The Outward Facing Clique

Hey there, everybody. Happy, happy Tuesday, and welcome to Cadre. Whether this is your first time, your hundredth time, your thousandth time, you're all welcome right here. And I think the world may say the more comfortable that you are, maybe the more welcome that you are, the less welcome that you are. Maybe you just need to, you know the phrases like show up and suck or you'll get used to it. Hey, everybody who's joining. Nice to see you. Whether I recognize you, whether I don't. It's nice to see you.

My name is JC Lippold, and on Tuesdays we talk about building community in the Cadre sphere. Well, let me, let me rephrase that. On Tuesdays in the Cadre sphere, we talk about the concept of building community wherever you are, in big ways, in small ways. I talk about the outward facing click, which is a concept that can be used to build communities with two people or 2 billion people. Doctor Leslie comes in later on today to talk about kind of that one on one intimate relationship, and then later on today, and I'm so excited for you to spend some time with Jill and Mary of girls mentorship because they have officially kicked off their really special time of the year.

So Jill and Mary run camps all summer long for. For young female identifying humans and helping them, um, um, navigate this world. But also, um, Jill and Mary help adult people, um, navigate, um, supporting and mentoring young people, because obviously we don't live with the lens of, of young people. So how do we help young people grow? Um, what a great, uh, opportunity that we have to learn, um, and walk alongside and converse with, um, with Jill and Mary and Leslie and all of you who are here right now.

Hey, Jules. Nice to see you. So the outward facing click, you know, sometimes. So what's the outward facing click? It's funny if you've spent time with me before, you know that each of my live streams have, you know, this conceptualization, right? Each of the titles is a thing. So what's the thing? What's the outward facing click? The outward facing click is, so what's a click? Normally, a click is this inward facing group that is really hard to be a part of. So if a click is outward facing, it's taking this hard to be a part of group, and it's facing it outward.

So it's this hard to be a part of group, and it's making it really easy to be a part of this group of people that has something special to be a part of. What a concept. Because so often groups and cultures and communities and organizations struggle to grow. Why? Because they think that the thing that they have is so special and that everybody needs to see it and the way that they see it and then they stop growing. It's kind of the fault of humanity. We see it day in, day out. Oh, humans. Am I right?

Am I right, people? But I often think, and this is what we'll chat about for a little bit today, I think the outward facing click often gets seen as, oh, the outward facing click is such a great idea because it makes people on the outside feel just so good. Maybe, hopefully. Hopefully it makes people on the outside have an opportunity to be seen. Yeah, that should happen. Hey, shonuff, nice to see you. I hope you're having a really, really nice Tuesday. Wherever you are and whatever is going on.

We are talking about the outward facing click. So, yeah, the outward facing click creates opportunity for those on the outside if they wish to be a part of the thing. But I'll also say this. I see so many people who are in the clique who are a part of the thing and working hard to grow the thing. And in reality, they're the ones who are struggling the most. If you're willing right now, if you're out there, if you're tuning in, or if you're tuning in later, can you tell me about a group of people?

Let me rephrase that. Can you share a group that you are a part of that you really wish would grow more, that would have more support or would have more resources or would have more people attend? Maybe it's the business that you run. Maybe it's the community group that you volunteer for. Maybe you're willing to type into the chat right now, what is the group or what is the business? And you can be as vague or as not vague as you want to be. So you're a part of the cliq, you're a part of the leadership team, you're part of the council, you're part of the volunteer team, you're part of the family.

This year, that is rallying the big reunion, guess what? The outward facing click is as much about the click as it is about the people on the outside. Because I'll tell you, day in, day out, I sit on the inside of the communities, the groups, the councils, the cliques. And when it Amy says, my area running club. Yeah. And it's so funny because I see more hurt, I see more loneliness on the inside than I do on the outside. I see more people on the inside feeling lonely, feeling left out than I do people on the outside.

People on the outside normally are a okay. People on the outside normally are having a blast. Why? Because people on the outside have found what they're looking for. People on the inside are normally the ones going, gosh, why don't people want what we have? And you want to know why? Because it's normally people on the inside who are looking inward thinking that they have it, when in reality, the concept of the outward facing click says, wow, what if we've become the space that embraces what everybody has?

What if we become the space that allows people to be who they are here? What if we become the oasis, the living room, the meeting place? What if we are the place who sees people for who they are and says, wow, we appreciate you. Wow, we support you. Wow, we are going to lather you up with appreciation and love and all the things. That is what the outward facing clique does. It invites people inside the clique to see that they don't need to be the people who have the stuff. They are the people who can help.

The people outside of the cliq have a little bit something else. So for that area running club, guess what? The people outside the cliq already have everything that they need. Maybe the only thing that they really need is that group of people who are always kind of looking at them with a little extra smile when they're running around the lake, when they're driving up and down highway ten. Maybe the people outside the clique need to go, oh, you're the people with the red t shirts. They don't even know who you are, but they feel who you are.

And guess what? The metric of success maybe is a feeling. And over time, you go, yep, we've been here all the time and you've known us. The outward facing click is exactly that. And yeah, guess what? Those on the outside benefit from it. But it's those on the inside who truly, truly, truly, truly benefit y'all. I'm on the inside of the Cadre sphere, and so are you. We are benefiting from being in this space. Who on the outside is benefiting from you spending a little bit of time right here, I'd like to believe everybody who crosses your path.

Have a great rest of your day. We'll talk to you later.