What's In Your Toolbox?

Cadre fam. 01:00 on a Tuesday. Where's Usher? In the drop top, baby. Cruising the streets. I got a real pretty, pretty little thing. That's pretty, pretty little thing or waiting on me? We're waiting on you. Other pretty. What's going on, Cadre? How is your week? How are things going in your life? They are. I made a joke this morning at breakfast. Jill and I met a girlfriend for breakfast, and the server asked her how she wanted her eggs. And I am a dad joker to boot. So anytime somebody cracks a door or a window, your girl is jumping through it.

And I said, I bet she wants some scrambled like my brain. Cause that is how my brain feels right now, and mine does, too. Alec. Hi, Risa. Gm, baby. I thought that meant good morning. And then I really realized that it means girls mentorship. Teehee. My brain at screen. So an important conversation that we want to bring to you today is around facing that giant. Giants crop up all the time. They crop up in comparison and imposter syndrome and the roadblock that we face. I always like to say that maybe the front door is not open for entry.

So have you tried the back door? And if the back door is locked, have you tried crawling through a window? Like, where is your floor? Focus. And we just got off of a strategy call with our team. As a lot of you know, we just got done hosting summer camp in June and July for girls ten to 13, and it was around, all around a confidence and leadership camp, and it was incredible. And what it did for us was create a lot of momentum. So we've been planning this since, I think, late January, early February, right, where we have aces in places.

Boom, boom, boom. We're calling locations, we're getting decorations. We're figuring out speaking. We're on the news, we're in the local newspaper. We're focused on our advertising and our pr. Momentum, momentum, momentum. Boom. Summer camp comes more momentum, more movement, more, more, more. We've ended summer camp, and somebody, our strategy on our strategy call, she said it probably feels like a car accident because you're traveling, and then, boom, all of a sudden, that momentum stops. Right?

And we think that is a bad thing. We think, oh, my God. We just created this incredible thing, this awesome experience, and now what? Oh, my God. We're not enough. Oh, my God. What's next? Have we peaked? No. It is normal to feel a lack of motivation after creating so much momentum, and that's where the giant comes into play. And I don't know if you guys can see it in my chest. But we had this conversation that made me feel uncomfortable, and that's what these giants do. It is you facing your fear and allowing either the fear to swallow you up or you look at your giant and you don't lose your focus.

And what we've been experiencing over these last. Last couple of weeks is, where do we go? We know that the vision that we have is our north star and that we're doing everything every single day to work towards that vision. But sometimes something else pops up or another idea that we have, and it takes us off our course, which then we feel like, oh, we have to now compete with that giant and then that giant and then that giant. So we're all over the place, and I don't know if you guys can relate to that.

If you feel like you have a vision and there are other giants that get in your way that take you off course, what we're here to say is, we know that feeling, too. And how do we combat those giants? Well, and how do you give yourself space and grace? Because, honestly, all Jill and I need right now is to drop everything and be free of any sort of planning or scheming or conceptualizing what is in our future, because we've done a lot of work to this point. And sometimes what's needed is a disconnect.

And it's unfortunate that we live in a day and age where we're constantly connected. I think back to Mary in fifth grade, where she. She had a sleepover. And that next day, I got to send that friend home. I got to get rid of him. I didn't hear from him. I didn't know what they were doing. There was no contact or communication for an entire two days after that until we got back to school on Monday. In this day and age, we're constantly connected. We have notifications coming out the wazoo. We see what person ABC through Z is doing as much as they want to show us, through stories and threads and Snapchat streaks and.

And. And making it seem like your goals are three simple steps away. Right. We literally just accomplished something that neither one of us had ever accomplished before, and we're feeling like s*** because of it. So I know we're not alone in that, but I also know that it's not something that people talk about often. And when we see that as a giant. Risa, you said it. I'm not for sale. Fear. We're not. But we have to make a realization. We have to have the self awareness enough to know that we're not for sale.

And that fear doesn't have to take us off track. Right? We can see the giant, but we can also see beyond the giant to what that North Star is for us. But if we let the giant become all consuming and basically block out the sun for us, we're going to lose our focus, meaning we're losing our north star, we lose our direction, and we lose all sense of purpose towards what we were working towards to begin with. So it's great to have an accountability partner, but when we're stuck in this together, we got to get out of our head.

And that's where an app like Cadre comes in, is you get to hear from real people having real, in the moment lived experience and know that you're not alone in this. And either watch the videos, tune into the lives, or reach out to them personally, because we're real people on the other end of this screen who just accomplished something really stinking major. And on the other side of that, we're having the hangover of, well, now what? Now do we take this $5,000 gig so we can supplement income? Because, oh, my God, we just created a mass amount of income, and now it feels like there's nothing coming in.

Do we veer off course in order to supplement? And then how do we wind up back on course? We have to know that what's meant for us is meant for us if we stay the course and we stay laser focused. Because what I want to say in the focus is, do you remember when you were a kid? If you're anything like me, Luke, I know that you did this. I just. I have a feeling that you did. Did you go outside with a magnifying glass? Did you capture the sun? Because light can be a nightlight, it can be dim, it can light your path, or it can be as sharp as a laser.

And when you take a magnifying glass out and you find the sun, you can literally start a fire. Now, I don't. I'm not a pyro. I don't want to start any literal fires. Risa, you did that? It did, Risa. It was cool. Stress doesn't go with this. I want to start literal, or, I'm sorry, I want to start figurative fires with my focus, but I have to be self aware enough to know what's taking me off course and what giants I'm letting get in the way of my path and what the antidote of fear, or the antidote to fear is action, movement.

And that is where we constantly are finding grace for ourselves and where we are in our business, but we know that we can't stay still. So if you're feeling a giant or if that fear is, is knocking on your door, just one step and a step can be something really small to move you in the direction of maintaining that. That focus of keeping sight of your perspective, that's. That is your vision, that is your north Star action. Keep moving forward because failure and fear is inevitable. But quitting is optional.

And we know that we are not quitting for anything because we know that we have something really special. And we know all of you who are tuning in now, live or watching it at a later time, you guys have something so special that the world needs. And if we allow these giants to just come and knock us down and stop our gifts and our skills from helping people literally change the world, that we would all be doing a disservice. So that's our message today, is feel the fear and do it anyway. Keep focused.

Keep focused. And I want to end. Whether you're religious or you're not, you know the story of David and Goliath, right? It is one of the most storied stories in history. And I just think, had David not faced Goliath, had he continued to let Goliath talk s*** about his town and his people, he wouldn't have been king. So what giant is keeping you from being king or queen in your respective area of your life, of your family? What giant is that? What giant aren't you facing? What. What are you letting get in the way?

What giant is in your way of moving towards what you're supposed to be focused on? So with that Cadre fam, we hope you have an amazing rest of your week. If you want to continue this conversation, we'll be in the community feed. You know our emails. Drop in, send us a line. What giants do you need help overcoming? Because we are happy to help you do that. Until next time, everyone. Bye.