on the east coast. If you haven't been to Maine, it's a magical place to visit in the summer. And I'm really excited to go. I say that with trepidation. It's been a long time since I've been home. And sometimes going home for me can be a little bit triggering.

I'm just gonna say it. And if you're here on this live stream and you have places that you go that should be sacred, but sometimes they're triggering. Raise your hand. I don't really make it back there that often. I got out of that state as fast as I could, and I still have a lot of family there. And my grandmother is 93, and my mother made a very subtle, not so subtle reminder that my grandmother is getting older and that I really do need to spend some time with her. And she's right. She is 100% right.

So I'm going back. But it's triggering for a lot of reasons for me. Number one, I don't always have a safe place to land. It's a lot of bouncing around. My parents are divorced, and when I go home, I feel like I'm just a ping pong ball going back and forth to people's homes and really trying to see everyone as best as I can. And as much as you want to adopt that rule of if you want to see me, come to me. It doesn't always work out that way. So it's triggering. I don't always have a safe place to land.

It oftentimes reminds me of a painful past. I was in my serious car accident, really close to where I'm going and right in the town that I grew up in and near the lake that my grandmother lives on. And there's just a lot of painful memories that come back when I go home, even though it was so long ago. It's like a smell that you can't forget, and it lives inside of me. So it's always a little bit hard to go back to that place where that happened to me. And, you know, it's supposed to be a peaceful place to visit.

It's beautiful countryside and lakes and oceans, but all the time, for me, it's a little bit of mental chaos. And the other thing that I experience when I go home is how boxed in people really are. And that was what set me up for today's conversation is about this idea of being in a mental box and really not knowing how to broaden your horizons and not know how to break free from the box. So when I go home to Maine, I go home to this almost, like, movie set. There's really no other way to describe it, right?

Like, almost like the Truman show. I feel like people are living in the past, and they've never had a growth mindset. Maybe they've never gone to therapy. They're probably still drinking Zimas with jolly ranchers dropped in in the sand pits is what I'm saying. I go back there, and I feel like I am in a, like, time warp. And I took the Delorean, and I'm like, what am I doing here? What's up, Luke? And I've reached a place in my life where I've done the work. Like, I've done the work. I've gotten out of my home state.

I've gotten away from a lot of these people. I have a growth mindset. I have Mickey's forties. Exactly like, forties, like, duct taped to your arm. Yeah. Mm hmm. I've gotten out. I've gotten out of Dodge. And then when I go back home, it's like, trigger, trigger, trigger, pass, pass, mean person, bully. Like, accident. Like, these thoughts, and this stress level comes flooding at me. Not only is it hard to leave my dog and my work and everything that I have built in Arizona, but I go back home to the chaos of, like, whose house are you gonna sleep at?

How much time are you gonna spend with me? Make sure you see your grandmother. You know, do you want to go to yoga with me at the YMCA? Am I going to see people for my high school? Because probably not, you know? And I think about how I'm trying to take myself, like, and put myself in the mindset of the people who are still back in that hometown, who have never had the opportunity to grow, who don't know what it's like to leave the state unless they're just going on vacation to Disneyland, which is awesome and great, but I can't imagine.

I'm trying to put myself in that mindset. Like, I can't imagine what it would be like to be stuck in my past. I play the tape back and think about if, after my car accident, I ended up living with my mom, which she didn't allow me to do. She said, you're not living in this house. And there were a lot of other things going on, but I didn't have a safe place to land. But I think about how, if I would have gone back to live with her and lived under her roof and never got out and never experienced the things that I experienced, what would my life be like if I were still back there?

Like, would I be dating my ex boyfriend? What? My mind is so blown. So I think about what those people might be thinking, and I actually just feel for them, right? Like, it for people who don't have a growth mindset, I think about, like, what that must feel like, my body, like, physically. Physically rejects people who don't have a growth mindset. Like, I have had to learn to put up a wall and put up a barrier and protect myself and protect my energy from those people. So I want to read to you a couple of, like, a quick little passage from one of my favorite books called the 15 invaluable laws of growth.

It's by John C. Maxwell. I don't know if you guys have heard of this book or not, but one of the quotes that he mentions is, ain't no rules around here. We're trying to accomplish something, which was an Edison quote, and I absolutely, like, love that quote, because it's all about breaking free and, like, not adhering to any of the traditional laws and rules and ways of doing things and old mindset and, well, that's not how we do things around here. I mean, that's how I feel when I go home to my state.

Like, go home to my hometown state is like, people have a way of doing things, and when you disrupt that, they don't like it. They don't like it at all. And so in order to protect myself from living in the past, I have to read things like this and think about the things that I don't want to be. And I have to learn how to guard myself and not go back and not feel triggered and not get sucked in and not have my air sucked out of me by these people. But I have to sort of put up this mental wall and a little bit of a bubble, like a barrier from the people who are living in the past.

So there is. There is. I just wanted to quickly, like, read this one thing. He's. I value innovative thinking, and I'm easily frustrated by people who refuse to think outside of their self imposed boxes. So he doesn't even let them frustrate him. Because a lot of times, I don't know about you, but when I'm around people who can't, like, think outside the box, I kind of get, like, this fire inside of me, and I've really had to learn how to curb that. It almost like it's caused me to want to leave some of my friendships, leave some of my relationships.

But you have to remember that, like, you don't have to let those people be in your inner circle. You don't have to allow them into your space. They don't have to be there. They don't have to take up real estate. They're not living rent free. In your mind, when people say things like, we've never done it that way before, or, that's not my job, I just want to shake them up. I want to offer to do their funeral because they've already died and are obviously just waiting for somebody to make it official.

I love that line. Good ideas are everywhere, but it's hard to see them when you won't look outside of your box. Instead of remaining confined, people need to break down the walls of their boxes, get out, and become hunters of ideas. I couldn't agree with this more. And I'm telling you about this trip back home to my state of Maine, where I'm from, to my community. I'm telling you about this because I want you to keep in mind that there are going to be people around you that want to bring you down, that want to keep the old version of you, that want you to stay in the old mindset instead of the growth mindset.

You will run into them, you will encounter them, you will meet them. You will have to see them when you go home, wherever that may be. And if you don't, lucky you. If your small town isn't like that, lucky you. But mine is. And I am an empath and I am a people pleaser. So when I get around those people, I have to fight for my right. No, I really have to fight to stay right where I am, which is something that I've been building and working on to make my big dreams come true since I left that home town of my home state, tiny, Maine.

My tiny little town of Sanford, Maine. I am so glad that I got out. Don't let people of the past or people who are confined to a box write your story. Don't let them. Don't let them suck your energy. Don't let them take you back to the past. Break free. Kick down the door. Stay away. Don't let them consume your energy. Give them some advice if they want it and then move on. Don't worry about how they handle it. Don't worry about what they do. You're always gonna have people in your life that won't get it.

So kick down the door. I'm gonna catch up on this content or these comments trips home are triggering for me too. Oh, Dan, I hear you. I tried setting clear intentions for my visits. I visualized calm, loving connection. It was a total game changer. That's such a great idea. I am 1000% gonna take that advice on and meditate on what I want and write down and journal what I want out of this trip. And I'm going to stay present with that for me the whole time. Maybe I'll have some like a tiny little meditation that I say if I'm starting to feel frustrated by my family who just doesn't get it.

So thank you for that, Dan. That's a huge help. So I hope that this message resonates with you. I hope that you're inspired to kick down the door, stay out of the box, get out and stay out and don't let people who are not going getting to out and staying out take you down and grab this book because it's so good. All right, I love you guys. Have the best weekend and I will see you live next week from Maine. I'll give you an update. Maybe I'll be someplace beautiful like by the lake is where I think I'm gonna be doing my live.

And yeah, it's going to be great. It's going to be a lot of fun. So love you all and I will see you soon.