How Often Have You Said This?

What's going on, Cadre Crew? My name is Mary. This is my best friend and business partner, Jill. And together we own a company called Girls Mentorship, where we get to work with teen and tween girls all around, developing their life and personal development skills. And, you guys, a conversation that we have day in and day out is around the power of the tongue, not only with them, but ourselves as well. The words that we speak to ourselves matter so much. They do. And we are in a series all around the empowering sayings that we say to ourselves as opposed to the disempowering.

And today, we have a really great topic or mantra that we want to bring to you today. How many times have you answered a text message with saying something like, I'm dead? Right? It's a funny thing, like, I'm dying. I stopped doing that about a year and a half ago. Both Jill and I were at a women's conference where the speaker talked about her battle with cancer. And she realized that before she was diagnosed, she had a moment where she watched an infomercial around a cancer treatment center, and she said, if I ever had cancer, I would go there.

And in the moment, it seemed very minute to call that out. But a year later, when she was diagnosed with cancer, she went back to that moment in time and said, why would I ever speak those words over myself? Why would I put it out into the universe to say something like, if that were to ever happen? She basically, in her own mind, spoke those words into existence. So it was a real possibility, and the possibility came true. She then went on to talk about saying things like, I'm dead. We're not, are we?

No. And nor do we want to put that no. Into the universe, into existence, and to reframe it what we've. Because, I mean, trust us, we were in a habit of saying that. And she shook us when we listened to her story. And when we said, okay, well, if we're not dead, what's the opposite of that? We're living. Oh, my gosh, we're living. And I'm telling you what, it's like a buzzword. Anytime we see it in a text message or if we're communicating with. With certain people, it just burns our ears and we catch them.

We're like, you're not dead. You're living. You are vibrant. You are very much so alive. Let's keep it that way. The words we speak have so much power over who we are, and we don't want to put things like that out into the universe. So the next time you get a text message that's funny. Can you try to avoid using the skull emoji or the saying like, I'm dying? That was so funny. Because you're not. That joke brought you to life. It brought you so much joy and so much laughter to where you are now.

Living for it. Living to somebody else. Yes. So that is your challenge. Notice if you also are in a habit of saying things that you can just flip the script. Because you're living. Because you're living. You are. Until the next time, you guys. We'll see you on the next video.