Do you ever have a difficult time naming what you feel? Keep working on this area because describing your feelings helps you choose your mindset and decide how to respond. Don’t dismiss your emotions. It's important to acknowledge what's truly bothering you.
Your feelings are always valid, but it's important to pay attention to the words that you're choosing to describe what you feel. You can resent something and hold gratitude for it. Always remember, your feelings are valid. Words matter. But do something about it.
Your feelings are always valid, but it's important to pay attention to the words that you're choosing to describe what you feel. Let me give you an example. Let's say that you're going through a dynamic and you are thinking to yourself, I resent that I have to operate at a certain pace, or I resent that this amount of pressure or a certain demand is being placed on me. But then you stop and you realize, while that's a word that you've been using, you also hold a lot of gratitude for the opportunity.
The first thing to know is that you can have two very opposing emotions that exist at the same time. You can resent something and hold gratitude for it. But then I want to encourage you to go look up the word that you're choosing, because sometimes what you'll find is the word that you're using isn't exactly what you mean. Resent, for example, means unfairly treated. And then you may realize, well, I actually don't feel like I'm being treated unfairly, but the pace and the pressure and the demand feels like too much.
So maybe the word becomes overwhelmed. Words matter, and you want to make sure that while you're exploring your emotions and how they relate to you on a personal and professional level, that you're also combining them in ways that show you what you really feel. So you know how to work through it. Let's say that you are in a situation where you are feeling a level of resentment or overwhelmed. What do you do? First, take a moment and write down exactly what feels overwhelming, demanding, or is creating pressure in your life.
Then ask yourself, what can I do to create some space or some relief? And from there, put a time sensitive time period in place where you choose to act on it. I feel overwhelmed. I can say no to an upcoming engagement, and I will communicate that no or not now to the person who has asked me within the next few days. And you're going to find when you move from step to step to action that it creates a sense of relief. Always remember, your feelings are valid. Words matter. What are your emotions trying to tell you?
But do something about it, because knowledge is not power without application. See you soon.
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