What’s In Your Toolbox?

Are you talking. Hi. Hi, Daydream believers. What's going on on this Tuesday? Tuesday. Jill and I are here. We're here in the office doing all the work, you know, making changes, pivoting, doing all the things. And I think we just. This is going to be a quick and dirty one. How many people have done the same thing over and over and over again and expected new results? So, if you don't know us, my name is Mary. This is my best friend and business partner, Jill, and we own a company called Girls Mentorship, where we teach life and personal development skills to teen and tween girls.

But those teen and tween girls have parents, and usually, you know, they get their ideals from their parents. So that's why we're here, because we know what we teach girls applies to you as well. So my original question, how many times have you done the same thing over and over and over again and expected the same result? Handful. Handfuls of hype. Just handfuls of hype. I need to learn this lesson because it happens more often than I want to admit to. So we're. If you've watched any of our videos, any of our pre recorded any of our lives, we're big acronym girls.

And the acronym that we have for you today is DSD. Any. Any wild stabs at what DSD might stand for? Junk food junkie. What does it stand for? What's going on? Junk food junkie, how you doing today? DSD. DSD stands for do something different. If you want a different result, then you have to do something different. Right? We're creatures of habit. It's our monkey brain. It's our lizard brain. Whatever you call it. We're meant to keep ourselves safe. Meaning, back in cavemen days, we were meant to avoid run ins with saber toothed tigers and woolly mammoths, which totally have respect for that.

I wouldn't want to get eaten or trampled by one of those either. But we have advanced in terms of where we are right now and what we're capable of doing. Yet our mind hasn't advanced as much as our surroundings have. So we're very akin to doing the same thing and expecting a different result. But what. What's that gonna get you? What is it getting us right now? Nothing. It's frustrating. It's making us feel like we're on a hamster wheel. It's making us feel resentful or maybe feelings of burnout.

And we're talking personally. This is real life. Like, we're really trying to elevate where we're at in business, and we'll take a few steps forward and then a few steps back, and then a few steps forward and a few steps back. So it feels like we're on this never ending hamster wheel. But the cool thing about having awareness is that we get to ask ourselves the question, what's not working? What is working? So that we can shift and adjust and pivot accordingly so that we can seek a different result.

We can feel a different way. So see yourself in that example. See yourself in. Well, I don't want to say see yourself in business, but where in business, or where in your professional life are you looking for a different result? And what do you need to do differently? Or where in your personal life do you need to look at and ask yourself the question, what do I need to do differently to see a different result? For me, I'm a parent as well and I am constantly asking myself, especially parenting two kids, I have to parent them differently.

I can't expect one result with one kid that's going to work the same way with my other child. So this is real life. We're coming to. You live being really vulnerable and transparent because we're in it with you and we want to support you in where you're at. So let us know whether it's in the comments or in the community feed. Where are you stuck? And not just saying that as your answer, but what are the steps to get unstuck so that you can yield a different result? What's your DSD? What are you doing different?

Do something different. If you expect a different result, that means you have to be a different person. Like, you don't have to change your Persona or your hairstyle, your makeup or your clothes, but you have to take different action in order to get different results, which can feel really uncomfortable, really confronting, really scary. You can be fearful of that different thing because you're unsure of what the result is. But if you don't step out and try something new, you're going to get the same result you've always gotten.

And that can equally feel like s***, like fear, like confrontation. So you have a choice. You're basically at a crossroads, and you can take the same path that you've been traveling down, or you can DSD do something different and take a different path. Let's do it. Yeah, other than that, we'll drop this conversation. Actually, sometimes the result you're looking for may not be the result you were hoping for, but the result may turn out to be the perfect one. At the time. And that speaks so highly to human nature.

Right. We have this control. We expect certain results. We have this expectation of how it's gonna go. But realistically, we have no control over how anything is going to go. And something might turn out in a way that we weren't expecting, but it could be better than what our mind had in, had thought of in the first place. So I love that you, like Jill just said. Yeah, I love that you called that out, because it might also give somebody tuning into this the permission to release. Right. Jill gives this beautiful example.

I feel like it's part of her yoga teacher training in terms of control, because what is holding on to something so tight? Do my knuckles change colors? My hand changes colors, cutting off the circulation. I'm literally cutting off the circulation. So if I was holding something like my dog in my hand right now and I was squeezing this hard, I'd be cutting off the circulation, not allowing new things to come in, rather than releasing that control and opening up your palms to receive whatever it is that is coming your way, whether it's in a result that you expected or not, but in that you got a DSD, you have to do something different.

So that is our challenge to you today. Just kind of take a 30,000 foot view. Like Jill just asked, where are you getting stuck? You don't have to know the why of why you're getting stuck, but are there areas of your life where you keep hitting a wall? And if there is, which I have a sneaking suspicion that a lot of you are like me, which is why you were on this app to begin with, there's probably multiple places where you're getting stuck, and being stuck in the mud sucks. However, it is part of the process, and it is something that, if you are willing to unpack it and look at it, and like Jill just said, have the self awareness around looking into it, it's going to be your test that turns into your testimony for you to be able to turn around and say, hey, hey, I see you back there.

You're stuck in the mud, like I was stuck in the mud. And here's what I did. Right. Your trials and your tribulations get to turn into somebody else's survival guide, and that's a beautiful thing. But you have to be willing to clear and look at the process and not. Not try to work through it. You're never gonna. You're never gonna work around something. You always have to work through it. Sometimes you gotta do something different. So let's DSD together. Go, fam. And we will see you on the next episode.

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