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Good morning. I'm going to give it a second because I'm not in my normal spot. I'm out of town today, so I just want to make sure you guys can hear me okay. And that my connection is good. I apologize in advance for the shakiness. I have to just hold this thing. And you know how animated I like to be when I talk. So I'm gonna hope that I don't make anybody dizzy with my movements. Let's see if anybody jumps in. Give it one more second and I'll get in with my message. I am in sunny Boulder. It is so beautiful.

I'm on my. Good morning. Hey, guys. Okay, is my connection okay? I'm just gonna let you guys let me know. I haven't started my message yet. I wanted to give everybody a second to jump in, let me know if my connection is okay and if you can hear me and I'll get right to it. So I am in Boulder. I'm hanging with my nephew. He had his first day of school on Thursday, 8th grade. You guys remember the days? Oh, my gosh. So freaking cute. So I have a story for you that I hope will help you. And I'm about to get, like, really vulnerable because it was a tough situation.

So a while back, somebody close to myself and my family really messed up. They really hurt us. And I feel like I never got the opportunity to hear from this person. And I've just been harboring some really tough emotions about it. And I recently had the opportunity to chat with this person. I bumped into them randomly not long ago, and I stopped them in the middle of the street and said, we need to talk. And it was really a tough thing to do. You know, in moments of conflict like that, don't you just want to, like, run the other way and keep stewing on it?

Right. Because it's so much easier sometimes to just keep stewing and stewing and stewing. Creating narratives in your head, being angry at this person, not really closing the book, but always having it in the back of your mind. And instead of just continuing to harbor those feelings so many years later, I felt like it was just creating a huge blockage in my body and in my heart and in my mind. And instead of running from it, I faced it head on and I called that person out and I was like, you really hurt me.

And surprisingly, this person took full accountability and said, whatever it is that you need to say, I'm open to hearing it. I'm willing to hear it. And I just got to speak my truth, unapologetic truth, my full truth. The reality of how I was feeling right to the person instead of behind their back, instead of in my head, right to their face. And I got to just unleash. And the way that it played out in my head wasn't exactly how it went down. You know, in your head, you want to have, like, a movie moment where you have a big monologue about how hurt you were.

Everything is so eloquent. There's no tears. There's just a pedestal for you to stand on and a soapbox for you to shout it from the rooftops. But it wasn't really like that. It was choppy. There were tears. There were moments of anger. We were both shaking. It was a really raw, vulnerable moment. And when I finally got to lay it all out there, I actually felt really sad for this person. I felt sad about the way that they probably existed. I felt sad and bad about how they have to live with the choices that they made.

And I really just kind of felt a lot of pity for them. And then all of a sudden, the things that I wanted to say that might have been really hurtful to this person really didn't matter. And what mattered is that everyone deals with their own consequences in their own way. And it's hard enough to have made a mistake. But to encourage somebody's shame spiral instead of saying, listen, we all make mistakes, isn't going to do anyone any good. And I realized in that moment that I needed to let it go, that the drama wasn't worth it, the stories I was telling myself in the head weren't worth it.

And this person was already living with the pain of their mistakes every single day. And so my message to you today is to free yourself from whatever it is that you're holding on to, and to free somebody else and to forgive and forget if you're able to. But help them move on. Help them see the change and be the change. Don't perpetuate negativity and perpetuate shame and bad feelings. It doesn't get anyone anywhere. I learned that this person has since given up alcohol, seeked professional help, and really wanting to make a change in their life.

So that's really all I could ask for. I encourage you to go out, forgive someone. Forgive yourself. Remove the blockages that are preventing you from focusing on the really, truly important things, which is your own health, your own wealth, your own kindness, and your own big goals. Don't let somebody else's mistakes and problems stand in the way of your dreams and your accomplishments and what you see for yourself. I'm gonna catch up on the comment here. Sometimes it's best to just hash things out with others to get things off your chest no matter the outcome.

It's a big weight lifted off your shoulders. I couldn't agree with you more. I feel a lot lighter. I feel like I can move on from it. I feel like we can stop talking about it, and I really just hope that this person can do the same. So anyway, I love you guys. It sounds like my earbuds might have just cut out. Oop. Sounds like my earbuds might have just cut out. So I hope that you heard that last part, but I just wanted to say I love you guys and I hope you have the best weekend and I hope that you can go free yourself or free somebody else from whatever blockage is holding any of you back.

Love you. Have the best day.