Aloud: Things We Aren’t Supposed To Talk About

Cadre family. Good morning. It is Shannon from Alab. I am here in St. Paul. I am outside. It's a Monday morning. You can see the world is changing behind me. What used to be green is brown, and that's okay. All right, so, happy Monday. So, I'm Shannon, and I'm the founder of allowed and allowed. We are here to be a place to talk about the things that are hard to talk about as human beings. So today, I'm gonna drop some. I'm dropping some science on you. And I will caveat it with, I was an english major, so my version of science is like the C C version of science.

So I'll give you that. So there's my warning ahead of time. But so, as someone who has dealt with anxiety, CPTSD, and parenting a child with special needs, one of the things that I really struggle with is knowing that I'm worthy of care. And that's hard to talk about. Being worthy of care feels, for someone who takes care of others a lot, being worthy of care feels like it's sort of selfish maybe at times, right? With so much else happening in my world, so many things around me, and so many people who need help that might be more significant than what I need.

Taking care of myself feels like last on the list. But here's what I'm going to tell you. Here's where the science comes in. One of the things that I learned in therapy was that babies are born knowing exactly what they need. Okay? So if you've had a child, and obviously we all were a child at one point, though, we don't remember it, when you were born and when your child was born, they cry when they're hungry, they laugh when they're happy. They poop when they have to poop. Right. All of the things, they inherently know what they need, and they seek care for the things they need from their parents.

Now, what happens after that? As we all know, nature versus nurture takes hold. And so there's certainly a lot of paths out from there. But the point is, and the science that I'm going to take credit for today, is that as humans, we know exactly what we need. And so, good morning, Nikki. And so what we can do for ourselves this week, the thing that we can talk about out loud, even just to ourselves, is what you need, paying attention to what you need, acknowledging what you need, and giving it to yourself.

So today, for me, I have a great day ahead of me. It's a live event day for Kadra. It's our first ever live event. We're so excited. We're so excited to be together as a group. And I'm so, so happy and I'm giving myself that gift. But I want to remind you all as you're going into your weeks and you might not be starting your Monday surrounded by people who know that what you need matters. It does. And so I just want to say, pay attention to it, science, friends. Science gives you permission. Even if it's the c version of science, it still counts.

So I can't wait for. Yes. Thank you, Nikki. I know. So excited for the event today. Good morning, JC. I just want all of you to hear a voice today telling you as you start your Monday and you start your week, that you deserve care and you deserve to pay attention to what you need. Whatever that is. It's valid and it's real because science says so. Alright, friends, hope everyone has a beautiful, beautiful week. We will see you soon. And yeah, if you are in Minneapolis, in St. Paul and you want to check out our Cadre wellness event, we are here.

We'd love to have you. Thanks everybody. You are perfect. You're doing a beautiful job just being you. We'll talk to you soon. Have a great week, friends. Bye.