Enoughness 101

Oh, well. Hey there, hey there. Hey there. Hey there, Cadre. How are we doing today? I'm gonna take off my glasses because my ring light is reflecting. Happy Saturday. Happy personal development day here on the Cadre. You know what Cadre means? I always like sharing my definitions of words. Why? Because words are vessels. Words are like a water bottle or a bowl, and it's what we place in those bowls or those vessels that really matter. It's our cultural, linguistic interpretation that matters. So, what does Cadre mean?

Cadre means it's a special group of people with a really special purpose. So that's what you are. You are a really special group of people with a really special purpose, and that special purpose is to take care of one another. Good morning, Jules. Good morning, newfie lover. Good morning, Marisa. Good morning, all y'all. I can't even say hi to all y'all. Cause you're going da da da da da da da da da da into this live stream super fast. Hey, speak wonder. I see you. And, yeah, all the little hearts that you can throw in now say thank you to our tech team.

It's pretty wonderful that we have these individuals who have. In our special group of people with a special purpose. We have these people who know how to make technological wonders happen. So it's personal development day here in our Cadre, which means we spend time. We are all just walking each other home. Speak wonder. There's a really good song. So, as you may know, if we've shared time together before, I'm a musician, and I've spent the last 23 years supporting different groups of people with music.

And some of those groups of people are churches and synagogues and mosques and non religious houses. But one of those places has a song about walking each other home. So I wonder if that's where that idea is coming from. That song just entered my head. Speak wonder. Hands up, Marisa. So, personal development day, where we talk about working on who we are as opposed to working on what we do. What we do day is Monday. Professional development day. I'm really excited to share that on personal development day.

Pretty soon, you're going to see a new face. That face is Kristen Grimes, coming to you from just outside of Denver, Colorado. I think that's how they say it out there. Well, she's from Minnesota, but I think in Colorado. You say Colorado, but she probably says Colorado, but she is an RD, a registered dietitian who spends a lot of time making people not feel bad about eating food. So she's gonna be joining. And I think going live a half an hour after I do so, you'll be able to sit back, eat your froot loops, and just like the olden days, tune in like you used to watch cartoons.

So what do we talk about during this half hour? We talk about enoughness. What's enoughness? Enoughness is the practice of affirming that you are already, indeed enough. Does that mean that you don't have to change? Does that mean, oh, you're okay, you're everything you need to be? No, that makes no sense. But what it does mean is that right now, you are capable of doing something that is really, really powerful. And sadly, the world doesn't teach you that. The world maximizes on making you feel and believe that right now you are incapable.

Unless you buy the thing. Do the thing. If you don't change something, right now, you are incapable. So enoughness invites you to go, nah, right now you can do something. And there are four tenets to enoughness. Today we're going to talk about the third one. If you're like, wait, what's the first and the second one? Well, two weeks ago, we talked about the first one. That is, your words are enough. Honesty. You can scroll back through the live streams and find that one. Two weeks ago from today, last week we talked about your feelings are enough.

That is your intuition. Scroll back one week from today. Today we are talking about your thoughts are enough. That is your curiosity. All y'all who are here right now, will you do something for me? Can you type something into chat that you are curious about? What are you curious about? You may type, I wonder if I could. Or I wonder what it would be like if I. Or I wonder if. Finish those prompts and I am going to sit here and wait for a couple of the I wonder statements to pop into chat. What are you curious about?

I wonder if I. I wonder what it would be like if I wonder. See, these are different things. You could say something like, I wonder if I could do a marathon. I like that one less than I wonder what it would be like if I did a marathon. Why? Because you could do a marathon. So moving to the point of like, huh? I wonder what it would be like if I did. Or I wonder what someone else's experience is like. I wonder what the answer to this question is. I wonder what. Hmm, a vegan burger tastes like. Noofy lover 74 8291 says.

I'm curious about how to silence the negative self talk narrative that is constantly in my head. Love it. Somebody else what are you curious about? I know some of y'all are out there. I know some of y'all are tuning in. And on purpose, I'm giving you time and space to let that curiosity be heard and be seen. Anfi lover, notice I'm not attempting to answer your curiosity. I'm not attempting to fix it. I'm not saying no, you don't need to silence the negative self talk. I'm not saying I'm not responding to it at all.

Jules. I wonder what it would be like to not be stressed most of the time. Cool. And notice you're not even saying, ugh, I wish I wasn't stressed all the time, or I shouldn't be stressed all the time. You're wonderfully saying. Hmm. I wonder what it would be like if that's great. Anybody else? And notice, Nuvi lover, you did a curious statement. Jules, you did a wonder statement. Speak, wonder. Oh, I see a dot, dot, dot. I love dot, dot dots. Speak, wonder. I wonder if my estranged daughter and I will reconnect.

Hmm. I love you. Speak, wonder. I love you. Here's the thing about our curiosity. This morning I was moving my body, and while I was moving my body, I had an idea. So my friend Sam. Sam is my photographer. I got to marry like I was the efficient for Sam and his wife Gabby. Sam is jewish. Gabby is Catholic and Latina. And I married them on Halloween. So it was a jewish, catholic Latina wedding on Halloween. It was lovely. Married by a gay, polish catholic, lutheran guy. Anyways, Sam is my photographer, and he's also the catering manager for the Minnesota twins.

So he currently has glioblastoma cancer, and he is going through red devil chemo treatment, so to say he's not working right now. Every once in a while, we go to Taco Bell and sit in the parking lot and eat breakfast because he can't go inside with people. So we sit far away from each other in the parking lot. Since he can't work, the Minnesota twins have a fund. The players put money into a fund for people like Sam that when he can't make money, that they can give money to him. Well, that fund is starting to run out.

So I have this idea. This is a long story, but we'll get to the point. So I have this idea right now. The Minnesota Twins, they're playing a really good baseball, and it's because they've been carrying around this summer sausage. The Minnesota Twins are weird. So they have this summer sausage, this pre packaged summer sausage that anytime the Twins get a big hit or a home run. They throw this summer sausage around. So I came up with this hashtag the boys of summer, which is what you call baseball players the boys of summer sausage.

So I have this idea to make this t shirt with the boys of summer sausage on it. So I'm working out this morning, and I'm like, ah, what if we use the boys of summer sausage t shirts as a fundraiser to raise money for my buddy Sam's cancer journey so we can raise money for Sam since he's not working? And the twins, all the twins players could go ahead and wear them, and we can make a bunch of money for Sam and his wife. I have this idea while I'm working out this morning, and guess what happened by the time I got done working out.

Can you guess what happened? I'm going to pause because I see some others shared, but I want you to guess. Type in the chat what you think happened by the time I got done working out, Marisa, I wonder how I can be more productive. Oops, I hit send too soon. Please hold for my complete thought. Oh, Marisa, I think that's a complete thought. Marisa, I think that's complete thought. But please share the rest of the complete thought if there is more. So let me share what happened. By the time I finished working out, I decided that it wasn't a good idea.

I took my curiosity. Gosh, I wonder if it'd be a good idea to make this t shirt to raise money to help Sam, who's going through the cancer journey. And all of a sudden, I was like, no. Being curious is the root of so many great things. It's our brain saying, hey, hey, you. You're meant to journey. You're meant to experience. You're meant to go out there. You are meant to go, huh? What is this negative self talk narrative? Cause I will say noofy lover, negative self talk is part of it. Without negative self talk, there's no positive self talk.

Self talk moves seven times faster than our audible voice. We need to be aware of self talk. So for you to go, huh, I am going to be aware of it. Allows you to do something about it. So you saying out loud, self talk, you can see this big whiteboard behind me. I would say, noofy lover, that curiosity, you writing it down here changes your ability to actually do something with it. I wonder what it would be like to not be stressed most of the time. Jules going, I'm gonna take a day and be notice, be noticing when I get stressed and go I'm okay.

Nope. I'm not gonna be stressed. Take a day and not be stressed and see what it's like. See what you do with it. Speak, wonder. Maybe you do something, and I know you do a lot of things, but maybe you poke at the relationship with your daughter again in a different way, and you go, huh? Or maybe you wonder for a moment again. Maybe you speak into the wonder again, Marisa. Maybe you open up the jar of productivity and you look into it in, like, a good jar of peanut butter, and you go, huh? And you go, hmm.

Yeah, there was a little bit more in there. Speak, wonder says being curious is an expression of being alive. Being alive. A great song from the musical company. I encourage you to listen to it. As soon as we sign off here, Marisa finishes her I wonder statement here. I wonder what I can do if I can focus my energy on myself, to then be more productive with my day, to. Thanks, Marisa. You're on the other side of having a little one at home who's no longer a little one. And even though the little one will always be a little one, it's Mother's day tomorrow.

What does that relationship look like now? Positive improvements. I wonder, Marisa, what happens if you risk to do a little bit more positive improvement? Time. Guess what I want etched in my tombstone. Speak, wonder. Arrive curious. Leave inspired. Speak, wonder. Maybe that's where we leave today. The third tenet of enoughness is your thoughts are enough. When your curiosity spikes, listen to it. Follow it. See where it leads. You. Have a good rest of your day. Talk to you later.