The Outward Facing Clique

Well, good morning, Cadre. I hope all is well on this building community. My name is JC Lippold, and if we've never shared time or space together before, thank you for the opportunity to do so right now. It truly is a gift to get to spend time with you. And if we have shared time together before, you know that I say that every single time. I think that's one of the gifts that Cadre may be able to offer you or anybody else. The reminder that you are someone that it is a gift to spend time with. So on Tuesdays, we talk about building community.

You're going to see me right now. Hey, Jen. Hi, Nick. How are you, crew? So I kick off building community day, and then about midday you're gonna see Doctor Leslie, who talks kind of about the one on one relationship where I talk about the outward facing click. Kind of the big community building of many people, of the things that you truly are filled by and lit up by. And then there is a special gift today. Normally, Jason Lennox, who does Sunday serenity to wrap up the Sunday evening. You're going to have a special Tuesday edition of Sunday Serenity this evening.

So the outward facing click. What's it all about? Well, how many of you have ever had something that you really care about? A community, an idea, something that you want to build a movement around? Or maybe it's something that you've been a part of. You know, if we look at the popular movements within history, you know, whether it be around an idea of belief or faith or country or community or family, normally something happens where we hit a ceiling, right? We plateau. And quite often that plateau happens because we get inwardly focused.

We start to go, okay, we have this group of people and we focus in on it. As opposed to where does growth happen from the outside. You know, in an earlier chapter of my life, I did a lot of new business, opening, consulting. And whenever I would be meeting with new business owners, you know, they would be really excited to sit in their new business, their brick and mortar. They would sit and they would wait for people to walk on in and I would remind them or inform them if they hadn't been told before, the people that you're waiting for aren't here and they're not going to be here.

They're outside your doors. To build your business, you need to get outside of your business. So the outward facing click. The main belief is that the longer you're a part of a community, the less it is about you and the more it is about the people who have yet to find it or hear about it. So rather than that click facing inward, the click stays close, but they face outward to see who is their next opportunity to grow, to be changed, to learn more about themselves by learning about those who aren't there yet.

So today's tidbit, today's morsel, actually comes from within the Cadre sphere. Another contributor, Kristen Grimes, who you can see on Saturday, shared on her instagram a thought from another human being in the world that I think plays really well into the outward facing clique. And may I say, it is so great to see so many of you signing in right now. It's just for the moment saying, this person is joined. This person is joined. This person has joined. So as I lay out today's morsel or tidbit, how you doing?

What's going on today? Say hey, because I would love to know how you're doing. Again, it's a gift to know that you're here. Cafe Marisa. Nice to see you, my friend. So today I want to raise up two words that we often maybe mistake one for the other, or we don't think about when we are thinking about building community. Those two words are capability and capacity. One of the things I like about language, right? Alliteration. Right. When we have words that kind of sound alike, start with same letter and it gets really easy to go.

Oh, yeah. Boom, boom, boom. Now let's slow down. Capability. Someone's talent or a skill set, right. Their ability to do. Now, again, you may not think of your ability to sit down or stand up as a talent, but it is. It is something that you can do. Winter in July is what's happening here. Oh, gosh, Rhonda, where. Where are you located? It is so interesting because it is definitely not winter in most parts of at least the Us of a right now. It is hot, hot, hot. So many places. So, by golly, of course, there are places where you're having winter in July as well.

Well, bundle up, my friend. So, capability, someone's talent, that here's what I can do. And it's very different than someone's capacity, what they currently have, the energy in the tank or the time for to do. Are you building your community around people's capabilities? Around people's capacities? Right. You may say, ah, this is a place where everyone is welcome. Okay, meaning what if you have an open door, if you have a wheelchair ramp, if you have things that allow people the opportunity to walk in, to roll in, to be in the space, to be in the community.

Yeah. Capability. You may go and say, oh, everyone's welcome here. We won't turn anybody away from this community, this movement. Cool. Different than someone's capacity, do they have the energy, the courage? Do they look around and see people who look like them, which may make them feel seen or safe? Those are things that influence people's capacity so often, right? We hear, oh, you're welcome here, you're welcome here, you're welcome here. And think about if you're on the outside looking in, you may go, yeah, well, technically I could walk in there.

I'm capable of doing the thing, of being a part of. But are they thinking about your capacity? Are they thinking about what you need to be in that space right now, in that moment? And if not, hey, community builders, maybe a really, really good exercise you can do with. With those people who have influence and power over what you're sharing with the world or what you're trying to grow, is to, rather than thinking about people's capabilities. Oh, yeah, everyone can, everyone can be here. Everyone can participate in theory, in concrete reality.

Like, they could do the thing. Are you thinking about their capacity? Do they have within themselves what they need right now to fully activate and be a part of the thing? You know, sometimes we hear things. It's like, ah, it's always hard to be the new person. And I go, okay, well, what are you doing to make it less hard? Maybe you hear phrases like, I just have to show up and suck. No. From the first time I've heard that phrase, I'm like, nope, I'm sorry, I will never go someplace where I have to show up and suck.

I don't have any interest in it. I don't care enough about what you are offering. If my early experiences have to be not positive, nothing safe, not seeing. So whether you are the community builder or whether you are the person going, gosh, why do I feel so often on the outside of the community? I invite you today to think about your capacity. What do you have the capacity for? Do those things. Those who desire to be a part of community and those who are building community. Hey, you're doing a good job.

And now think about people's capacity, and you may start to see people walk in with what they have. And that's what's enough, y'all. Doctor Leslie's coming up later today, and you see Jason tonight. Rhonda, thank you for the reflection, and we will see y'all soon. Bye, everybody.