5 Ways to Stop Living in Survival Mode: Step 4 - See a world where ____ is possible

Hi, Cadre friends. It is Shannon from aloud, and I'm coming to you today with part four in the series of how to stop living in survival mode. I am sitting in my car. If any of you take care of others, which I'm sure many of you do, you know what it means to have to wait in the car for somebody to get done doing something? And so I just figured, I'm gonna go really real and do that with you today. So. Okay. We are here to talk about step four of how to stop living in survival mode. Quick recap if you haven't watched the other ones.

Number one is to know in your gut that something isn't right. Number two is to say it out loud. Number three is to notice what starts to happen if this new thing that you've said out loud, if you start to live out in the world with it, notice how it feels, notice the good and the bad. Notice all the things. And then step four is to start to see a world where x can exist. So what does that mean? So you've said this new thing out loud. You started to live it out in the world. I'll use my own example.

If you go back and watch my other lives, you'll know that what I said out loud was that I thought that I knew that my mother wasn't the mother that I needed growing up. And so the notice for me in that, as I went out into the world, was that I was not inherently bad, but rather, I was given messages that were just untrue and that I actually am inherently good and inherently enough. So I noticed how that felt in the world felt very different. It felt lighter. It felt happier. It felt more true. And so then the next thing that I learned how to do was to see a world where x might exist.

What that means is for me to take this new feeling that happened when I believed that I was enough out in the world and how I would show up different in conversations and how I would trust myself to take care of myself. So if I had a feeling that I was like, is that right? I started to say, it's right. It's right, it's true, because, you know, because you are enough and valid. So seeing a world where x can exist really means you start to live with that all the time. And so instead of starting, instead of toggling back and forth between an old belief or an old truth that you thought was a truth, you start to live full time in this world where you are that new version of yourself.

So, being really real, this allowed thing is new for me. It's been in my head for a really long time. And wanting to give people a space, particularly people who put others first often, to know that that can be hard and to talk about it. And so I have that feeling inside me. I know that I believe that with all of myself. And now I'm really working on seeing a world where I can say that and I can be that person, and I can come to you all with incredible strength and gumption and say, yep, this is real.

Aloud is real. I believe it. And this is my new world. And so that's what I'm doing right now, honestly, with step four is I am seeing this new world, this new Cadre world, this new allowed world where the me that believes that we all need to be heard can exist. And I'm doing it, and I'm doing it right now by talking to you. And that's what it means. So it's giving yourself the belief that you deserve. And so that's what step four is, friends. It's hard, and it's also freaking amazing. So thank you for being a part of my step four.

Thank you for being a part of this world that I am starting to believe exists. And I know it exists because I see your comments and I see the things that you all say to me, and I know that what we're doing is making an impact, and that's my intent. And so that is the new world we're creating. That's what aloud is here for. And so I know it can work. And so I say the same to you as you go out into your life, as you are living the new things that you said out loud and that you noticed that they felt more right and they felt like you.

I invite you to see that new world and live that new world and share it with us because we are so, so proud of you for doing it, too. That's it, friends. That's step four. I will be sitting in this parking lot for another hour, so please feel free to make comments. Please feel free to dm me. My son is learning to drive, so I'm just sitting here holding on and knowing that my new world, where he drives, will also be a great one. So. All right, friends, thank you so much for joining me. We'll see you next time.

And you're doing a great job paying you. So thanks for being.