The Outward Facing Clique

Hey there, Cadre. I love Tuesdays. I get to see you twice on Tuesdays, and that is a joy for me. Tuesdays is building community day here at Cadre. Earlier on today, if you watch the replay of my live stream 3 hours ago entitled what is Cadre? You'll hear me talk a little bit about this wonderful world that we're creating, what we call the Cadre sphere. You know, I was chatting with a new friend of mine, and she asked a really great question, which stopped me in my tracks. She's like, so I hear this idea.

I hear the term the Cadre sphere, and she's like, am I a part of that? You know, as a user, as a member of Cadre, am I a part of that? And I was like, darn it, we need to talk about what we're creating more and more and more and more. That is the outward facing click. Oh, good morning, good afternoon, good evening, good day, good night. Whether you are okay or whether you are not, that is okay and wonderful. Cause you are here, and I am glad for that. Speak, wonder Joe Bjoy, junkie foo. Dream big, all of you.

Whether you comment, whether you sit in the front row, the back row, whether you're loud or quiet, you are a part of this wonderful Cadre sphere. m. Central standard time, you are a part of this wonderful, what, I hope, clique. You are a part of this clique. You are a part of this posse. You are a part of this family. You are a part of this movement. You are a part of what we are hoping to create together. So I'm gonna tell you a little story, and it's gonna involve this little thing here in a second.

If you're like, what is that? I'll show you in a moment. Jules. We get to do this twice today. How cool is that? So I had the opportunity on Sunday to host walkms, Minneapolis. So there's a park nearby, Minnehaha Falls, where there's a neat little waterfall. Little for some people on this planet, but it's a big waterfall for us in the twin Cities. And it had been raining all last week, but it was beautiful and dry and sunny and green on Sunday morning. And 3500 plus people who did not know each other yet came together all around the honoring and memory and celebration and reality of multiple sclerosis.

I don't have a direct connection to miss. What about you in the comments? If you feel safe and empowered to do so, do you have a direct connection to miss. I'd love to know. And as you're typing those direct connections, I'd love for you to think about this question. Let's say I shared with someone just like I did with you a moment ago. Hey, I'm going to be hosting walkms this weekend. What's your first response? If you were going to respond to me with a question or a comment, what would you say?

Or what do you think I received as a question or comment back from most people? I'll tell you, 95% of the time most people said, ah, who do you know? That was always the first response, ah, who do you know? Because if I'm hosting the walk Ms event, I must have a direct connection to miss. That's only sensical. Otherwise, why would I participate in walk Ms? That's a really great example of an inward facing click. We participate in the things that we have a connection to. The day before in the Twin Cities Saturday, it was the walk for humane Society.

Guess what? There's a lot more people who walk for dogs than there are people who walk for mission. Why? Because there's a lot more people who have dogs than there are people who have Ms or have someone in their life who have Ms. So that being said, today is the perfect day to talk about the outward facing click. Dream big. Says a cousin of theirs has dealt with Miss Junk Food junkie, their high school choir teacher. Now, when I say I don't have a direct connection, guess what happens when I say that publicly.

I've had a hundred people in my sphere say, hey, I know someone. I know someone. Which of course makes me go, well, what does direct connection mean? We get to decide what our sphere, what our circles of influence look like. Today's livestream that I lead is called the outward facing click. And it is all about growing the movements that we care about. It was important for me to be the voice of walk Ms this weekend because I represent prepare yourselves. I represent this. I represent the yellow circles in the Waccamas world.

The yellow circles are the people who care about the mission and understand the mission of walk Ms. But don't have a direct connection to Ms. There are green circles. Those are the people who are directly impacted by a family or a friend who has missed. And then orange circles are people who live with Ms. Can anybody guess how many? Let's say there's 3500 people at a walk MS event. What percentage of those 3500 people have a yellow circle? I dropped something. I don't know what it is, but I'm going to give you a moment to type what you think the percentage of yellow circle people at a walk Ms event is.

While I pick up whatever it is I dropped, type in a number. What percentage of people are people who don't have a connection to a mess at a walk Ms event? I'll be right back. Part of my circle broke. That is not metaphorical. It's literal. A little piece of the plastic. All right, does anybody have a guess? I'll tell you. 6% of people at walkms events. Six jewels. 6%. 6% of people. That's pretty sucky. If only the people who are coming to events for a cause are. Are people who have a direct correlation or relationship to the cause.

Guess what that is. An inward facing click. That cause is never gonna grow. I stood up on stage and I said, every single huge advancement in Ms care that has ever been made has been directly correlated to the work of MS society. That's kind of cool. And also, that's really bad, right? If the only movements that are being made are being made by the people who are directly impacted by the thing, we never get anywhere. Do we see what I'm saying? If we want to make movements, movements, we need to engage the people who are not a part of the movements.

As I drove to Minnehaha Falls park on Sunday morning, I felt incredibly like an imposter. And, like, why am I the person at the microphone? I have nothing to do with this event. Now, again, I also, in the same moment, was like, I am the perfect person to be leading this event because I represent the 6%. Imagine if that 6% became 60%. And all of a sudden, the orange circles and the green circles didn't have to do all the work. What if they could deal with what they're dealing with, and all of a sudden, the seven and a half billion people on the planet.

There's 1 million people in the United States dealing with miss, there's seven and a half billion people on the planet. If we all could do a little bit now, again, it's not like, oh, give up your $5 coffee every day. No, enjoy your $5 coffee every day if that $5 coffee gives you life. But what if we made people think that they could participate in things that don't smack them upside the head? What if we empowered people to think that they could care about stuff? That's a pretty cool world. So I invite you to think about the things that you care so much about, and I invite you to turn outward.

And, as I say, every single Tuesday. The more that you are a part of something, the longer that you are a part of something, the less it is about you and the more it is about the people who have yet to be a part of the thing. Jungfujunki says, I get the inner circle thing. It's sadly the same way in relay for life. It's either someone who has or had cancer, or those who know someone who has or had it. It's a shame. Junk food junkie. I don't know if it's a shame. It's the way that we've gotten into routine.

No one is doing anything wrong. We've simply gotten in the routine of going, ah, we need to go ahead and rally around the things that we care most about. And I go, or we can rally around the things that we can care about. We can care about lots of stuff for little amounts of time. We can do little things often, and when we do little things often, it doesn't exhaust us, it doesn't tap us, it doesn't drain us. To participate in the walk ms event on a sunny spring green day, people had to come to a park, give no money, engage in free community, eat free food, listen to free music, walk or not walk a mile with people who are there to support them.

And I will say 3500 people was a pretty cool community. But there are three and a half million people who live in the nine county metro area. Three and a half thousand to three and a half million people. And I don't think it's because people are lazy. I think it's because people feel as if that's not the space where they're supposed to be. So what's the power? It's within us to be the inviter of, because what did I do? I invited people to be a part of my yellow circle crew. And I think I had eight people who, with as much imposter syndrome as I had, showed up to walk alongside me and me alongside them, and we had a hoot.

Who are those people that you can be like, hey, do you want to go do this thing with me? You will change their lives. You have the capacity to invite people to turn outward. Y'all, we'll see you soon. If you need another scoop of Cadre today, doctor Leslie's coming up in a few hours, 2 hours after that, you'll see mary and jill, and then of course, every single day, every single moment, every single second, we are right here for you in the Cadre sphere. Have a good one.