What’s In Your Toolbox?

We are now. Hello, everyone. Hello, everyone. Happy Tuesday. It's Tuesday. Welcome to Toolbox Talks. That's us with your co hosts. I'm Mary. I'm Jill, and we're the co founders of Girls Mentorship. We're happy to have you here. What is girls mentorship, Jill? We teach life and personal development skills to tween and teen girls. So think everything around building girls confidence, their self esteem, their self awareness, how to bounce back from failure, how to embrace challenges, those conversations and skills that we desperately needed when we were their age.

And I'm sorry, but I'm a 35 year old female at this point in my life, and I still need those conversations because I certainly do. Fun fact. Did you know that about 20% of people actually have self awareness? Like, a true sense of self awareness, which means 80% of people that you are around every single day, at your job, at your home, at the grocery store, when you're driving on the streets, have actual zero sense of self awareness. They're unaware or unaware that they are unaware. So that's scary.

If you are not a teen or tween girl watching us right now, please don't tune out, because what we talk about is geared towards teen and tween girls because of how we language it. But the subject matter in which we speak about on a daily basis is applicable to anyone and everyone because they are basic necessities. They are basic tools from your toolbox that you need to implement on a daily basis if you are going to continue to get 1% better, which I imagine I just have to conclude that if you are on this app and you are a part of this cadres fear this community, you're aiming to get better every single day by learning from others lived experiences.

Mm hmm. And we are the mirrors. We're the mirrors for our youth. They watch everything that we do and say. So just remember, things are caught. They are not taught. Oh, I love that. And I will say they are taught in the right space. But for the most part, our kiddos are constantly observing us and absorbing and absorbing what we're doing. So it's really important to check in, having the awareness around how you're showing up so that you can start asking yourselves the question of, am I living my best life for myself?

Which then impacts those around us. One of my favorite things, I have it on a sticky note on my mirror so I can look at it. Every single day is question everything. And that means the way I act. The way I act. Why am I doing that? What is that? Habit about did I pick up that habit? Or did that habit come pre installed on my hard drive? And if we are honest with ourselves and we're digging deeper, a lot of the things, mannerisms, way we speak, how we act in relationships didn't come from us. We picked it up from other people.

Caught, not taught. Right. That is the classic nature versus nurture example of things we pick up from our parents. I've talked about this a thousand times. Jill's probably gonna laugh, but it's the meatloaf thing. You're watching your mom make meatloaf, right? And she cuts off the ends, and she puts it in the oven, and you go, mom, why did you cut off two perfectly good ends of meatloaf to put it in the oven? Those seemed like they were edible. And she goes, huh, really great question. I don't, I don't know why I did that.

Let's call mom. My mom, grandma, bring ring. Hi, grandma, why did you cut off the ends of the meatloaf? Cause now I do that, and now my daughter's wondering why, and I actually don't know why. And she says, no idea. Let's call great grandma. Hi, great grandma. Why did you cut off the ends of the meatloaf? And she goes, oh. Cause my oven was too small to fit the pan that I had for the meatloaf. Right? So it made no sense, no logical sense for the mom to then be cutting it off. Because as we know, ovens have evolved and they're now bigger.

So that whole story is a really great picture of you learn things that may not make sense for your modern day self right now. So question everything. Everything that you've got going on, why you do it, how it makes you feel, how it makes others feel, how it helps you interact with people, etcetera, etcetera. Well, and if you have an example of that that you did growing up, drop them in the comments. We would love to see. Yeah, junk food junkie. I know you've got examples. Cause really quickly. Cucumbers were a big thing for my family.

We would eat them in every salad. We would cut the ends off, and then we would rub it, like, the end on, like, the exposed cucumber. And apparently that was supposed to, like, eliminate the tartness. You did it. And I did it for years. We did it as a family. I did it in college. And it wasn't until someone asked me, I think it was my husband, he was like, why are you doing that? I'm like, because it gets rid of the tartness. He's like, no, it doesn't. So interesting. That was my story. But if you have a funny story, drop them in the comments because we would love to see how you were raised.

Without questioning everything. Let's get into what we're talking about today. It's relevant for the time, as in right now on January 30, 2024. But realistically, this conversation is a much bigger conversation, and I want to challenge you to find yourself in it. If you are a sports fan, then you know that the AFC and the NFC championship just happened, and we're headed to the Super bowl. And the two teams that are headed to the Super bowl are the Kansas City Chiefs and the San Francisco 49 ers.

The quarterback of the San Francisco 49 ers, his name is Brock Purdy. He is the second year in the league and he is.