Tracy Says.

Hi, guys. Happy Thursday. It's Shannon from aloud. Good morning. It is 09:05 here in St. Paul. It's actually sunny today and it's gorgeous. Okay, so today we are gonna do what I'm super excited about, which is a new segment called Tracy says. And so for those of you who don't know me, who might be a first time watcher, I am not a therapist. I have no psychological training. I have, however, excuse me. I have, however, been in therapy for seven and a half years. And I live with anxiety. I live with something called complex PTSD, and I also parent a child with autism.

And so those are the things that I have in therapy for. So just a few things. Hey, good morning, Abby. It's so good to see you. Okay, so as I said, I've been in therapy for seven and a half years, and I have this amazing therapist called Tracy. I'm gonna call her Tracy. You know, she does not want her identity to be revealed, but she has taught me some amazing ticks. Ticks. Wow. Tips and tricks in the seven and a half years that I've been with her. And so I want to talk about. I'm going to share one with you today.

And these are the things that if you have watched any of my other videos, the five ways to stop living in survival mode, all of that information is sort of my interpretation of what she taught me. So Tracy is an air network therapist. And essentially, I don't know exactly what that means, other than I know that it is typically, it's an integration approach to therapy, meaning we all have a lot of different parts of ourselves. And so for someone with trauma, you might act or behave in different ways at different times depending on the things that you live through.

So she's an air network therapist. Air network therapist. And so I'm going to juxtapose two things for you today. One is our culture of just do it right. Nike's slogan is just do it. Just get out there. Just go for it with the idea. Instead of, is it possible that someday you might consider x? Alright, so let's break that down. So, you know what? Just do a culture is I'm an athlete, and so I actually love just do it right. I love inspirational quotes. You. I am a sucker for all of those things. And I can absolutely get sucked into that concept of, you know, pull up your bootstraps, get out there, suck it up, you know, all the things.

And when it comes to our mental health and our emotional health, you can't always just do it. Um, that's not how your brain works. That's not how your body works. And so just doing it is actually forcing yourself into something that might not work for you. So what Tracy taught me was when I was facing something that felt too big to tackle, a lot of times for me, that was emotionally right. So there may be a person in my life that I struggle dealing with. It might be, I wish I could be this version of myself.

I know that I have this inside me, but I don't know how to get to it. What she taught me was, as I think about that, I feel it in my body, and I'm like, oh, God, that's too big. She taught me to start to say, well, can you consider doing it someday? And there were times when I would say, no, no, absolutely not. That feels like fire in my body. And I say, okay, well, could you possibly consider thinking about doing it someday? And I would say, that still feels a little tough, right? Like, at this moment where I'm at, that feels really hard.

It feels against what I'm feeling in my body. And so we would go. You can tell the pattern already, right? Like, we can go into this theme of, but someday, maybe, possibly, could you potentially consider doing this thing? And when it got far enough away that all I had to do today was think in my brain that possibly, maybe eventually, potentially, someday, I might think about this thing that feels really hard today. That was enough. So in that moment, in that day, that was successful. And by doing that, what I learned over time is I can inch towards the thing that I, in my body and soul, really want to be, really want to do, really want to get rid of, really don't want to feel anymore, really want to achieve and starts to get to this place where little by little by little by little, I was working towards that goal.

So for you, today, as we live in our just do it culture of change, be better. You know, just do it. Just get to that thing you want to be. Do it. All you have to do is get out of bed and push yourself. I want you to think about something that's hard for you and maybe that's a person in your life that's hard for you to navigate. Maybe that's a dream you have that feels so far off, but, you know, you have it inside your soul and ask yourself, okay, is there a world where I might possibly potentially think about taking that first step towards that version of myself that I want to be or that new kind of relationship that I want to have and get to a spot in that exercise where you can say, yes, I can do that today, and that's it.

And then you're a success today you're a success by being able to have that thought, sit with it, and it's. It's like a stretch. When you do a stretch in class, in gym or whatever, and they say, touch your toes and at first your legs feel tight and you're like, I can't get very far. But if you wait 15 seconds, they start to loosen, then you can reach farther and farther. It's exactly the same thing. So that is what Tracy taught me. Traci says that instead of saying just do it, Tracy says, is it possible that you might someday consider.

So I hope that helps you all. Friends, I'll be back tomorrow for my last live of the week. Abby, thank you for joining. It's beautiful to see you. Hope you have a beautiful day, Cadre. Friends, you're doing a fantastic job being exactly who you are today. And maybe someday, possibly, you might consider doing something else. Alright, guys, we'll see you soon here on Cadre. Have a great day.