What's In Your Toolbox?

It's Tuesday. Hi, Cadre. Hi, Cadre fam. How are y'all doing? If you notice, yes, Jill and I do have matching sunglasses, different colors. It was an Amazon special, and they're our favorite. They fit our faces so well. You may have also noticed we're sitting outside, which in Arizona has not happened in. In a really, really, really long time. Yeah. Literally since June. Yeah. May, July, August, September, October. 4 months. We're almost out of October. And even last week was in the hundreds here.

So, I mean, I think this week still has some hundreds on it as well. So we thought it would be an awesome time to talk about the changing of seasons. Yes, of course, there's the literal changing of seasons. We're going from summer to fall. Fall, you know, the rest, winter to spring. Right. But we thought we'd talk about it more in a literal, or, I'm sorry, a figurative type of way, because the changing of seasons for people can be hard to handle in terms of it feeling like a winter. So winter, you look around and everything is dead, right.

All the leaves have fallen off. It's cold. It feels like nothing is growing. You're hibernating. I would love to know, by show of hands, though, I can't see you, how many of you feel like you're in a winter season right now. And I think this one is particularly important to bring up because we work with teen and tween girls, so change can feel really dire to them in the moment. It can feel really like this, like, oh, my God, oh, my God, oh, my God. My whole world is crumbling down. Life, if a friendship dies or if an opportunity doesn't pan out in the way that they expect it to.

But really, we would love if you yourself, watching this, could embrace the mindset of embracing the chill. And if you're able to embrace that mindset, you're able to pass that mindset on to your daughter. So what is embracing the chill? Well, first, before we get into embracing the chill, my name's Jill. It rhymes with chill. So we wanted to introduce ourselves. Jill, Mary. We're with girls mentorship. Mary just said that we work with tween and teen girls, and although we work with girls, we love coming onto this platform to talk to your inner child, to speak to the younger version of yourself and have you tap into that place while we're on these lives.

Or if you are a parent listening into this, how can you get the message that you need for yourself first before then being the example for your kiddo? Well, and I love that there's two of us, because one of us always remembers the introduction. So great job, Jill, in introducing who we were and what we're on this platform. We're enjoying this. We're enjoying this outdoor vibe, the vitamin D. So let's get back to getting what you need for you so you're able to pass it on to your daughters. Winter can feel winter is coming.

What popular tv show did that come from? Winter can feel like. It's like Jill said, a season for hibernation. Like, things are dead, things aren't growing. But realistically, during those times that seem really still or challenging, they're really great opportunities for introspection and growth. Because much like the analogy that you can't have light without darkness, you can't have spring without winter, things don't happen overnight, right? So you can take your time when things don't feel like they're happening, when things aren't growing and flowing super quickly, for you to really have a time of self care and introspection and brainstorming and brain dumping and idea mapping.

So by the time that sun starts to come out again for you, it is go time. You know exactly what you need to do and how you need to do it in order to make moves happen. I wanted to share something that really spoke to me. I watched a video today on TikTok, and the message was about chaos and clarity. And as when I think of winter, I also think of holidays, and it's chaotic. The energy is exciting, but you also feel like you are on just overdrive trying to get everything done. And your gas can is filled with gravy.

Exactly. So this is also a moment for you to either choose and decide that you want to be tied up into the chaos of what comes with winter, or you can capitalize on winter for you to seek clarity. I love that. Yeah. And we're both from Colorado, so in terms of, like, literal clarity, when you go outside, when it snows, it is crisp, everything feels clean, and everything feels very quiet because snow does a really good job of absorbing sound. So I'll never forget and or take for granted going outside after a fresh and just being able to see for miles and hear for miles.

So I love that because obviously, when people think of snow, if they're not from a place that snows, they probably think chaos. Because the roads are icy, you're more likely to get into an accident. We've gotten snowed in several times, so really, you can pull both figurative and literal examples from that analogy. But we are coming onto. I mean, October 31, Halloween is really when the holiday dash starts. So I love that. I love that tip. Like, how can you seek clarity in chaos and not get sucked in to the whirlwind?

And before you know it, we're at January 1. What is my New year's resolution? And I'm not prepared for this. Exactly. You are prepared. You are. That's why you've been on this app. That's why you've been consuming this information, to slowly prepare yourself. So by the time spring comes along, you can spring in action. Right? That's our blooming phase. Spring moments are a time that we often see our hard work or introspection come to life. That's where we get to see that perseverance muscle really get to shine and to work, because all of the ideas, the brain mapping, the things that we brain dumped are coming out, and we get to see the literal fruit of our labor.

When the snow clears, when the gross. I mean, sleet that gets all dirty and gets all over your house, the mud and the muck, we're mopping that out of here, and we're making way for our brand new ideas to take root and to start to blossom. Spring, to me, is a time where the birds are chirping. There's fresh green all over the places, but it's just starting to sprout. It's actually a really beautiful time here in the desert. We don't live in Colorado anymore, so when I think spring in the desert, I mean, the cactuses are actually blooming.

There's flowers that are coming up, the birds are coming out of their homes in the cactuses. It's such an incredible time. Yeah. And the energy is alive. So I love this call out, because a lot of times we get caught in the trap of January 1, where then we start thinking about what's ahead. If we can start 90 days out of where we want to go, and we're at about 75 now. So you're still within the realm. You're still within the realm, which is perfect. And why this is a great conversation to bring up, because we want you to be prepared in order to feel like you're ready to take action come spring.

And really, how we want to end this conversation is saying that every season has its reason. And for spring, like, encourage your girls to try new things. Right. There's new beginnings that can happen. So whether it's picking up a new hobby or mending an old friendship, spring is perfect for that. And that is the. Every season has its reason. So this is a big picture perspective. So maybe in winter, your girls lost a friendship, and she feels like something died in her life, and that really hurt her.

Spring comes along, and it's given. Winter has given her the time to really go within and mourn the loss of that thing in order to spring into action in the next season. So make sure, you know, that she's not honing in or make sure that she knows that she doesn't have to niche down and look at that one thing that's happening in her life, but that one thing is made up of several other things going on along the way as well, and that it's. It really, all of it serves its purpose. Yeah. I think of my plants over the season, even though we're in the desert, it still gets.

It gets pretty chilly at night. It can freeze here. And if I'm not mindful of covering the plants, you know, they're gonna get. They're gonna get nipped, and they. They die. But what's really wild to me, every single year in the spring, they come back. They do. So just know that every season has its reasons. The roots are taking its place. It's finding its way. And even though during these other seasons, that's getting piled on top of these roots, it will come back. So these are really great conversations to look within and then be able to support your kiddos, too, around where they want to go.

And the last thing we want to know is, what should all be in for Halloween? Do we have, like, some. Some awesome Halloween costumes? Yeah. Family costume. Anyone being Travis Taylor and Travis Kelsey. What else is. What else is bump in this season? I know. Barbie. Oh, Barbie. Obviously the Barbie. And Ken. We're gonna see a lot of those. So I'm excited to see the spins people put. Obviously, the mark of a good marketer, which Taylor Swift is, is if you can pick them out on Halloween. So with her eras tour, you obviously got to see her through her eras.

She's got reputation, and Jill knows more than I do. Totally. But for her Halloween costumes or her costumes, what she wears on stage are very notable as Halloween costumes. So she's given people a plethora of ideas to emulate her during the holiday season. So just another little tidbit of information there. If you want to take it, if you're marketing, make sure people could recognize you on Halloween. Absolutely. With that, y'all just remember, put it on a post it note, write it down, say it as an affirmation.

Every season has a reason, and if you feel like things are not working in your favor right now. This might just be your winter. So embrace it. Don't push it away as if it doesn't mean anything or it's not gonna serve you where you're at. Yeah, they're breadcrumbs. So it's okay that it didn't work out. Take it as a piece of data to collect, and then have it help you move on to the next. Because one thing we don't do around here at Cadre is quit on ourselves. Absolutely. If something doesn't work out, we go back to the drawing board, and we revamp the program to get back out there and do it again.

So, that's right. That's our final. That's our out. We will see you on the next episode of Toolbox talks Tuesday. And with that, thanks for tuning in. See ya. Bye, everyone.