Live w/ Dr.Charryse

What's up, Cadre fam? It is always wonderful to be with you. I almost said to be in the house with you, but, I mean, we're kind of in the house. I'm in my house, you're in yours. We've got our morning non alcoholic beverages of choice. My beverage of choice today is actually raw organic cranberry juice with water and some dashes of apothecary tinctures, something that I've been incorporating in my own life, and I am loving it, and it's a phenomenal way to get my digestion going. All that being said, I'm doctor Charryse Johnson, a licensed clinical mental health therapist, mindfulness practitioner and author, and I'm here to help you stay mentally fit.

That's what it boils down to. I love the concept of mental fitness because it also helps reduce stigma. We know that mental fitness is absolutely a part of your mental health. But then let's be real. There are individuals who shy away from the dynamic of mental health and feeling like that's something for people that are crazy. Of course, I don't believe that as a therapist, but I want you to have the concept in your life that being in a good state of mind, body, spirit, mental fitness is something that we all need.

So as people come in, say hello, good morning, good evening, no matter what time of day it is, when you listen. Hello. Hello. I love your screen names. What's up? Beth screen Schofield. Beth Taylor. Oh, it's wonderful to see you. Yeah. For those of you that have chosen names for yourself, you'll have to tell me what your real name is if you want me to say, unless you want me to be like, hello, storm door, which I don't mind, but love seeing you all so much, I'm going to take a few sips and then we're going to go ahead and get started.

We have been talking about personality traits and specifically how they impact you, neuro, biologically, as well as your eating habits. And I also want to give this caveat as a foundation. I said it last time when we spoke, when we first started this, and I want to continue to say it, you will find that you have, hey, Terry. Different personality traits from all types. So as I talk through them, you're going to see yourself in all of them, but there's going to be that one dominant trait that you can discover through conversation or that one trait that you're going to see in terms of how you react and stress.

Hello, Lori Cohen. Good to see you. See you. But you know what I mean? So we're talking about type B personality. We talked about type a last time. I want to start by telling you, here's how this can be beneficial to you, or do I want to leave that to the end? You know what? I'm going to leave that to the end. Let's get into type B personalities. So type B personalities tend to be individuals who have a cluster of traits that are more flexible, more laid back, more adaptive. They tend to trend towards lower stress.

So things that would stress a type a out a type b is going to manage that in a much different way. They are typically fairly creative and patient. Now, again, because I know my type a's can be a little testy, it does not mean that you don't exhibit these traits as a type a. It just simply means, and you know who you are, that those traits are not dominant in your life. So if there's a stressful situation, the difference between how a type a and a type b will respond is a type a is going to go into, what can I do?

How can I fix it? This is a problem. And you're going to go to the nines when it comes to your aggression and your intensity around it, where a type b may sit back and go, well, let's kind of see how it all works out. Right. And really what we want is a combination of the two, because going to the nines and overcompensating in ways that you can't sustain isn't healthy. But also, type B's can be so laid back that they aren't initiators when it comes to something that could use their help. So other type B cluster traits, and this is more towards the areas of growth, as we would like to call them, that we see in type B's, that's going to be a tendency to procrastinate, being more passive and then a short attention span.

Again, you could be a type A and have a short attention span. But think about as a type B individual having a very laid back personality, a tendency to procrastinate and a short attention span can be a problem and will absolutely be a problem. So what do we see biologically in type B personalities? So type B personalities or individuals with that cluster of traits tend to have a lower risk of heart disease, which is phenomenal, and a lower risk of high blood pressure. So those are two benefits. Here are the challenges that we see, is, when it comes to your physical health as a type B, you tend to be too passive.

You don't maintain your healthy habits because you're so like, I mean, yeah, I know this is happening, but it's not the end of the world. Everything will be fine. So my primary issue and challenge to type B personality is that you minimize where your health is or you may start something and you kind of moderately engage, but you are not consistent. So if you find that you're a person that struggles with consistency and you want to do something, but not really enough to push start and get motivated, you may find that you're a type B personality.

Now, how does that also show up in your eating habits? So I said type a's tend to go through sweets or go to sweets and carbs when they're under stress. Type B's because you are laid back and just moving and flowing. You tend to be grazers and you want to graze on everything all the time. So it's not one particular food that you're after. You're going to go after whatever tastes good in the moment, regardless of where your health is, regardless of what you've been told about where you need to support your health, you're not going to beat yourself up, which is helpful ish, right?

It's helpful that you don't beat yourself up, but at the same time, you don't heed medical warnings very well. So now the place where, how is this beneficial? Individuals who are type A and have type B personality temperaments in their life may find type B temperaments stressful. One, because type a's you expect you out of everybody else. I'm going to take a sip on that note. But then type b, individuals who have a type A person in their life may also feel a little overwhelmed and shut down by the demands of a type A temperament.

So I want you to think about the kind of combination of those two pairings, both personally and professionally, because this is how we put it all together. And we go, where do you apply this in your life? Even if your temperament is a type a, the first thing I want you to consider is, where are you expecting you out of someone else? Yes, we benefit from one another. A healthy type A and a healthy type B that knows how to come together and see the best in each other and learn from one another is a phenomenal combination.

But let's take it in the, you know, coins of a partnership, a relationship. If you have a type A wife and a type B spouse, that tends to be a problem. Type A female overcompensates. Overcompensates. And type a's can be males, too. But I'm just using that as an example. Always trying to do all the things all the time because you want it to be your way and you want it to be perfect. But the challenge to that is then when your type B spouse comes alongside of you and tries to help, they can do no right.

So no matter what they do, it's not good enough. It's not fast enough, because the demands of being married to you as a type a is up to here. Well, over time, you wear down that type B individual, or if we take it professionally, you wear down that type B personality within your job role and you become very frustrated. I'm going to say something that is going to hurt some feelings, not intentionally, but I just know that it will hurt. If you're a type A individual married to a type b. You knew that they were type B before you married them.

You knew. You initially said, oh, I love them so much. They're so different from me. They're laid back and easy going. And so then what we find is you often take those same traits that you used to love and then you vilify them later in life. Type B individuals married to type A individuals, you thought her sass or his sass and his alpha characteristics and his determination and his grit was phenomenal. Oh, my gosh, they're so powerful. Now you're being crushed by it. And I want you then to consider, if we then take it into each element of your life, how is that then impacting your stress level and your relationship with food?

So when you think about the individuals in your life that aren't showing up the way that you would like them to, one, are you expecting them to be like you? And as a result, two, how is that impacting your level of stress? Which then, three, is going to impact your choices in terms of your food, your sleep, your activities and your daily life habits. So if you see yourself in any of those scenarios, I want you to really step back and think about how is that getting in the way or being a catalyst because you are stressing yourself out because this person in your life that you want to be more like you isn't wired to be that way.

And you go back and forth between demand and frustration or being shut down. And either side of the coin as a type A or a type b, when you're in an unhealthy element, you're then going to turn, if this is an issue in your life, to food as a way to ground, oh, this type Y person in my life, this type B boss in my life is not giving me what I need from this working relationship. So I'm frustrated. Which means you may be eating more to numb yourself and to deal with the dynamic. This type A person in your life is too demanding.

One thing we do see is that type B's that are in high stress jobs with type A managers, you will struggle, you will feel depleted and down and shut down at the end of the day. And as a result, you may then find that you go home and you eat significantly. Think about the times a day as well that you notice that eating is quite difficult. A lot of times it is towards the end of the day because you've held in and worked through all these different dynamics. But what I want you to understand and grasp as well as these traits and knowing that you can work on bringing in a balance of these cluster traits in your life is coin this back to expectations and recognizing how your expectations of other people to show up in life like you is going to be a common dynamic to how you will cause stress to your personality and temperament, which is then going to impact your health because stress increases your cortisol, which is your stress hormone.

And I won't get into all the dynamics like you know that I love to because I want to stay focused here, but that sets off a spiral which is going to change the way that you are able to show up with food. So here's my application piece for you wherever you land between type a and type b. If you are a type b temperament, although your laid back flexibility is so phenomenal, I also want you to take inventory and really ask yourself, where are the people in your life paying the price for your temperament?

And really, I want both of you, type a and type b, since that's all I've discussed before, to really ask yourself that, where is someone paying the price for your temperament traits? And because you have potentially said to yourself, this is just how I am, let's take it a little bit deeper. I've got a few more minutes. I even want you to think about that in terms of your children. If you are a type A parent of children that are not type a, you are likely creating anxiety. If you are a type B parent of children that are not, they may feel like you're not reliable or passionate about the things that are important to them because they want to see a spark.

They want to see you motivated to show up in special ways in their life. But you're so here that you may to them be detached. So it can go both ways. Where are you being too demanding? And where are you being so laid back that it is impacting the relationships in your life? Where are you as a professional potentially missing out on opportunities that you would actually be great for? Because people have caution about the intensity of your type a dynamics or the lack of physical, tangible motivation and initiation that they see out of you.

As a type b, you're fully capable, but you don't show it. And at the end of the day, it's not just about what we know about who we are. We also have this beautiful and powerful responsibility and opportunity to look at who we are and allow it to rise to the surface to help others feel secure in their connection with us on every level. That is the same level of balance that then is going to moderate your relationship with food. Because if we looked at type a and b around food, we would see them as type a, all type b, none.

And we want both of you to find your place in between of going, hey, even though this doesn't feel like an alarm to me, as a type b, I need to focus on the fact that my doctor told me that my a one c is borderline and I need to do something about it and not wait until there's a fire before I get activated, which will actually help my type a spouse calm down and not be so anxious that I'm not going to be around for a long time or that something is going to happen to me. It's important for us to consider how our temperament is causing stress internally as well as how it is causing a dynamic.

And the people in our life are paying a price because we are unwilling to acknowledge it and to moderate it. And then that's layered with poor and unsustainable eating choices that are based off of what we're feeling and our emotions instead of what's healthy for our body. That's it for today. Getting better and better about getting you guys closer to 15 minutes. Thank you for being here. Thank you for continuing to share. For those of you who follow me on other platforms, you've seen that I'm going to be doing a January 6 virtual vision board workshop.

You can find that information on my Facebook wall. It'll eventually be on my stories in IG and you can look on eventbrite. I would love to see you there and let's continue the work that we're doing. I love you all and have a phenomenal weekend.