Make Your Dreams Come True!

Happy Friday. Good morning. It's Friday, like it always is when I'm here with you guys. I just really look forward to my Friday mornings with you. I have had a crazy week this week, and this day just kind of crept up on me. So anybody else kind of feeling that, like, whoa, where did the week go? Where did August go? I feel like August is almost over, and I just blinked my eyes, and poof, it was over. So I'm going to give it a second to see if anybody jumps in, and then I'm going to get going with my Friday message today.

Making your big dreams come true. Just out here working toward it every single day. Got my coffee. Cheers. We're doing this. Okay, so I have a fun one for you guys today. I am in this phase. Good morning, junk food junkie. Oh, I'm so glad you're here. Okay. This is gonna be. This is gonna be, like, a message today. I am in this phase of my life where I am dating, okay? I have been single for six years, and I am starting to get back out there and date and giving people a chance, because let me tell you, for the last six years, I have been like, mm mm.

Stay away. I'm doing my thing. I'm working on myself. I'm taking time off of drinking. I'm on my wellness journey. I'm building a business. Get out of here. But I have opened the doors, opened the floodgates to allowing people to take me out on dates. And last night, I went out with this guy, and I didn't know what my message was going to be today, but I just felt really strongly that I needed to share this one. I was talking to this guy that I was out with, and he. The subject about kids came up.

And for those of you who know me well. What's up, Cadre? Family? Luke, everybody. For those of you who know me well, I'm almost 42, and I've always wanted to be a mom, and it just hasn't happened for me, whether that's not finding the right person that I want to do it with or maybe choosing to invest in my business instead of freezing my eggs. Or maybe it's just the fact that my life has taken me to a million different cities and a million different jobs and taken twists and turns I can't really control when I have kids.

No one can. Right? People try to get pregnant. They can't. People don't try to get pregnant, and they do. Life is like a box of chocolates, okay? You just don't know what you're gonna get. Thank you, Forrest Gump. And this guy asked me, well, what about kids? And I said, well, what about them? And he said, do you want them? Or what's the deal there? And I said, well, I always wanted to be a mom. It just hasn't happened. Life has sort of happened, and there just hasn't really been the right opportunity, and there really hasn't been somebody that I wanted to do it with.

Right. And I said, you know, just the option really hasn't been there. And he said, well, the option is always there. And I said, yeah, I guess it could be. And he was like, well, I mean, and you could have settled. And I just kind of looked at him, and I was like, yeah, I could have. And he's like, yeah, I mean, so there have definitely been, like, people that you could have had a child with that you've met along the way. And, you know, that option to settle was there. And I was like, thank you for serving me on a silver platter.

What? My message is going to be on my livestream tomorrow, sir. Yeah. Yeah. I could have settled. I could have settled when I was 18 and stayed in my hometown and gone to community college because I had to leave four year university and finish school because my mom wanted me to, because that's what people in societal norms were doing. I could have absolutely settled and stayed there. I could have settled and stayed at the hair salon that I was working at in Boston because I had a great job and they had a chair waiting for me, and I would have had a career in hair for the next 2030 years, and it would have been so easy.

I could have settled and stayed there and not moved across the country and picked up and packed up and moved to a city site unseen with a bunch of girls and lived out my dream life. Totally could have settled there. I could have stayed with boyfriends that loved me, that wanted kids, that catered to me, that took me out to dinner and bought me gifts, and, you know, seemed like great boyfriends, but they drank too much and had their flaws that were non negotiables for me. I 100% could have settled and stayed with those people.

And then where would my big dreams have been? In the toilet, because I probably never would have launched my business. I could have settled and stayed in New York City and had a steady paycheck and continued to work in pr in the fashion industry because I was getting paid every week and I was meeting great people, and I was getting us published in national magazines, and everything was great, and I could have settled and stayed there and not gone back to college to finish my degree because that was on my list of goals and been thousands of dollars in debt.

But to have pay off in dividends and completing a goal was worth it to me. So I wasn't gonna settle and stay at that job in New York City at anybody's expense, at my expense. I could have settled my entire life. That is my message. My message to you is you have the choice to settle. Are you gonna settle down on the date with the guy who tells you that you could settle 100%? No. No. I don't want to be with a partner who tells me that I could have settled and I don't want to settle for something that is not going to serve me.

Nobody should settle for anything less than what they want. When you choose to settle, you are choosing a static life. And I don't know about you, but I don't want mediocrity. My big dreams are not going to happen. If I settle, if I settle for the food that didn't come out right in the restaurant because it would be uncomfortable for me to say something to the server, it could ruin my stomach for the night. There is no way, shape or form any chance that I'm going to settle for what I want and what I deserve and what I am working toward just to make other people feel really comfortable in their quiet little lives.

So my message to you is, be choicefully where you're at right now. Choose yourself. Don't settle. Don't choose the static life because it's easy and it makes other people feel good. Go after what you want and live a dynamic life. Now I can breathe, and he will not be getting another date. It just, it really got me thinking. I would never say to somebody, you should settle. You could settle. It's not how I would coach my friends, my family, or anyone that is looking to have a growth mindset or to accomplish their dreams.

And that is my message to you today. Sometimes settling, because that's what people think you should do, keeps you from chasing down your dreams and what you want out of life. I could not agree more. And when somebody is presenting to you the choice to settle, run the other direction. That person is not going to understand your mission, your goals, your passion, your vision for yourself. They're not gonna get it. And they don't have to. It's not for them to get, it's for you to get. You don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

You can nod your head and say, yes. I could have settled. Check, please. Anyway, I love you guys. I hope you have an amazing weekend. Do not settle. If you ordered the Boston cream and they gave you the chocolate glazed, send it back. Love you guys.