Tales Of Leadership: Promises

Happy Thursday, everybody. Luke Wendtlandt here, your chief motivational officer as well as your resident leader when it comes to leadership and development practices. But the reality is, here, all of us at Cadre are. We're all leaders. That's what we're here to do, and that's what we're served to do in the mental health and wellness space. So today I want to talk a little bit about promises. You know, there's a variety of different things that happen. You know, whether it's. You're working at a corporation, starting a new enterprise, developing relationships, talking to your children.

You know, we probably all said this, like, I promise you, I promise you. And the. The reality is, is sometimes those promises don't come to fruition. What do you do? Right? What do you do when this happens? When this happens where promises don't come to fruition? What's. What's a win for you? How can you handle this situation? What. What will work? What I would encourage you. What's up, Risa? What I would encourage you to do is to be honest. So, let's say, for instance, there's. There's a promise that you made, and it didn't.

It didn't work. Sometimes you have to eat your words as a leader. So, again, looking from a. From a top down approach, like it's okay to come to your next of kin of those individuals that you work with and say, I just want to let you all know, like, this isn't going the way I thought, and there's a lot of things that can happen. The government can change the rules. Sales may stop. Tech advancements may not go the way that you want to go. The development of a product or services hits a snag. There's a variety of different things.

So the best laid plans are just that. They're the best laid plans. But with that being said, I think it's always important to identify when it's not the best laid plans. And the promises aren't meeting what you, a, intended to do, b, have told somebody about, and c, are trying to execute on. I'm guilty of this. I'm 100% guilty of this. As a leader, where you make a promise, I'm also guilty of as a parent. Right. Hey, Cam, we're gonna go to my cam's, my six year old boy. Hey, Cam, we're gonna go to a movie last week together.

We're gonna get some us time. Guess what? Didn't happen. So what do I need to do? I need to tell them I'm sorry. I apologize didn't work as planned. You also need to do that as a leader in your business operations or the individuals you get the privilege to work with in the same regard. Hey, I'm apologizing. This. This didn't go as planned. I know we had some promises we didn't make. Those, those things didn't meet where we wanted to. Totally sorry. Apologize about this. Let's move forward, see what we can do.

And sometimes it may sever relationships, and that's okay, too, but it's best to be honest and talk about it rather than building resentment and all those things. So, again, when it comes down to promises, you know, I really encourage you to think about, you know, intention action. Intention action. Intention action. You hear me talk about that all the time. You know, from the intention based perspective of a promise and the action surrounding it and the lack of follow through or the follow through and the lack of execution.

There's always two sides to every coin, of course. Right? Two sides to every situation. But again, I do encourage you to look at those promises that you make, especially when it comes down to individuals that you get the privilege to work with at your organization, whether it is working up as your supervisor, your people that you report to, your report through, etcetera, and also as a leader, as you're overseeing individuals down. Promises build truths. Truths build trust. There's no trust. It's really hard to be able to move an organization forward.

Jason says, good evening, Luke. Love the hat. Love the tree. Thanks, man. We got many more of these came from. I bought a bunch of them for the Cadre platform. So I want everyone to know right away. If you email me, lwendoland. L w e n d l a n D. Tadre IO. And you send me a message, and you say your name, your address, I will get those to you. And that's a promise. Claire. Good evening, Claire. J's. I'd love to add another level of restoring integrity. Get in their shoes and ask how. Yes, that is so right on the money.

And that's also another level of empathy. Jason. And I completely agree with you because we've all been in these spots. I can promise you that. We've all been in these. These spots where we've talked to somebody, we've communicated with somebody, whether it's work, friendships, the people that you love at home, family, the kids, partners, all the things. And I have a feeling we've all been there and we've all done this. And so, you know, again, Jason's point is so valid, is to ask them how it made them feel, you know, how can you restore that integrity?

What does that look like to build that back up? And some individuals, you know, may choose that it. That it's not worth their time. Some individuals may choose that that's the end of the road, that's the fork in the road. And other individuals may choose to grow together. So you also have to figure out what's the other side of the coin with that, too, Jason. But great, great, great point. Really appreciate that insight again. Risa. Hi. Hi. Out in Arizona. I'm sure it's amazing. Claire, thanks for tuning in.

It's always good to have you all. But again, when you make promises, there's always an intention and action behind it, and your goal is to fulfill. To the flip side of the coin, if you make promises and you have intentions and actions, and your goal is not to fulfill, then you're gonna have a lot of problem. But if your goal is always to fulfill on your promises, then the reality is change is gonna happen every single day in all of our lives, personally, professionally, the businesses, all these things that are going to happen.

And how on earth do you understand all of those changes when some of them affect you and some of them don't? Some are in, some are out of your control? To try to identify then the next best process with your promise. There's one thing that's certain and one thing that is very. We can promise you this again, that every organization is going to change, and it will continue to change. And you have to ask yourself, am I changing with it? Am I going with it? Am I rolling with the change? Am I understanding some of these things?

Because then I think it'll give you a different level of empathy and insight into maybe some of the promises as well. But again, I believe most, I always look at the cup, 51%, half full, that most individuals that, you know, we probably come with the level of promise as that word of promise. But the reality is words have impact, and leaders have impact when it comes to their words. And this is something that, you know, I have to always have to check myself all the time. When it comes down to leadership, is, was my words clear?

What was the intent? And am I following it up with action? And if I'm not, I'm not going to not only go very far, but I'm not going to be able to build trust that the organization's not gonna have clear direction. There's gonna be tough communication, there's gonna be all those different things. And some of those times, I have to be honest with myself and say, like, I missed. I missed on this. And to go back to the drawing board and go to those, let's call it, trusted advisors, trusted individuals that you can talk to, to say, help me understand where I missed, that's so important.

So really look into not only yourself, but others when you talk about this, because those promises heard me say that a lot. Those promises will impact you. It will impact your future, it will impact your now, and it will impact your forever. So I want to end with this. Cadre had their first live event earlier this week. It's so crazy that I'm saying, like I was going to say last week, but it was earlier this week and it was unbelievable. Unbelievable live event where we gathered together a bunch of individuals together with all different backgrounds, and 40 some people did not know other individuals or maybe only saw them on a Zoom prior to the event.

And what I will promise you is we all learned a lot. We all learned a lot about one another. We all learned about a lot about each other. We all grew, when it came up down to relating to other individuals pasts, their presence, different healing practices, growing through them. And I really encourage you. I really encourage you to. This is live, and that's our family. Definitely live, and that's our family. We get a little argument every once in a while, too. But the next one that happens for Cadre, I'm just going to tell you, me personally, I had the most amazing awakenings through some of those two days as well.

And the next one that comes around, I can't wait for you to be a part of it and to join the journey and join the ride with us, because now it's also even for me. I got to see our presenters live in person and meet them and shake their hands and give them hugs and get closer to them as other human beings. And the power of human beings and the power of human connection is alive, well and strong. Do not believe everything you hear. That isolation and lack of connection exists everywhere in the world at Cadre.

The connection is real. And so, again, I encourage you that the next one that happens, I really encourage you to come. That was outstanding, and it changed my life. I called two people today and I informed that that event changed my life. And I have a feeling it will for you, too. I remember just real quick, Monday morning, we were talking to everybody and we were preparing for the event as the first conversation that we had out to the whole group that graced us all with all of our presence that morning.

And we talked about how this event and this moment in time will probably change the rest of our lives. And the reality was it was true. And here I am some 48 hours later, still digesting and still processing. And it was so impactful and so crucial, my life. So the next one that happens, I hope you all will be there. But I want to end with. I always remember this with promises. You know, my dad, growing up in our household, your word is your bond. And shaking your hand and your handshake means something.

Your word means something. And all those other things. You know, dad, sometimes I missed on that, and that's true. And that's being honest. But more often than not, I'm going to hit. But the times I didn't, they sting. And they still sting. So thank you for raising me the right way. I apologize for missing sometimes. But I'll continue to work hard to get better, which I hope every leader does. Have a remarkable day. Have a remarkable evening. Have the best weekend ever. Everybody's got Thanksgiving coming up.

Think about those gratitude lists. Think about those things that you're thankful for. And last but not least, remember, keep those promises that you make to yourself. That's the most important one. Take care of y'all. Have a wonderful evening. Say hi to somebody. Love.