SELK 75

Good morning, everyone. m. Central Standard Time. My name is JC Lapolt, and this is a live stream we do every week starting last week called Selk 75. If I've never had the chance to share space with you or be in conversation with you, thanks for the opportunity to do so. You have the opportunity to have space held at this moment with thought, with conversation, with potentially profoundness or humor or confusion. Maybe someone else will share a comment that makes you think differently, and that person will be the one who offers you some light or direction.

Today, that's what we do here at Cadre. So selk 75 soft, easy, light, and kind. It's in response to a challenge called the 75 hard, where for 75 days you do 245 minutes workouts, you drink a gallon of water, you read ten pages of nonfiction, you go on a diet, you take progress photos, and at any time that you fail any of these things, you lost. You start over, you failed. My thought is, culturally, we spend all of our time being told we need to be stronger, harder, faster, deeper. Go, go more, more, more.

That a challenge like 75 hard may be redundant and maybe more of the same. And so, in response, the selk 75 75 selk for 75 days, for 75 moments, you practice soft, speaking softly, considering your words. You easy. Take it easy. Grind aimlessly, less. Work easy more. You move light. You flex your grace, your ease, your nuance muscles, and you practice kindness. Sure, for others, but maybe more challenging for yourself. Joe Bajoy it's wonderful to share another Saturday morning with you. Today I want to talk about two of these points together.

Speak softly and take it easy. This morning when I set my alarm, or when my alarm went off about 27 minutes ago, I woke up and in a state of panic, as I normally do, I started taking care of things. I was out of town for a few days this week. My desk is covered with post it notes of things that I have to do. I have cardboard boxes all over the place. I have laundry that I need to do. Thinking ahead, where do I have to get to after this live stream? But in preparation, while I'm running around with my head cut off, I put it in my airpod and I listened to last week's selk 75.

Joe Pajoy I got to see your wonderful comment about being someone who cares for others as a coach and being here to care for yourself and to learn and to consider different things. What a gift. The main thing that I heard as I listened to last week's livestream was a tendency that I have I was a child who had a stutter. It wasn't until 6th grade that I learned how to pronounce my r. And as someone who spends my life as a storyteller, as a public speaker, I give myself a lot of grace to communicate in ways that seem normal and natural and authentic to me, and I also hope to others.

And in doing so, I am one of those humans who uses a, or, um, quite frequently. I do this on purpose, well, most of the time on purpose, to allow listeners who may be in a state of consideration or discomfort a friend in the silence. Silence is a hard thing to sit through, and if we, as communicators, don't acknowledge that often, our message can be lost to the anxiety of having a sit in silence. So I was listening to last weeks, and I must have said, uh, and, um, a thousand times, no judgment. Like I say, I try to be very purposeful.

But as I think back to my last couple of weeks and like this morning, I've been working so hard, I haven't taken it easy, which is not a passive act, right? Taking it easy is not the absence of work. It's consciously going, I'm going to do things that allow me to be soft, to be easy. So if you haven't noticed so far this morning, I am working very hard to speak softly. I think I've only said, uh, or, um, twice. And in doing so, this is allowing me to grind aimlessly less. I'm not attempting to get through the live stream so I can get onto my next thing.

I'm taking this moment with you, Jopa, joy, and anyone else who's out there. And I'll say, if you're listening in right now, say hi. Speaking softly, honoring even something like a greeting, allows you to actually have the impact that you have. Joppo Joy, you saying morning changed my life. Consciously using that one word to say I am here makes me know that I am not alone. And right now, I feel a lot lighter. I feel like I'm practicing some kindness towards myself by thinking about my words. How do you take it easy?

How do you work easy rather than work hard in your life? I'm curious. If anything comes to mind right now, feel free to plop it into the chat. Or as you listen to this later on, like I did to last week's livestream, consider where these moments show up. Selk, 75. This challenge is about seeing what there is to see when you start putting on those glasses of how am I? Hey, Luke. Good morning. Double exclamation point. Saturday morning. That's wonderful, my friend. When you put on the Cadre glasses, when you start looking at the world through the Cadre sphere, I think all of a sudden you start seeing a lot of things that are available to you to be well, to be supported, to be supportive, that maybe you didn't notice otherwise.

And Joe Pojoy, right on cue, you just shared exactly what came to my mind. How do we work? Easy. More we notice. We be present in the arena in which we are, in what is available to us that can make the moment more palpable, more potent, more memorable. I will go on with my day today, remembering my capacity to remove the uhs and the Ums from this morning's livestream. To offer you, on purpose, some silence, some time to think, some time to respond and digest. And I will remember this live stream because I chose to take it easy rather than working hard to be energy that maybe I have to muster up for you.

I'm giving you the energy that I have and saying my energy is enough and demonstrating that your energy is enough too. I would appreciate, as you think about there is an uh. Do you hear it? I would appreciate if you listen to this live stream how did it feel to have silence? How did it feel to have me slow down? Did it cause some anxiety? Were you wanting me to speed up? What does that mean? What do you learn about yourself in that moment? Did it feel good to hear someone on the other side of the screen go, wow, that person's working really hard to not be hard on themselves, to not go, you need to be better today.

You need to do more than you did yesterday. But to say right now, you have everything that you need because that's the k of selk. Soft, easy, light and kind. It's a lot easier to be kind to other people than it is to be kind to yourself. If you want to be super kind to other people, start being kind to yourself and see what happens in how you approach others. I appreciate that you appreciate the gentleness jump of joy. And I appreciate that I get to spend my Saturday mornings with you. Next Saturday morning, we will talk about moving light.

So we'll go into the physicality of our experience on this planet and how perhaps flexing our grace muscles, our nuance muscles, our ease muscles, may bring us strength that we never knew that we were capable of having. Hey, if this weekend is one of highness and holiness and joy and light for you, I hope it is bright. If this weekend is one that brings sadness and heaviness for you, I hope you know that you have a sphere of humans with a special intention here at Cadre who are lifting you up and are always here to listen.

And if this is a weekend like every other weekend, I hope you take it, Selk, and I hope you find some goodness within it. We'll talk to you soon. Have a good Saturday.