What’s In Your Toolbox?

Y'all ready for this? Katri? It's Tuesday, the day after Labor Day. How. Feels like a Monday, but it's Tuesday. All right, y'all, we're getting turned up on this Tuesday. Y'all ready for this? Okay. You know, we just thought we'd bring a little energy, a little energy, a little music to the start of our live today. Music can literally change your cells, your mood, your energy. So why not start off with little jock jams? I believe that was from space Jam 1994. Yes, if I'm not mistaken. Yeah, I think there's different, you know, different ideations of it, but that original.

Definitely in the nineties. Definitely in the nineties. Space jam. Space jam. Space jam. It's up in. It's up in the Spotify. Spotify playlist. How y'all doing? Happy Tuesday. The day after Labor Day. I'm assuming. We're assuming that all of you had an extended weekend, which can be so nice on the front end, but so confusing on the back end. You feel like this is the Mondayest Tuesday ever. You are right in the same boat with us. You're in good company. Company. It takes a little shaking it off to get back to business and good mindset to tackle your to do list and all of the things that you've got set for this week.

And I think what we want to talk about today is something really simplistic. I don't mean easy when I say simplistic. Don't confuse those two things. Simple is not easy, but simple is confidence. Confidence, confidence, confidence. One of the biggest questions that we get asked on a daily basis is how do I help my girl, our girls, be more confident. So if you don't know us, if you're tuning into this live for the first time, it's the first time you're seeing our faces. My name is Mary. I'm Jill.

We are business partners and best friends. We own a company called Girls Mentorship. So we teach life and personal development skills to teen and tween girls. But what we know is there's a teenager in all of you, and you could stand to learn these lessons as well. So confidence. Let's get into it. Let's get into it. Confidence for us. Because truly, it's September. I can't believe that it's already September. Do you remember, ooh, the 21st night of September. Another earth, wind, and fire, reflection.

I mean, we're gonna go, baby dJ Mj. But it is September. And it's a good reminder not only that, it's the first of the month or the first week of the month, but. But it's a good reminder to get back into a good routine, good habits. So when we are talking about confidence, it's about keeping the promises to yourself. So something that I've been struggling with and having a challenge with is my back. I threw out a rib last week, and it really took me down mentally, physically, emotionally, and even this week.

Yesterday was Labor Day, was Monday. I woke up today, though, and I was like, I'm gonna do something that makes me feel good regardless if I can't go to the gym or not. So a promise that is important to me is moving my body, because when I can have time for myself show up and move my body in some type of way, I get to be a better person for those around me, not only for myself, but for those around me. So the promise that I kept to myself this week, that I am keeping to myself this week, is getting up regardless if I'm struggling, feeling the pain, but I'm going to do it anyway, because that's confidence for me.

So it's about finding yourself in that story, right? Because I have a similar promise that I'm making to myself. But what we really want you to glean from this is, where are you not keeping your word to yourself? Because if you're not keeping your word to yourself, if you're not keeping the promises you make to yourself, that's when your confidence starts to go down, because you're not doing what you're saying going to do. It is obviously very easy to not hold ourselves accountable, because who else is there to say it, right?

If I say it to myself and I don't let anybody else in on what that promise is or what that agreement is, I don't have anybody else checking in on me to say, hey, are you doing that thing you said you wanted to do? Which that's another layer of confidence that you can build in. You make the promise, and then you rope somebody in. So Jill, for instance, she's gonna get roped into the promises that I'm making to myself so she can hold me accountable to them. Guess what? You're not gonna want to wake up every day and do the thing that you said you were gonna do.

Motivation is a lie. Motivation is not something that you just wake up with every day to want to do something. Discipline is the thing that you have to go by when you're trying to continue to keep the promises you make to yourself. And discipline and confidence are neck and neck in terms of how you build them right. You build your discipline and your confidence hand in hand with one another by keeping the promises that you say you want to make to yourself. So I, for instance, I haven't worked out in eight months.

That's crazy to say because I love working out. Working out is something that I built a career off of. I owned a gym. I've worked in gyms, I've managed gyms. I've worked with hundreds of people throughout my gym career. And I recently quit my gym chapter to jump into doing what we're doing with girls mEntorship. And I needed to literally and figuratively break away from MAry, who was a gym rat, to Mary, who is now trying to build something else for herself. And with that came a total break. I broke mentally, I broke physically, I broke emotionally.

And I just really haven't stepped into a gym, moved my body in the same way. So for me, after about eight months, it's time to find myself in that again as just Mary. So I have worked out for the past four days. That's not a lot compared to some of you, but it is a lot for me right now. And I'm going to keep that promise to myself. And what does movement look like? It looks different to everyone. Again, find yourself in the Story. It could be an hour walk. It doesn't have to be lifting weights. It could be yoga.

It doesn't have to be anything in particular. But what are the promises you're keeping to yourself? Because that is how you're going to build your confidence. And it's one step at a time. That's what I was going to jump in and say is don't try to look at your entire life and fix it in one day because then you're going to feel overwhelmed, you're going to get burnt out and you're going to just quit on yourself. And then it's going to feed the story of you, you know, breaking promises to yourself, I'm not good enough.

I'm not good enough. So what's one thing I love that Mary shared, that she literally had to break from everything and it took her eight months. So it's not. And not to say that she hasn't kept promises, but there were other areas in her life that took priority to then. Now say, I'm welcoming back that peace in my life that I'm ready to really focus on. So that's the conversation, that's the motivation today that we wanted to bring to you all. Watching this live or the recording of it is where is a promise that you've talked about, and it just kind of lost its spark.

Where can you bring it back to the forefront? What's available for you now? Or what are you welcoming back into your life that you can recommit to? Because the two of us are also recommitting to our promises, and this is real for us. Like, this is what we're dealing with on a daily basis. And it's important because if we're going through it, we know someone else is going through it, too. So confidence equals keeping the promises to yourself. And I want to point out really quickly, Jill said, it's taken me eight months.

Guess what, y'all? I had expectations that it was going to be about two or three. So I put some mismanaged expectations on myself, which made me feel even worse because I had a deadline that I didn't keep either. So I want to point that out as a total aside. It's like, drop the expectations you have of yourself and build in tools for you to be successful. So don't put totally misplaced expectations on a situation where you don't think that you can actually do that. I'll never forget meeting Jill one of the first times.

She was a store manager at a place I was working at. And the story she was talking about within this staff meeting was just what she said around one step at a time. It was running a marathon is a big thing on people's bucket list, for whatever reason, it's a great physical and personal accomplishment. But if you've never run a marathon before, do you think you're going to get out there and run 13 miles or 26 miles for the first time? No. That one step. That first step is like buying the shoe. The next step is actually putting the shoe on and wearing it around your house so you can make sure that it feels good, it fits.

The next step after that is doing that same thing the next day and walking to the mailbox. Right? Because as simple, again, simple does not mean easy. As simple as those steps are, they're what's laying the foundation for you to actually then run a mile, and then two, and then three, and finally build up to 13 or 26, whatever you decide to do. But it's literally not placing the expectation that you're going to buy the shoe and then be a runner, because you're not it. It takes time and effort, practice energy in order to create the habit that it takes to be a runner.

So it's literally keeping those minor, those mini promises to yourself, macro promises. In order to get to macro results. Yeah. Okay. So what's your thing? What's your promise? What's your promise? I want to know. We're going to start a chat in the community board around what your promises are. And, you know, our promises are to move our bodies because we're a better person when we do that for ourselves. So you can hold us accountable on that, too, because we're no different than you in this game.

So where have you been breaking them? Where are you gonna start making them cut off? Y'all ready for this? We're ready for those promises, y'all. We're ready for Em. With that, enjoy the rest of your week. Have a fantastic day. We will see you on the next episode. Bye, everyone.