Make Your Dreams Come True!

Good morning, Cadre family, coming to you live from my clofice, my messy closet office. But you know what? We don't judge around here. We just don't do that. So I had a little time change going forward, and hopefully people can join at this new time. I know a lot of people are tuning in from the middle of the country and some people from the east coast. We've got some people on the west coast as well. Hopefully this earlier time works for them, but I am super happy to be here. I feel like it's been a minute, even though I know I just went live last week.

Hopefully we'll get some people joining in here. Okay, I'm gonna go ahead and get started. Cheers to Friday. Happy Friday. I love Fridays. They feel like a Monday to me. I always book clients on Fridays because it just keeps me in momentum forward momentum. I don't like to ramp my week down on a Friday. I like to ramp it up because it just keeps me energized through the weekend and going into a strong Monday. But today I wanted to talk about a quote that I read that inspired me, and I have a couple of what I'm calling magic moves for you in the business space or just in life.

But if you are an entrepreneur, I think this message in particular will stand out to you. But the quote goes as such. Some people want it to happen, some people wish it would happen, and some people make it happen. And I keep a note in my phone of all of the quotes that really impact me and, like, hit me in the chest and stop me in my tracks. And it's getting to be quite long because the words we speak are so important. And, you guys know I've talked about inputs and what we ingest and what we hear.

And sometimes these words just, like, really hit home for me. So I keep them on my phone so I can refer back to them. Also, I have a terrible memory. So if somebody says to me, like, what are some of your favorite quotes and what inspires you on a podcast, interview or something, I can go back and be reminded of what really does keep me ticking. And this quote really stuck out to me because I think in life you can sit on the sidelines and you can think about things. You can be a big dreamer and you can, and you can wish it to happen.

And we love dreaming here. I'm all about that. I constantly live in a space of dream stasis. I've talked about that a lot, where I always believe that my big dreams are just around the corner and I just have to keep working toward them. But then there are the people who go out and they actually make it happen. They are not seeing life as a spectator sport. They're not sitting on the sidelines. They're actually doers. And I think being a doer is a really special way to live because when I get into conversation with people who are in awe of what I do or really impressed or feel excited about what I do for work, and they say things to me like, oh, I could never do that.

I think to myself, like, gosh, how sad is that space that they live in? And how quickly could they probably turn that around by just changing their mindset? But I think about it, it's like, why can't you do that? Why couldn't you do that? And so this quote resonated with me, and I wanted to share some of the ways that I consider myself a doer and how I really go out there and do. And I'm going to call them my magic moves. And there's a few of them that I'm going to share with you today. The first one.

And it's all about being strategic, right? Like, if you have a goal that you are going after, and I'm using this in the entrepreneurial, as an entrepreneurial space example. But I think that this can apply to anyone. It's all about strategy, and it's all about thinking outside the box, and it's all about standing out from the crowd. And I think that the people that really make it in this world and really make their big dreams come true and really gain momentum in their life, they're thinking about how they can be different and they're not afraid to be different.

And that's me. That's me. I don't know if that's you, but the first move that I want to talk about is this. Write this down. Find a way to be in the room even if you can't physically be in the room. What do I mean by that? Well, here. Here's an example. A mentor and friend of mine is coming to Arizona and is giving a speech next week and invited me to come here and speak. He's speaking with his wife, who is a household name and another prominent person that I haven't met in person yet, but that they're really good friends with.

And they know it's in my backyard. So I was invited to come hear them speak, which an incredible honor. I'm going to be in New York City. I can't believe it. I changed my trip and I would have been here had my trip been the original dates, but I needed to cut it short because I have some stuff going on, and I was so unhappy to report to him that I could not be there. But of course, the way that my brain works and the way I want your brain to work is I'm still gonna find a way to be in that room, even though I can't physically be there.

So what did I do? I hopped on instagram. I figured out who's running this event, and I sent them a message and said, hello, my name is Risa. I have a friend coming to speak at your event next week, and I was invited to be there, but I cannot attend. I will be out of town. Can I connect with you and leave something in the green room for. For these people? I just wanted to leave them a little note and some goodies before they take the stage that I think would put them at ease and just help them feel welcome in Phoenix.

And I got a message back from him immediately, and he was like, that is so kind. Absolutely. Here's my assistant's number. Connect with her. And now it's turned into back and forth banter. How do you know this person? How do you know this person? We're so excited to have them speak, and I've, like, built a rapport with the founder of this event, and we're gonna meet up for coffee the next time he's in Phoenix. And it turned into an opportunity. But the most important thing that I think I did out of all of this is I found a way to be in the room even though I wasn't going to be there.

So I was top of mind for these people, and so they know that they're important to me. And I think that that goes for any relationship, whether that's a business relationship, a relationship that you're in. Finding a way to show people that you know how to show up for them can make or break your big dreams coming true and get you one step closer to making an impression. Networking with the right person, or just showing somebody that you know how to show up, which always comes back around in the best way possible.

So find a way to be in the room even though you might not be able to be there physically. That is my first magic move. Second magic move. Book the trip before you have something on the calendar. What do I mean by that? I am flying to New York City next week for a client. Said client did not book me before I decided to book the trip. And you can use this in any circumstance, but what I decided to do, and I give this advice to people all the time who are asking me for mentorship advice. I decided that I was going to book the trip, then I was going to contact said client who is across the country and I don't work with on a daily basis but want to be working more with.

I booked my trip and I said, hey, I'm going to be in New York City on these dates. Is there anything I can help you with? And all of a sudden it has turned into me dressing her for a national tv appearance and then a huge television collaboration with another television show. She has her own show and also helping her set up her closet at her new apartment and maybe putting some outfits together. And it's turned into four straight days of me working with her. I created an opportunity that didn't exist with a little bit of money out of my pocket, and it's very uncomfortable for me to have to go to New York right now.

I have a ton going on. I have a bunch of weddings that I'm working in the next month and going to, but like, I have all these things happening and New York is expensive. I don't care how you slice it, I don't care how much money you have or don't have. New York is an expensive trip, but I created opportunity before it existed. And my advice to you would be to book the trip or plan the thing and then create opportunity around it. I always give this advice to entrepreneurs. I always say, if you want a meeting with somebody, contact them and tell them that you're going to be in their area.

Find out where they live, tell them when you're going to be there and see if they're going to be in town and see if you can get the meeting. If they say yes, those dates work for me, then book the trip. They don't have to know the difference, but create that opportunity and book whatever it is before it actually happens because you just never know where it might lead. And the last thing I want to share with you is related to this t shirt. So in my company, we create, we have fashion emergency kits for brides, and we also do, you know, fashion emergency tools that we sell in our marketplace.

I wanted to start to give back and collaborate with somebody in the philanthropic space. And I have been affected by cancer a ton in my family. I lost a sister to cancer, and I lost two grandparents to cancer. And other family members as well have been affected by cancer. And I knew that I needed something near and dear to my heart. And there is an organization that is based in my home state of Maine that I didn't even realize I had a connection to. And the minute you start thinking about something and you start putting yourself in the room with the right people, things start to come to fruition.

So, long story short, I was able to get a zoom and discuss the opportunity of us giving back a portion of our proceeds to this foundation, as well as providing them with one of our rescue kit items to keep in their center. And the Zoom meeting happened a couple days ago. And I wore this t shirt because it comes from a guy who's from Maine who created these shirts to help suicide prevention and bring awareness to suicide prevention and help people feel not alone. And give a portion of his proceeds back to suicide prevention and helping people who have been affected by suicide.

And I wore this t shirt knowing that they were based in Maine. And I had no idea. I thought it would just be a great conversation piece. I actually collect t shirts that I think would be a great conversation piece and wear them around the right people that I think would be interested in this shirt. And I can get more into that. But I wore this shirt on purpose. There was a strategy behind it. I didn't wear, like, a business suit or a blazer or a dress or whatever. I wore no makeup and this shirt.

And I brought the shirt up and I said the name of the brand, and they said, I can't believe that you're wearing that shirt. We just had a meeting with the founder of that company who was based in Maine, and we're going to start working with them. And it was a great way for me to find common ground, create a conversation. And who even knew that they were already in communication with that brand? What did that do? It strengthened my relationship to them. It showed them the causes that I support. It was a conversation piece.

I think it was a strategy that people don't necessarily think about when they are going to be in the room with somebody. It isn't about who has the most money and who's been where. It's not about that. It's about connection. And if you can find the connection to someone and really do your research and think about what might be meaningful to them, you never know where you're gonna end up and who's gonna say yes to you. So my other magic move is to think about who you're talking to and find a way to connect with them through what you say, what you do, what you wear.

In my case, because I'm a wardrobe stylist, it's about what I wear. And I will actually go to the ends of the earth to find a t shirt that might be meaningful to somebody, just to send it to them if it's a vintage or archive piece, just to create conversation and to let them know that I care about what's happened in their past and what's happened in their life. So those are my magic moves. Find a way to be in a room even when you physically can't be there. Find a way to connect with someone through what you wear, what you say, or what you do, and then book the trip before you have the gig or the meeting.

And when I say book the trip, it could be anything. It's just hypothetical. But for me it is. It was. And I created that opportunity and said I was going to be there before I actually had a purpose to be there. I knew that it would come to fruition, and it did because I made it happen and I made myself physically available to them. So leave your mark. Be the top of mind for somebody. Be creative about getting what it is that you want and really think about how you can connect with somebody on a deeper level than just finances or material things.

So I hope that that inspires you to go out and make your own magic moves and be the person that makes it happen instead of the person who wants it to happen or only wishes that it would happen. So I hope you guys have a great weekend. Let me know what you thought of this live in the comments or in the community feed. And I hope you have an amazing September. m. Take care.