The Tenets Of Enoughness - #2

Well, hey there, Cadre. Happy Friday. My name is JC Lippold. If we've never shared space and time together before, thank you for the opportunity to do that. Right now, even though I'm the one who. Who can speak, I take it very seriously, and so do all of us here on Cadre, that this really is a conversation, right? So when you tune in and you type comments and you, in essence, influence and steer, did you know that you are an influencer? We all are. We all have influence. When you steer the conversation with your input, all of a sudden, not only does it allow you to be heard, but it allows us to be in that beautiful dance that happens when people connect, whether they know each other, whether they don't know each other already.

Something powerful happens in this that is incredibly powerful and nourishing for our mental health and overall wellness as human beings. So I am currently coming to you from Seattle, Washington. I live in Minneapolis, but I landed in Seattle a little bit ago. I am here this weekend to hold space at an event with my friend Rachel Havocost, who you know from Cadre. And if you don't check out some of Rachel's videos, and another one of my friends, Kevin Ng, who is a wonderful human and mover of bodies, he's a yoga teacher here in Seattle.

So the three of us are going to be going to my new friend, who I haven't met yet, Josh's dad's lavender farm, where he hosts weddings. And Josh has a sauna and cold exposure business on this beautiful, beautiful lavender farm. So tomorrow, with 35 other people who have signed up to come together with people they don't know yet, we're going to be engaging in some time of thought, a feel of movement, of experience within this big, beautiful world we get to be a part of. Chris, right? I know. Super fun.

But as I was getting ready to jump on to share today, if you're like, gosh, what's JC talking about? This livestream for the next three Fridays. First Friday last week was the first of this four week series on the tenets of enoughness. Enoughness is my favorite made up word. I love making up words and then making them mean stuff. So enoughness is the practice of being where you are with what you have and honoring that. It's a cousin of mindfulness. It's a relative of being present. But it is at the core you being able to say, it's a difficult thing to say that you currently, right now, in this moment, with what you have that you can do something with, that you know, people who maybe are more of a progressive mindset, like, all right, right now, let's get better.

I love getting better. Getting better is awesome. Often people who are in that be better mindset go JC. I don't like enoughness because complacency is bad. People are too complacent. People are too lazy. People are stuck. First of all, I've never met people who are too lazy and too stuck. I've never met those people. I've met people who are scared into stillness because they've been told that they're awful in their current state and that they need to do something about it. But then we create this separation from them actually being enough to actually do the things they're capable of doing.

So enoughness doesn't equal complacency. Enoughness says right now I am so incredibly capable of doing this thing, and it's the practice of getting good at realizing that. So why was I telling you that I hopped on a plane this morning to come to Seattle? Da da da da is the tenet we're going to talk about. Today. There's four tenets of enoughness. Last week we spoke about your words are enough. The tenet of honesty. Next week, we're going to talk about your thoughts being enough. The tenet of curiosity.

Two weeks from now, we'll talk about you are enough. The tenet of presence. This week we're going to talk about your feelings are enough. The tenet of intuition. So talk about a long five minute lead in. As I've been getting off the plane, walking through the airport, getting in a rental car, I've been in the process of doing things that feel very right to me. See if you can capture all of them. So I got in my rental car kind of smelled kind of musty. I looked around and didn't look super clean.

I'm pretty good with the flow type of person. It's kind of hard to get me shook. Well, then I noticed that there was a half enjoyed cough drop in the door handle. I was like, ah. So I told Carol, my new friend Carol, who checked me out of the rental car ramp, I was like, carol, there's a used cough drop. And Carol was p*****. So Carol picked it up, threw it out, said, you need to let Hertz know that your car wasn't clean. I was like, carol, I'm going to let them know that. I'm going to let them know how awesome Caroline is.

Carol appreciated that. We then proceeded to talk about Carol's readers and how she buys the $1 ones rather than getting the fancy ones because then she can have 15 pairs of them anyways. Like a good Minnesotan. We had a good five minute conversation, and then I proceeded to drive out of the ramp in my car that now was without its pre used cough drop. And I realized more and more as I was driving to Redmond outside of Seattle, where I am now, that this car is really, really dirty. I turned on the defroster because the windows had this weird film on it.

And all of a sudden I start smelling cigarette smoke and marijuana smoke. And I'm like, whoa, okay, open up the windows, open up the center console, and it's just trash and lighters and cigarette boxes. And I'm like, okay, well, normally, like I say, I'm the person who's like, go with the flow. But I was like, gosh, I actually feel like I need to say something. Called up Hertz, let him know, this car's dirty. It felt like I had to do that. I could have said, yeah, but just let it be da da da da da.

Where most of the time that's what I would feel and that's what I would do. But this moment, I'm like, I need to let them know. So I did. Then I got to my Hampton Inn. I always stay at Hampton Inns. I always stay at Hampton Inns. And I noticed there's a target next door. Being away from home, going to a place like target, Minnesota, where I'm from, that's where target's from. So target is my small town business. That makes me feel at home. So I went. I had about ten minutes, walked around target, got a few groceries, and then I came to my Hampton Inn.

When I got to my room, first thing I do every single time I run in the bathroom, it's about eleven steps, but I run to see, is there a bathtub or is there a shower? I'm a bath guy. There's no bathtub in this room. But that's what I do. And then I noticed that there's this really, really beautiful yellow chair. I love fall colors. Goldenrod, amber, evergreen, maroon, plum. So that chair made me really happy. End the story. Think about how many things I just shared that were feeling based. I felt like I needed to talk to Carol.

I felt like I had to say, carol, I'm going to let Hertz know that you are kind of making my day right now. I felt that even though normally I wouldn't bother people with, oh, the car isn't perfect. I don't care if the car is perfect. I was like, this car is really, really nasty. And I felt in that moment that I had to say, hey, hertz, just so you know. And then guess what? The reason I felt like I had to do that is so that I could get it off my head and move on. I'm not mad. I don't care. The car is getting me to where it needs to get me to, and I'm ready to go.

I felt like I had the opportunity to feel a little less homesick by going to target next door. I felt that I needed to stay at a Hampton Inn because, again, homesick, if I'm staying someplace that I can normally stay, no matter where I am around the world, makes me feel a little bit more home. And I felt that I had to run in the bathroom to go ahead and see. Am I going to get to take a bath? Nope. Showers. All right. The second tenet of enoughness is my feelings are enough. In other words, your curiosity.

I mean, your intuition. Curiosity is for your thoughts. Intuition is for your feelings. Here's how I define intuition. It's the part of your being that says, hey, do that. That seems right and good. I'll say it again, your intuition. Think of it this way. It's the part of your being that says, hey, do that. That seems right and good. How often do you listen to that voice? I would say most people, we listen, we hear it. We don't always listen to it. What does life look like when your feelings aren't enough?

What does your life look like when you don't listen to your intuition? It kind of hurts, right? Or kind of makes you feel maybe stupid or out of place or weird in a bad way. Maybe it makes you feel regret sooner or later where you go, gosh, I wish I would have just listened to that little voice inside my head. I'm going to read some quotes here, and I'm going to tell you what my intuition says. No pain, no gain. My intuition says, no, actually, if I'm feeling pain, I'm going to stop because I'm not going to gain from pain.

There's enough pain that we experience as human beings that I don't need to seek more pain to seek more gain. Now I actually need to learn how to trust. When my body says something bad is happening that I listen to that. Never let your emotions overpower your intelligence. Actually, I think sometimes your emotions are going to tell you some things that your intelligence can't. So a word like never, no, I'm not going to buy into that statement. My intuition says, don't believe that. How about this one?

No matter what, don't quit. I think we have a huge addiction problem in this world and I think one of the reasons we do is because quitting is the worst thing that we've trained anybody on. Never quit. What about a bad relationship? Quit it. What about becoming addicted to something that does not serve you? Quit it. What about listening to your body saying, I need to rest right now. Quit doing what you're doing and rest now. Again, there's some times where, yeah, quitting isn't going to be the best thing, but no matter what, don't quit.

Not going to buy into it. Tune out and get it done. Maybe sometimes that I don't do my best work when I tune out. OMG, I'm so bad I shouldn't eat this. Why not? Is the thing that you're eating bringing you joy, happiness, fulfillment, sustainability, connection? I think maybe you shouldn't be bad, feel bad. I think maybe you should eat that thing. Be 1% better each day. Girls, mentorship. I know if you're out there, you love this one. I think that being 1% better every day in my analytical part of my brain makes no sense because I know a lot of days I don't get better.

And if I'm supposed to feel bad, if I don't, mm mm. I don't need any help feeling bad. I do that all by myself. So mine is, I'm going to be as good as I can be every single day. Do you hear the difference here? All these statements are things we hear all the time. And what are we supposed to do? Mm hmm. No pain, no gain. Got it? Yep. No matter what, don't quit. Quitting's bad. Yep. Got it. Tune out. Get it done. Oh, yeah. Put your head down. Get it done. Your intuition allows you to trust what your body is trained intelligently, so, to inform you on.

So I'm going to make a little correlation here between intuition and culture. Intuition, that instinctive feeling where culture is that kind of that conscious reasoning on. Okay, what am I supposed to do? Intuition is the bridge that carries you from the shared, like the things that we learn culturally into that space of your absolutely current moment of uniqueness. Nine times out of ten, you may do this. You may be acculturated to do this. Nine times out of ten. One time out of ten, you may go, you know what?

I think I'm gonna do this. This time. Culture is a barrier that separates you from yourself in exchange for connecting you to the whole, I'll say it again. Culture is a barrier that separates you from yourself, your uniqueness. In exchange for going, I'm going to follow the mass. That's sometimes a really great thing to do. Do we see how enoughness doesn't say, do this rather than this? Enoughness says, things are so unique and specific to the moment, and you deserve. You are precious enough to be in each of those moments.

Chris says, for this next week, I'm going to work harder on listening to my intuition. Yeah, that sounds like you're practicing enoughness. I'm going to work on listening to my intuition. Your intuition is going to be that voice that says, hey, do this. This seems right and good. Your rational thought may be going, what? Your history, your experience may be going, we don't do that. Culture may say, no, you're supposed to do x. Why are you doing y? I'll offer one last little thought. About 12,000 years ago, before we started industrializing and farming, doing all the stuff that humans do, we existed in a very parasympathetic state.

If you're like, what's parasympathetic? Parasympathetic is the rest and the digest. We woke up when the sun hit our face. We ate food. When our stomach said, rumble, rumble, rumble. We ran away frightened when there was a bear. All of a sudden, we started doing things like farming and building cars and wearing smart watches. And all of a sudden, everything became five minutes from now, you have two minutes ago, you dismissed. It's this person's birthday tomorrow. Make sure you get the do the, do the, do the, do the.

I need to eat quick, because if I don't, then I'm not going to be able to after. Let me check my planner, let me align my schedule. Da, da, da, da. And we exist now very much in a sympathetic state. Again, this isn't a right or wrong. Parasympathetic is awesome. Sympathetic is awesome. But about 12,000 years ago, we existed majorly in arrest and digest and fight, and flight was saved for those times that we needed to be in fight or flight, like running away from that bear. Nowadays, we exist more in the fight flight.

And we go, gosh, I need to find that parasympathetic. I need to find that rest and digest. Enoughness invites you to return to a state of going right now, rather than being very reactive, very fight flight, very routine. I'm gonna go, hmm. I'm going to say that right now I'm feeling something kind of different. Do you normally get the big Mac extra value meal. Yeah, well, maybe today you're gonna get the two cheeseburger value meal. Cause that's what you're feeling. Yesterday did you go for a five mile run, and today you're feeling like a two mile stroll.

Yeah. You see what's happening here? When you listen to that voice that says, hey, do that, that seems right and good, something changes. We start existing as someone who's on our side, who's very intrigued by who we are and what we're doing. You deserve to be one of those people, and you will positively impact those people in your world. When you start doing that, you'll be a better employee. You'll be a better partner, spouse, neighbor, society member. You'll be a better you for all the other voices in your head.

Cafe Marisa exactly. Hey, this emoji. I always love this emoji. Because if you look through it, you have to work harder to see things, or you can't see as much, you can't react as much. You have to slow down a little bit. You may end up seeing the exact same thing. You may end up doing the exact same thing. Your intuition may go, you know what? 100 times out of 100 times, we're gonna do this thing. Cool. At least you are the one who made that decision. At least you risked to listen to yourself. Because I will leave you with this question.

I said it before, I'll say it again. What does life look like when your feelings aren't enough? When you aren't listening to your intuition? Let that ruminate a little bit and then respond accordingly. Y'all, I hope you have a great weekend. And even if you don't, you are a great, great presence in this world that is so, so needed. Have a good one. Bye, Marisa. Bye, Chris. Bye,