Fake It Until You Make It?

Hey, Cadre folks. How you doing? Nick the poet here. I'm an athlete, a filmmaker, creative director at a market agency, recovering mental health, bipolar guy, recovering sobriety guy, and just sharing some thoughts and tips with you today. And I wanted to talk about and kind of build upon the gratitude talk from this morning, but also talk about faking it until you make it. And so we hear this a lot. Little green tea there, fake it until you make it. And so I think with gratitude, that can be good advice, because intellectually, knowing that we need to be grateful, I think, is a good start.

But to really get the gratitude going, we have to feel it. And how do we feel it? In some ways, I do think we need to take those actions of gratitude, whether it's writing the list, whether it's just saying thank you. Thank you, thank you, thank you. Just say thank you over and over until you're really feeling it. And this is kind of what I was talking about earlier. With radical change, it's not always going to be comfortable. You know, you might feel funny saying thank you, thank you, you know, but these are the things that we need to do to get outside of ourselves, to kind of experience this change.

And so, building on that, you know, I think that faking it until you make it, you know, can be good advice, because we can start acting as if. If we're not really feeling grateful, we can start acting grateful, and. And then we will maybe enter into that gratitude if we're feeling down. If we start smiling, our spirits may lift. Now, the tricky part is that we still want to acknowledge when things are not going well, and we want to work through that. And so we don't want what's called the toxic positivity.

But there seems to be an interesting balancing act there that we can only really discover for ourselves, you know, and in our own time and in our own way. But I do know there is a power to acting as if I'm also an actor. And so some of those tools from acting can be beneficial. One of them is to, you know, act. You're basically pretending, you know, to be a certain way. But there's a power to this transformation that we can try to make where, okay, we may tell this story in our heads. Like, I'm not creative, I'm not this, I'm not that, but this is just a story that we've created so we can start crafting a new narrative about who we are, who we want to be, where we want to go.

So I'm still figuring all this stuff out myself, but I think, you know, an action item that you can take is try doing something different, try doing something opposite. If you were scared to talk to some person, you know, maybe talk to them. If you were didn't want to go drive a different way home from work, you know, to kind of mix the synapses up and try something new, get a. I'm drinking green tea right now instead of coffee. You know, it can be these little things. Just try shifting it up and see what that can do for you.

So that's my kind of noontime tip for you today. Hope you're having a good one. Talk to you later. Buh bye.