The Outward Facing Clique

Hey there, Cadre. It's always great on Mondays and two days. Mondays and Tuesdays when I get to see you twice. And now it's my regularly scheduled programming where I get to. On Tuesdays on our building community day, where I get to talk to you about the. The outward facing click. Building communities is all about you forming relationships and connections, like maybe stacking blocks or building legos or drawing pictures with other people. So if you work in organizations, if you're building teams, if you're a part of a family, it's those types of things.

So on Tuesdays, I talk about building teams, building organizations, building movements. In a half an hour, you're gonna see Doctor Leslie, who talks about one on one relationship formation. Later on today, you'll hear Mary and Jill talk about mentorship. They run an organization called Girls Mentorship. So they talk about how. How do we influence the younger people in our lives? And I think more importantly, as an older person, how do we understand the influence that younger people have on us? Extra special.

You can watch a replay of our founder, Luke, who normally does a live stream on Monday, but he did a special Tuesday version of it this morning, so you can go ahead and watch the replay of that. And then also special today. Whoa. So many special things. Jason Lennox, who normally does a Sunday serenity. This evening, there's going to be a special Tuesday version of Jason's Sunday serenity. But back to our regularly scheduled programming of the outward facing click. What is the outward facing click?

Well, if we've never shared time and space together before, thank you for giving me the opportunity to share some time and space with you. Even the way that I intro my live streams is a great example of the outward facing click. So if we haven't shared time and space together before, I'm JC and I make up a lot of ideas and concepts. The outward facing clique is one of them. When you hear the idea of a click, what do we normally think of? An inward facing circle, right? A group of people who have shared ideas, shared interests, and then they gravitate towards one another and don't let other people in.

I would say that is religion, that is brand, that is interest, that is all of the things on this planet. The reason why things stop growing is because people go, ah, this is now special to me. Therefore, you need to like it the way that I do. And if you don't, you're not doing it the right way. Therefore, I'm not gonna let you like it until you like it the way that I do. I'm looking at you, I'm looking at human beings. We all kinda do it. And the nice thing about humans is once we realize that we do it, hopefully we stop doing it.

So the outward facing click is going, wow, how can we allow something to become special to us? And as I say every week, the outward facing click is a great model for allowing things that are special to you to grow. If you work in an organization, if you are a leader, if you want your business to grow, here is a truth that you may not like. Hearing that you can try to convince me that I'm wrong, but I don't think you will succeed. The more that you are a part of something, the less it is about you and the more it is about the people that have yet to become a part of it.

So if you like Cadre, guess what? The more that you are a part of it, the less it is about you and the more it is about the people that have yet to become a part of it. I think that makes sense. So that is what the outward facing click livestream is all about. So today. Oh, good afternoon from the lake Erie. See, like, even that, that's what we're going to talk about today. Speak, wonder. You always set me up so wonderfully. Like, we're on the same volleyball team. I would say so many people would say, good afternoon from the lake, and a leader would say, and obviously, everybody knows that I'm speaking about Erie, because when I say from the lake, everybody knows what I'm talking about.

Well, I'm from Minnesota, where we got 10,000 lakes. And most of the time, if we're going to talk about the lake, well, the big one would be superior, but the other big one would be Mille lacs, but the other big one would be one of the other 9998 lakes. But if you're from Illinois, it may be Lake Michigan. Right. So to the point. Speak wonder. You just did a really good outward facing click moment. I would love to raise the idea today of camera check. Here's what camera check is. Oh, Lake of the woods.

Yes, Jules. Cause you're from up north, aren't you? See, Jules, I always know you're kind of creeping in the background there. Thank you, Jules. I'm going to raise the idea of camera check today. Here's what camera check is. Let's say I'm looking at a house, and I take a picture of the house. Oh, I'll even give you a better example. So I'm a Disney person. In the olden days, Hollywood studios in Florida. So Disney world. There used to be a behind the scenes tour, and you could see the Golden Girls house.

Golden girls. And you would see the house and be like, oh, my gosh, this is the golden girls house. And you would go past in your little car and you go, click, click. And you would take a picture of it. And then later on in the tour, you would go out the back of the house and what would you see? You would see it was a facade. It's only the front of the house. But if you only saw the front of the house and you would go, click, click. You'd go, ah, that is a real house. And it wouldn't be until you got to the back that you'd realize that you didn't have the full picture.

The idea of camera check is that we only have the part of the picture that we have. So when we think of an outward facing click, what we're really saying is, wow. We really need to be careful to realize that we only know what we know. So when we are standing on the stage and there are people in the audience, proverbially, we don't know what they know. And if we're speaking with so much confidence, here is what everybody knows. We may be walking with confidence, but we very likely are the fool who's walking with confidence with no one behind us.

And where does that get us? It gets us far by ourselves. So I often like going like this, and maybe you do it with me right now. Make a square with your fingers and look through that square and see what you see. Like, force yourself to only see what you see through that little square. Isn't it amazing how, like, your eye wants to see outside that square? Now that is camera check. Because everything outside that square is what someone else may be seeing. It may be their reality. So what do you have to do?

You have to speak lightly. You have to speak with wonderful cause and pause. You have to ask with questions. I go back to the beginning of how I start every single livestream. Hey, everybody. My name is JC, and if we've never shared space or time together before, thank you for the opportunity to allow me to share space with you right now. What does that do? It makes this not my time. This is not JC's livestream. Thank you for sitting in my space. F that. This is your time. This is your day as much as it's mine.

And I'm sorry, I'm the one who gets to blab here. You're the one who's having the thought. You're the one who doesn't get to respond. What a gift that I get. Thank you for allowing me the chance to spend time with you. This is my perspective. What do you have in this moment to change the world? When you are in the seat of power, how do you invite people to turn outward? That's what power means. Turn that. Click outwards, y'all. 19 minutes from now, tune in with the wonderful Leslie Davis. That's the best thing I can offer for you in this moment.

Peace.