What’s In Your Toolbox?

It's 12:00 on the dot. I'm in my kitchen cruising the streets. We're not cruising the streets. We are in sunny Scottsdale. Only today it is rainy Scottsdale. A little early for the monsoon seasons here. But these two Colorado gals love a little bit of weather. We do. Enjoying the rain, bundled up, we are. It's a little chilly. I heard somebody on the radio on my way here ask for it to be summer. And I was like, no, no. We haven't even hit the, like, really, really nice weather here in Phoenix. That's coming at the mid end of February.

It's coming. Getting into March. Yeah. I will always say that. Scottsdale, Arizona, Phoenix, Arizona is the best place to be in February, March, because the weather is perfect and we have so much going on. We've got the waste management open. Barrett Jackson is happening. We are one of the lucky cities that gets to have spring training. Spring training. It's your birthday. It is my birthday. March 12. Hi, junk food junkie. Hi, junk food junkie. Happy Tuesday. If you don't know us and you're just winding up in this live stream and these random girls are talking about March and Scottsdale.

Yeah. Who are these gals? My name is Mary. This is my best friend and business partner, Jill. And we own a company called Girls Mentorship. So we teach life and personal development skills to teen in tween girls, which definitely makes sense given our enthusiasm and our exuberance, if you will, high speak wonder. We need to have this level of enthusiasm to be able to work with teen and tween girls. But if you are not a teen and tween girl, don't exit this live stream. Simply because we work with teen and tween girls doesn't mean what we teach them doesn't apply to literally everyone on this planet.

It's personal growth and development. We just happen to curate it towards girls who we once were, who desperately needed the message of personal growth and development eons before we were able to get it. And why we call it toolbox talks is because whether you are a parent, whether you're not a parent, it is so incredibly important to have tools that you can pull from when you are going through a challenging time, when you're faced with adversity, when you have to make a tough decision and you know how to make it calmly and and wisely without having it be like a knee jerk reaction.

So these conversations are so important to come here on Tuesdays, to have you or to take a little bit of time for yourself, but also then to then go and practice that in your world, whether that is with your family, at work, with your friends, the neighbors, you never know. So we always say that we like to raise the group average. I love that because of who we are and our presence and our energy. And yes. Do we have sad and bad days? Absolutely. The last few hundred percent. And our job is to know that.

We know that our energy can impact other people, but we know how to work through that. So we always want to leave better or we want to leave people better than how we found them. And that's our goal for you today. And you're right, jungfu junkie. Whether you're a grandparent, uncle, aunt, all very important people to teen and tweens, we interact with them every single day. A teen or tween is looking at you. If you're in front of them at the grocery store, they're looking at your mannerisms, they're looking at how you interact with the clerk, and they are taking from that.

Things are caught, they are not taught. So if you are just preaching at them and saying, this is how you should be, but you're showing up in a different way, they're going to act off the latter, not the former. So you're absolutely right to think of us as an entire community. So it's the target symbol, right? You're the red dot in the middle. You impact the circle around you. That circle then impacts the circle around them, and it continues out into the entire rest of the world. So when we're good and when we show up good for our communities, we can have a huge impact on anyone and everyone we come in contact with.

And that's something that Jill and I experiment with on a daily basis, whether it's with the person at Starbucks, the local coffee shop, the security guard at Target. There have been so many people who we've just interacted with momentarily who we've been able to raise that average for. And that is what we feel like we were put on this planet to do 100% today. Today's toolbox talk comes from something I'm doing in my personal life, which is 21 days of prayer and fasting. Now, if you are not religious, this does not have or need to be a religious connotation.

That is totally fine. I derive a lot of inspiration from certain passages in the Bible which I feel like work in everyday life. And today's passage that I read said, enthusiasm without knowledge is no good. Haste makes mistakes. And we're at a point in our business where things have been really slow. Hi, Luke. Hi, Luke. Things have been really slow for us, and that has weaseled its way into our mind to say, like, you should be doing more. You should have more things coming. If you're not doing all these things, then you're actually not succeeding and you're not going be successful.

And what are you actually doing? Right. We get those negative thoughts in our head around who we are and what we're doing when that doesn't. One plus one doesn't equal two in that scenario. So we've started to push on the gas, given that it's 2024 and we have these big goals and these big dreams for this year, and we've been reaching out and making connections and planning the plan and working the plan, and a lot of things are seemingly coming our way. But just because a lot of things are seemingly coming our way doesn't mean that all of those things are really great things.

It says repeating. I think it's proverbs 19 three, but I'll make sure to put it in the comments. It's enthusiasm without knowledge is no good. Haste makes mistakes. So in that with all of these things coming our way, we need to have discernment, because some of these things appear to be really great opportunities. And if we don't slow down and do our research on what these opportunities could be, they could wind up having the absolute opposite effect of what we want it to. Actually, I'll just remember and I don't.

Mary's gonna do a little research. I don't know about any of you, but I get really excited when new opportunities arise or there is someone who can support us in moving the needle forward in our business, and we just. Okay, okay, okay, okay. We also take. We're practicing the discernment with ourselves because someone will get to know our business or ask us questions about it and then offer advice. And sometimes we take that advice to be our truth as opposed to really assessing. Is that information for us, or is it maybe for us a little bit later?

Can we put it on the back burner? Can we put it on the shelf for later? So what we've really practiced over 2023. Thanks. Peak wonder. It's 19 three. There you go. Really, what the last year has taught us is how do we make sure that we're listening to our own inner knowing, our intuition, our intuition, our own inspiration. So how are we kind of shutting out the outside world to just be quiet so that we know that we're answering the questions that we have based off of the two of us, and not allowing other distractions or people or conversations to infiltrate that, because then that's when things start to feel like this.

And we're on tomatoes, we're on a hamster wheel. So this really spoke to us because we were like, dang, we're doing a really good job in 2024 around maintaining that enthusiasm, finding the joy in the little things, but making sure we're checking our sources to see if those conversations or those. Whatever those next steps are for us, that they're serving us. And I think a really good visual for that. Jill said that she felt in 2023 like she was a plastic bag. And I want you just to picture a plastic bag caught in an alley or in the corner of a building outside and the wind on the highway.

And if you've watched american beauty, you've seen this plastic bag, and it's almost like the wind is determining where it should go. So it's being pulled in every which direction, and there's no real anchor for it to anchor down and say, no, this is where I should be. The other visual that I love is if you've ever driven by a car dealer and they have those blow ups and they're all over the place. If you're not anchored in your mission and you don't have a good sense of your own intuition, and you don't trust yourself in your decision making process, that's what it can feel like.

You're just being pulled in every which way. And I just. I found this verse. I'll repeat it again. It's proverbs 1919. Three. Enthusiasm without knowledge is no good. Haste makes mistakes. I found that to be a really great representation of maybe how we operated in 2023 and how we don't want to operate in 2024. We want to make sure that we're doing a good job filtering or vetting certain relationships that come in and decisions that we make for the good of our business, because we're the only ones that have the best interest at heart for not only us personally, but for our business.

And this doesn't have to mean that you need a business, right? We talk from a place of our personal experience, right. Our lived experience on here. But I think this applies to absolutely everyone. And I just want to read jungfu junkies comment. Basically, it means, don't let Satan sidetrack you by making you think you're not doing enough and everything quickly enough. And God is saying, slow down and look at the big picture. We love to tell girls to zoom out. I was listening to somebody talk the other day, and it's like, decisions.

We automatically put things that happen at good or bad. And it's like, picture this. Picture a man who owns a farm, and he's got a horse, and he loves this horse, and he goes outside and he takes care of this horse every single day. But one day, this horse runs away. So his neighbor comes over, and he's like, oh, my God, how terrible that your horse ran away. And the guy goes, it might be two days later, the horse comes back, and he brings five of his closest friends. So now the guy has six horses, and the neighbor comes back over, and he goes, oh, my God, you have six horses.

How incredible. And the guy goes, it might be three days later, his son is outside riding one of the horses, and he falls off and breaks his leg. And the neighbor comes over, and he goes, oh, my God, your son broke his leg. How horrible. And the guy goes, it might be three days after that, the army recruiters come over, and they're looking to recruit for a war that's going on, and his son can't be recruited. Recruited. Cause he broke his leg. Right. So it is that zooming out, the ability to zoom out and know that, yeah, maybe it's terrible in the moment.

However, if you zoom out, it might only be terrible for a second. It actually might work for you, but you have to be able to take that second to zoom out and know that what you're feeling, what you're experiencing. Yeah. All the horses, what you're feeling, what you're experiencing right now, isn't the end of the world, and those feelings will pass, but the decisions that you make in the moment are the decisions that you're gonna have to live with, the consequences that you're gonna have to live with, potentially, for the rest of your life.

And I think the other call out in this verse was, haste makes mistakes. So when you do, when you can't zoom out and you are kind of stuck in the limiting beliefs or the self doubt or the fear, it's gonna continuously show up in other areas of your life. So if you're not sitting with it and dealing with it and facing it, it's going to show up again in a different way. It's going to say, hi, I'm back. You didn't deal with me the first time. Right. And so the mistakes keep happening, and you're constantly then questioning, well, why and why and why.

And trust us, we felt that. We felt that. We've experienced it, and we've worked through it. And I think the hardest thing that we did last year was, like, really have to dance with fear. And we did. We had to dance with it, because you can't just remove it. You can't just be like, well, I'm fearless. We don't believe in that. You can't be fearless. Things are gonna scare you. But you can fear. You can fear less. So I think something that we also need to talk about in this is just dancing with your mistakes, knowing that it's just a missed take.

You're not a failure. You didn't do anything wrong. Or if you did, how can you learn from it so that you can move forward in the direction of your purpose? Your why inspiring all of those people around you? Because that's what we're doing here in Cadre 100%. Cadre's fear is tried and true. It is good people coming in to do better, even when you don't feel like it. We're gonna have people who are gonna be there to walk the path with you on your own journey. Well, and I think I wanna bring up a word you just said, which is cadres fear.

Luke, you said, you've got our best interests at heart, always. And that is so true. I said, we're the only ones that are gonna have our best interests at heart. But if you find a community that is going to open their arms and their hearts for you, like Cadre, you get welcomed into the Cadre sphere. You're going to find people who do have your best interests at heart as well, which means they're gonna show up and they're gonna hold space for you. That means they're gonna, you know, give you the feedback that no one else is going give you and hold you accountable to the things that you not only said you wanted to do, but that they know that you're able to accomplish as well.

So, thank you, guys, for showing up and being here in our cadres fear and coming to play on this line. Yeah, we are engaging today, and I love it. Junk food junkie. Making mistakes always makes us stronger, and as we. As we learn, as we learn from them. And, yes, and if we're willing to. If we're willing to hold that perspective, which, unfortunately, a lot of people aren't, and that's where we come in, that's where we get to take the cadres sphere and positively impact other people, because people gravitate towards energy.

So when people see you learning from your mistakes and they see you getting happier through adversity, and they see you bouncing back and picking yourself up from falling down. They're going to ask themselves, I wonder what's going on with them. I want to know. And what happens is you become magnetic and people gravitate towards you, and they're willing to shift their perspectives and learn from what you're putting out into the world. Yep. So it's only Tuesday, fam. It is only Tuesday. That means Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Sunday.

People are going live on this app every single day. So tell your friends, tell your family that Cadre really is the place to be in 2024. It's unlike anything else that you are experiencing within technology right now. We're on the brink of something really cool with this community, and there is literally no other place that we want to be. There's no other community that we want to support in that. And we just feel so lucky to be on this app as creators and hold people accountable and call people up, not call people out, because we realize if you're here, that's what you're seeking, that's what you're wanting.

So thank you for loving on us and supporting us, and tune in the rest of the week. There are several more live streams this week that will pour into you, and you'll get something from 100%. We love you guys, all of you. Thanks for showing up, truly. And just remember, like, just remember that whatever happened this morning or whatever hard conversation happened yesterday, or maybe that you were avoiding, you can do hard things, and we're here to support you, and we want to celebrate you as well.

So keep doing the good, because we love you because. And we believe in you. Go out and live a transformed life, y'all. Bye, guys. See ya. See ya later.