Clarity is Kindness

Have you ever received instructions that were unclear? Like, you had no idea what the person trying to relay the instructions to you actually meant? Us two, my name's Mary. This is Jill. We own a company called Girls Mentorship, where we teach life and personal development skills. And we're in a series all around the power of the tongue. And we have formulated and crafted these videos because we have found these mantras and phrases to be so empowering to us that we are sharing them with you. Today's mantra, today's saying something that we repeat to ourselves in a lot of circumstances is clarity is kindness.

Oftentimes, we think other people understand what we mean when we say something, and that's not the case. It can come across as unclear and needing of a little bit more clarification. So when I am instructing someone, when Jill and I are leading someone, we have to think of different perspectives and different point of views in order to get our point across in the most efficient and effective manner possible and how this can look. So if we try to direct or give instruction and we see some blank stares because we all have been there where people are like, what are you talking about?

I'm gonna get on my phone. You can ask, was that clear? Just to get people's feedback? Because then they can either say yes or no. And if it's not clear, then you can do a take, too. But getting in the practice of asking someone else if that was clear is such a game changer, because to Mary's point, if it's not clear, then you, as the person articulating that message, walks away feeling like, okay, we're good to go. But the person receiving it feels in disarray because they're now trying to interpret their own meaning out of it.

Well. And then there's a disconnect. You saw somebody that presented a certain set of skills to you and said that they could complete this, that, or the other, and then they don't, because things aren't clear. And you walk away feeling like they're not living up to the expectation that they set for themselves, when in reality, it's you as a leader that needs to be more clear in your direction. So, last takeaway. Just remember that people are different learners, right? People are visual, audio, tactile.

Be prepared to have several different examples of what you're trying to get across in order to appeal to a mass amount of people. So, clarity is kindness. We are trying to be clear in order to be kind. We'd love to hear more about where you're implementing this saying where you're using it in your life, even if it's just with yourself.