5 Ways to Stop Living in Survival Mode: Step 5 - Practice!

Hi, Cadre friends. It is Shannon from aloud. It is a Sunday night and I am here to do our last step in the five steps to stop living in survival mode. So I'm pimping my Cadre gear tonight if you would like a sweatshirt. Dm me. Excuse me. I'm not a big sports gal, so I'm team Cadre. So send me a message if you would also like to join team Cadre. All right, so today is the last in a series. And, you know, I've thought about. I thought about what to call this beyond how to stop living in survival mode.

And maybe it's how to learn to take care of yourself, how to come out as who you are. I don't know what the right topic is, but I know that this is the last step and one that never ends. So the other five steps, the 32nd overview. Know something is wrong in your gut. Know that something about how you're living in the world isn't in alignment with who you are. Say it out loud. Manifest it in the world. Notice step three, which means notice what happens. Notice how you feel when you manifest this new thing you said out loud in the world.

Notice if your body changes and how. How it might change everything. Step four is see a world where x might exist. So all the things you've been practicing, imagine if that was just your new world. Start to see that world where you just get to show up as this new version of you. And then step five, the one we're talking about tonight, is practice. So practice. Practicing never ends. Practicing is the part where I have a new. I go through something, I work through it with incredible diligence and strength, and then a new thing comes up.

And then I look at my therapist and I say, oh, my God, I'm going to have to just do those things all over again, aren't I? And she just. She smiles and says, yes, you are. And that infuriates me, and I know it's true. So what practicing means is you've just built this new world. You've built this new belief in your brain. You did the work to rewire something that wasn't working for you and to manifest in a new way in the world. And so step five is just practicing that. So I'm going to give an example that I've used throughout the series, which is, for me, the thing that I knew to be true in my gut was that I thought I was inherently bad, but my gut knew that I wasn't.

And so what I had to say out loud was that the mother that I had when I was a child just wasn't the mother that I needed. I didn't get the right messages when I needed them. Number three was to notice how it felt if I started to believe that new truth. So if it wasn't my fault, I wasn't inherently bad, how did I show up differently in the world? Step four was to start to see a world where that could just be my truth. That is my new world. So it's not like in some situations, I had to show up one way, and another situation, I had to show up another way.

I could just fundamentally start to just be good. Which, as you can imagine, as I say, that sentence is just life changing, impacts every situation and every role that I'm in. And practicing means that I continue with that new world. So I'm practicing right now. I'm practicing my new truth, That I am inherently good. By telling you my story right now, I'm practicing it in saying, yeah, I'm not a bad person. What happened to me was x and it was no one's fault. And this is the way that I'm now going to show up in the world because of that.

And that's why I'm telling it to you. And so that's practicing. And practicing actually also takes on another role in that. We're going to practice this new skill that we just learned. I'm doing that with you right now. And we're going to practice this our entire lives. We're going to practice knowing ourselves. We're going to practice finding the things that aren't in alignment with who we are. We're going to practice saying them out loud. We're going to practice all of these steps because if we do that, we will start to honor ourselves and we will start to know ourselves.

And that is how you can stop living in Survival mode. That is how you, you and what you believe and what you value and what feels right in your gut is the good version of you. It's the only version of you. It's the perfect version of you. And no matter what else you do, if you are a wife or a parent or sister or a friend or a lover or whatever you are, there is no version that is better than the one that is you. And you will know that because you feel it in your body. And so that is practicing. And it is an unbelievable gift and it is an unbelievable amount of work.

And for me, it's what's worked for me to know that I am good. And so I hope this helps you. I hope that these steps are something you can return to again and again. I'm certain I will talk about them more. But I just want you to know that if you do these things because they all stop and start with what you believe about yourself, they stop and start with what you know to be true inside your body and inside your soul. That you cannot go wrong. And so I hope this. I hope this is a gift for you, and I hope it makes a difference in your life.

Okay, friends, I will see you soon with more Cadre and aloud content. You are doing a beautiful, beautiful job being who you are. Thank you for being here with us, and we will talk to you soon from aloud and Cadre. Bye, friends.