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What's up, Cadre? Can I be honest? It's the best time of the week. I'm here, you're here. We're here. Together we have non alcoholic libations, and more importantly, we have another opportunity to learn, to grow, to heal, to release, and, of course, to sip. I wish you could feel my heart right now. I get so excited, truly, to come be in this space with all of you, to hear what you have to say, how your week is going, the things that you're experiencing. If this is your first time in this space. I'm Doctor Charryse Johnson, a licensed clinical mental health therapist, mindfulness practitioner, and author who is passionate about helping you understand your innate ability to experience peace and harmony in every area of life.

If you do the work for those that are just coming on, it's great to see you. Good morning. If you're listening to this in real time, good afternoon and good day for those who will listen to it later. I miss you all, too, but I love seeing your name, I love seeing your comments. So continue to bring it because you know that I am now, those of you that have followed me or are following me in other places, I told you this morning to come ready. It's one of those mornings. I'm excited and you know I'm gonna have a great time sharing what I have for you, no matter what.

Tag somebody. Text somebody and encourage them. Get in here, get motivated, get a word, get some education, get some insight, whether it's for me or one of the other incredible providers on here. But let's get to work. Let me take another sip before we get started. And cheers to those of you who also have your coffee or tea. So we've been talking about mental fitness, and we spend a lot of time. What is it? Why is it important? What are the benefits? Why do I need it? Do I really have it? Do I really have it when I need it?

And all of the above. But let's be real. There are also moments in our lives that the work is hard and slow and frustrating. And we may ask ourselves, is it worth it? Well, the answer to that is always, yes, the work is always worth it. In the words of AA, it works if you work it. And that is something that you can apply in every area of your life. The other thing that I'll say to that, if you are in a situation, in a moment that you're going, is it really worth all this? I don't. I don't know. What other choice do you have?

What's the alternative? What's the cost if you decide to stay where you are? That's your first thought that I want to give you to reflect on if you decide it today. I'm done working. I'm done trying to grow, to heal, to increase my ability and my potential to operate in any area of my life. I'm good where I am. Oh, okay. But what's the cost of you staying where you are? And not just the cost to yourself, but what's the cost to your children, to your family, to your business, to your income, to all the areas of your life that also hinge on your desire to continue to grow?

And it doesn't mean that you're not satisfied with self. I want you to understand that you. You can be content, you can be satisfied, but you have to be careful, because being too satisfied can turn into complacency, mental fitness. And being in a place of mental strength and operating in that strength in the moment of crisis, in the moment of need, allows you to do something that's gonna be the focus of our conversation today, which is to have a ripple effect. I remember when I was a little girl, and I don't have a ton of memories, honestly, of when I was a child, because it was traumatic, if I'm honest.

But I do remember that for a small, sweet season of life, we lived in a neighborhood close to a pond. And I remember thinking it was so cool with the people that I was hanging out with, the little guys that I was hanging out with, because, you know, I was a tomboy. That's. That's not new information, you know, I know how I look right now wouldn't really tell you all that, but under there, it's true. That being said, I remember just hanging out at the pond, picking up tadpoles, running around, all the little things.

And I remember I loved watching the boys who could pick up certain stones and throw them across the pond, the lake, and create a ripple effect. So the other day I was driving, and I saw some kids doing that, and I was like, oh, my goodness. Moment of nostalgia. And then the download came. And you're about to get the download. Ripple effect, if you are taking notes for your personal work. So I want to define it for you first. A ripple effect is basically a situation in which one thing causes a series of other things to happen.

Where one thing causes a series of other things to happen. So what I want you to ask yourself, reflection point number two is what's having a negative ripple effect in your life? And I'm going to sip and give you a moment to think about that. Where is there a ripple effect happening in your life that is not having a healthy impact? And who's at the root of that ripple effect? And what are you doing to stop it or to alter it? So me being the nerd that I am, proudly, I said I want to do a little research around a ripple effect.

What causes a ripple effect? Love this definition. So a ripple effect. And I want to read this because I don't want to mess this up. A ripple effect is caused by initial. An initial disturbance to a system that propagates outward to disturb an increasingly larger part of the system. I realize that's a very heady definition, but stay with me. I'm going to say it again. An initial disturbance to a system that propagates outward to disturb a larger part of the system. When you're mentally fit, there's going to be a level of disturbance that is necessary for your growth.

But if you will allow that disturbance, that disruption, one of my favorite words to propagate, which means to spread outward, then it creates a larger ripple effect integrator system. In other words, when you heal, so does the world around you. So does the people in your life. So do your children, so do your coworkers. So do the people that you meet in the store and say hello to. And they feel seen for the first time ever. And you had no idea that that could have been a day that they wondered, does anybody see me?

So the whole purpose mental of well being isn't just for us. It's because you were designed to have a ripple effect. But in order for us to have a ripple effect for other people, it has to start here. And a lot of times, let's be honest, I'm gonna sit first. I suggest you do the same. We want to have a ripple effect without the disturbance. We think, well, if I get dressed really well and I look fit and look happy and excited, then I'm going to feel powerful and emulate something that people will want.

Wrong. You're just faking a front and you know it. Because when a true ripple effect is in place, what you say to yourself is going to be different. And you can have a ripple effect while still healing. Let's acknowledge that. But it's greater when you're actually doing the work that you're trying to do in other people's lives. Let me also say there is no outer to inner ripple effect. That's not how it works. There is no. If you do good things for other people, then all of a sudden, that's going to necessarily help heal the parts of you that need change.

You'll feel good, you'll have a great dose of dopamine. You'll have this outer appearance of being well. But what matters is who you are in stillness. What matters is what you believe about yourself. Without all your titles, without all your credentials, without all your certifications. If the things in life that feed your ego were gone, and we all have an ego state, who are you and what do you believe about yourself? And if what you believe about yourself is different or based on what you do is founded in productivity instead of purpose, then you have a false ripple effect happening in your life.

Some common ripple effects that occur and take place in all of our lives. Your words, how you communicate your thoughts. And yes, I'm separating the two because we often have thoughts that are very different than our words. We can sip to that. Your choices. Your choices really show the effect of the ripple effect and which direction that you're going. Because you can talk a really great game when it comes to your mental well being. You might even work towards having a few good thoughts and keeping those other negative thoughts.

We all have about 60 to 70,000 of those a day, all of us at bay. But your choices are going to tell on you. Because if your words are out of alignment with your choices, there is no ripple effect in place. You are again pretending, and you can continue to do so. But I want something better for you. Two other aspects of ripple effects that are common in our life. Your appetite and your relationships. How you nourish yourself. Your words and your thoughts and your choices and your appetite. And not even just your appetite for food.

Your appetite for success. Your appetite towards being seen. Your appetite towards belonging. Your appetite towards what you view, your appetite towards how you spend your time, how you spend your money. The things you crave will tell you a lot about the direction of your ripple effect, the lack of a ripple effect, and the true nature of your mental fitness and your relationships. The people in our lives have a ripple effect. That is why it is so important for you to surround yourself with people who are like minded, who are working towards similar things, or at a place where they have the fruit, the evidence of the things that you're working on, because it's going to continue to stir up that ripple effect in you.

Next reflection point is, how are the relationships that surround you creating a ripple effect in your life? Part b of that question and is, are you holding yourself responsible for the relationships that are having ripple effect or are you telling yourself that you are a victim of the relationships that are having a ripple effect? Yes. Heavy. Today I was nice and light and educational for many weeks, and this is nice and educational, but sometimes we need to do surgery on these lives, and today's the day.

I want to wrap us up with a seven at seven. Seven impacts of a ripple effect or seven principles of a ripple effect. You can figure out which word you want to use. Number one, you have to understand that ripple effects. Number one, small changes can lead to a significant ripple effect. Some of you are struggling to have the ripple effect that you were designed to have because you're doing too much. You are trying to do too many things in too many areas of. Of your life. It's a small disturbance that creates a significant ripple.

So I want you to take all the goals that you have in all the different areas and pare them down. It doesn't mean that you won't get to the other areas, but you can't work on all of them at the same time. Number two, small cheats can lead to significant loss. So just like small changes can lead to significant process progress, number two, small cheats can lead to a significant loss. So this is for those of you, maybe not you, maybe the people who will listen later, who are really cheating yourselves out of the ripple because you're still dabbling here, you're still kind of popping off at the mouth here.

You're here out in public, and then you're here in private. Those of you that are not being consistent with your appetite towards a lot of things, small cheats create significant loss. Most people don't meet their goals because of the small ways that they poke holes in their boat on the way there. Think about that. Even a tiny hole will let out water. And all of a sudden you look up and realize you haven't gone anywhere. Then I need you to take inventory of the small cheats in your life. Number three, the most important ripples are those that lead to change outside of us.

Ripple affects happen at a certain point of disturbance on the surface of the water. If we're talking metaphysically, that then creates a ripple effect outward. If we think about it from a emotional, energetic, spiritual state, it's a small yet significant impact that happens internally and spreads outward. So the whole purpose is for us to affect what's around us, because then and only then, will you be operating in your true purpose. So if you're self focused and all of your time and energy is spent on what do I look like?

What do I sound like, what do people think of me? I need you to create a ripple. I need you to turn the mirror and realize that there's a world that's just waiting for you to show up as you. And they're good with that. And they're waiting to be touched and changed by your true and authentic nature. Because nobody can do that like you. Number four. Ripple effects. Build on your strength. Start where you are. You don't need to be at a certain place before you can be effective. That's a lie. That is something that the world likes to tell us, that you have to look a certain way or be a certain thing.

People will often ask me, oh, my goodness, is it so different for you since you were able to get this or that? And I say, I am who I've always been. You just listen more because of the letters behind my name. But as far as I'm concerned, this mouth and this brain has always been here. And I'm okay with that. But I'm also aware enough to know that it's not the letters behind my name or even in front of my name that truly create the ripple. It's something inside of me. It's something inside of you.

It's the work that we've done so that who we are shines outward. Number five. A true and lasting ripple effect encourages you to. To adapt and be the driver of your own experience. It is time for you to stop pointing fingers and blaming everyone else or looking for everyone else to be the driver of your life. To tell you that you're good enough. To tell you that you're doing well enough. To tell you that you're qualified. To tell you that it's possible. To tell you that you're capable. At a certain point, you have to stand in your own ripple and go, I'm here.

I'm about to disturb something. And the impact will be seen. And who it's for, it's for. And who it's not. It's not. Number six. Ripple effects require movement, friction, and breakthrough. Oh, that might be my favorite movement. You have to be light enough to be picked up and thrown into the direction that you need to create change. So if you are bolder and weighed down with all the past repressed, addictive dynamics of your life, that's a heavy lift. It makes it very difficult for you to do anything but to collect dust and mold.

Sitting where you are on the side of the shore, there's a lightness that is needed in order for you to be picked up and put into position, there will be friction. But that friction is necessary for the disturbance. So don't think that friction is a sign that you should always retrieve. I've never seen a ripple effect. Retract. It goes and it spreads until it smooths out and it joins the new system. Keep going. And number seven, ripple effects start from the center and work their way out. When I say I'm passionate about helping you experience and understand your.

Your ability to experience peace and harmony in every area of life. If you do the work, it starts here. It starts here. It starts here. This is your midline. This is your center. It's an internal to external process that starts at your core, getting healthy, doing the work, uprooting the junk, and then it allows you to spread out. My reminder to you today is that you are destined to have a ripple effect. And when you are in a place that you are surrendered to that process, surrendered to the friction, surrendered to the work, surrender to the reflection, being intentional, moving, being honest, being open with your truth.

It happens without you even knowing. It doesn't have to be big, but it does need to be consistent. Right? What do I say? Eat the meat and leave the bones. Take the pieces of today that are for you and work on them, and take the pieces of today that are not, and share them with someone else. I charge you as you go from this point and until we meet next week, to really work through the pieces of reflection that I mentioned. To work through the parts that made you go. Oh, why did you have to say that?

Because you needed to hear it. And to remind yourself every day that you were designed to have impact and that the work is worth it. Knowledge is never power without application. So listen, apply, and share this with someone who needs to be reminded of who they are and that what they're going through has purpose. Until we meet again. I'm so glad you came. I always appreciate our time. Cheers.