Monday Motivation: What You Focus On Increases

Happy Monday. Let's go. Gosh, what another great week. We're starting off strong. Always start off strong. Oh, my goodness. Great day. Absolutely phenomenal day. I wanted to hit you guys with this one today. What you focus on increases. Again, let me say this again, what you focus on increases. I'm going to give you two classic examples of this. Okay? So my wife is an educator. She's been an educator for 18 years. You guys probably heard me talk about that a lot. Now, you know, here at Cadre, my wife is an amazing, amazing educator.

And, you know, she. She has this phrase that she says over and over to me, to my kids, to, you know, all the different 26 individuals that she gets to work with every day just in her classroom, and then the other ones. Right? What you focus on increases. This is, you know, an example of three educators, right? So there's three different teachers at the 6th grade level. My wife is one of them. There's two students. Two students, okay? Imran and Arafat. Okay? English is their second language. In Arafat's case, English is actually his third language.

Okay? So my wife is helping, you know, in literacy for those individuals to be proficient naturally and, you know, reading, writing, and all the things, right? Just basically learning. Learning English and the proficiency around it to read, to comprehend and all the things. So, you know, there's a couple different educators, like I had said, and you have Imran and Arafat, who are a little bit more rambunctious, a little bit louder. And what the other teachers focus on is that Imran and Arafat are out of their seats, that they're a little louder in class, that they're.

That they're this, that they're. That. That they're disruptive, that they're whatever. But what my wife focus on over and over again is that these guys, these two individuals are English as their second or third language, and they are proficient. Let me say this again. They are proficient. When you take the MCCA tests and all those different tests, they have become proficient in their classroom, like, in literacy. Like, think about that. So focusing on, if I'm. I'm not going to say her name of the educator with my wife, but she focuses on how these two individuals are disruptive in class.

And my wife, on the other hand, focuses on how well they're doing english proficiency. And if they bounce around a little bit in the room, she's like, who cares? Who cares culturally, that's what they've done culturally. Who talks the loudest winds culturally? Who, like, if they can read and write and they can leave this classroom, and they have friends and they have community, and they are proficient. Like, what you focus on increases. She's like, who cares? Like, they are reading and writing at a level that a lot of individuals are born in the United States can't read and write at.

What you focus on increases. My son, we went golfing yesterday, a big golf tourney. Let's go. He had an unbelievable golf tournament. Okay? This is his second year in golf. This is his second year of golf. He's learning the ropes. He's doing all the things right. So he hit some great shots. He hit some really great shots. He actually made his first birdie ever. He hit this unbelievable shot right down, rolled in, got it to about 7ft from the hole, putted it in for birdie. Right? Got his first birdie.

This little nine year old, he's just jumping for joy. It's amazing. Okay, but the last hole, right? So the last hole, they were tied up and whatnot, and he had a really dismal drive. Okay, so his partner didn't hit a great one. He didn't hit a great one. Had just like two brutal drives. They ended up losing the hole, which cost him the match. Right. And he just couldn't believe that he missed that shot. And that's all he talked about. And my wife absolutely stopped him right there and said, drew, what you focus on increases.

You had an unbelievable eight holes. And if all you're going to do is focus on that one hole, maybe golf's not for you. What you focus on increases. Those eight holes that he did. Unbelievable. And he, he produced, he developed, he learned, he grew from it. So I just want to send this message to all of y'all. There's going to be employees that you work with that there may be two or three characteristics that really frustrate your bug. You get over it because look for the joy and the good of what you focus on increases, right?

So where is the RoI of the individuals that you work with? What are they delivering? Let's just use the hospitality industry. Right? So you work with a group of individuals that are house cleaners, maids, right? And maybe the maid is looking at her phone a little bit during, during, during the work. Work day, right. She's looking at her phone, she's looking at TikTok, but she's cleaning the rooms with the best of them. Maybe she even has Spanish as her first language, English as her second language.

And maybe this is her second job. Right? So she's doing that to maybe keep a little stimulated or otherwise, but she's cleaning all of her beds. She's getting the beds done in time. And are you going to hold that individual accountable to the TikTok and looking at a little bit of Instagram or otherwise that she's doing while still producing? Are you going to focus on that? Are you going to focus on that? So again, my wife is a broken record for this over and over and over again in our house, and I love her for it.

And she stops me every time she goes, what you focus on increases. Is this where you want to go with this? Is this why you want to do it? Are you showing up with the proper EQ, emotional intelligence? Right. How are you showing up? How are you showing up for your people? Why? Why are you showing up that way? So what you focus on absolutely increases if you're focusing on, I can't do something. I didn't get my workout in. I'm not where I want to be in my work and my professional journey. I didn't go to school.

I didn't. I didn't. I don't, I can't. I won't. Or you can flip that script and say, I will. I must. I can. These are what. These are the things I'm going to do today. I'm gonna go get my workout on the rest of the day. I'm gonna get up and go. I'm gonna get. For a while. I'm gonna go for a walk. I'm gonna support individuals. I'm gonna try to see the best in them, even when, you know, sometimes they have the hardest time even seeing them themselves. So, again, I would encourage you to always take a step back and ask yourself, are you truly focusing on the good?

Are you focusing on the bad? And always remember this, what you focus on increases, and it will increase in your brain. It will increase in your actions. It will increase in your self talk. It will increase in everything you do, speak it into existence. Speak it into existence for others and also looking good for other people, because at the end of the day, we're all imperfect. So that's my message today. Couple things I want to end with. Number one, what you focus on increases. Never forget that.

It's my wife 101. Excuse me. Number two, challenge drops. Every single day on the community feed, I'm posting a challenge. It's just a bite sized challenge. Every single day so far, we've done a cold shower. We've done some walks. We've done some stairs. We've done writing down our dreams and goals, journaling right. So we've got a little bite size challenge every single day. Just a little bite size challenge for you every single day. Keep your eyes peeled for that. Team Cadre usually drops a message or two every day.

Be out on the lookout. We hope that those are inspiring messages or maybe some messages that make you think or connect with yourself or others, whatever that looks like. Right. So that's number two. We have a ridiculous list, a ridiculous list coming up for live streams this week. They are amazing. I can't wait for you all to hear them. I have a feeling that you might go a little bit deeper with yourself and reflection and self reflection as you kind of evaluate the message and what it means for you and how it means for you.

And then also, Evan Lieberman is going to be going on a little bit later this evening. I want to say it's 730 central time. If you have any questions, mental health or otherwise related. Number one, you can post in the community feed. If you want to remain anonymous and have no idea who it is, you can always, always, always email anything to Cadre right at help Helpadre IO so you could send a message for anything that you need. And we'll be here for you. We'll respond as fast as we possibly can.

Don't quote me on this, but I have a feeling it's within hours because we're here for you. That's why we do what we do. Last but not least is I had an unbelievable breakfast with a guy that I've been meeting with for the last couple of years. We lost somebody really close to us, right? We lost somebody close to us. And we were kind of talking about mortality and what it means and how it matters to all of us, obviously, because we're all going to die. And mortality can be this depressing phenomenon to talk about, or it can be really, really inspiring.

And he asked me this question. He said, what would you like to be remembered for? What do you hope your legacy is? And I answered it and I thought about it. And I thought about it for a while. And I went on some runs this weekend. I had a little bit of time to myself and I just digested that and I said, I don't hope to. I don't want to. I will be, I absolutely will be remembered for ABCD and E and G. Why? I mean, it's my daily mantra. It's my goals, it's who I am. It's what I am. It's my blood, it's what I'm inspired by.

It's what I'm passionate about. It's my purpose. It's my why, you know, it's the people closest to me living a life of service, supporting and being there for my wife, showing up for my kids. No matter what. Sleep, no, sleep doesn't matter. You do what you got to do. Being a loyal friend, right? That's. That's just, you know, how it's going to be because that's where I focus my attention on, right back to what you focus on increases. So I wrote it to the universe and I sent it to the world to take action.

And that's something that I'm just going to never lose sight of, right. So I want you to think about that, too, today. How will you be remembered? And are you happy with that narrative? And if you aren't, go get it. Go get it now. Don't wait. Take action immediately. Do not wait. Move on. If it's. If you're unhappy in a role, in a position, a job, life's too short. Life is way, way, way too short. If you're frustrated with maybe your weight, if you're upset with not taking action on exercise, if you do not like how many books you've read in the last year, want to continue to educate and learn and inspire.

Take action. Take action. You control the narrative of your life. You do nobody else. That's yours. So go get it. Have an amazing week. I look forward to seeing the rest of the live streams this week. I look forward to always seeing the community engage in our community feed. We have an amazing blog that's coming up on the 15th. Check the blog. The blog is ridiculous. I love it. I love it so much. So have a great week, you guys. Thanks for tuning in. I respect and admire all you all for this journey that we call life, which is not easy.

It's never going to be easy, but you always find your way. Take care, y'all. Have an amazing, amazing week. Bye.