Enoughness 101

Well, hey there, everybody. Happy Saturday. How are you? I hope you are good. It is officially August, right, in Minnesota. And I think probably in lots of parts of the world, we start to talk about the dog days of summer. Those days that just keep going on and on and on like summer never ends. I'll tell you, we always get a little bit sad Bee's a bit Cindy joy. Oh, my gosh. Hello, friends. Happy Saturday, trooper. Nice to see you, my friend. Marisa. Oh, my gosh. The crew is here. I hope you got your things that are making this Saturday morning feel soft and open and light and all those other things that if this is a weekend day for you, that you get to enjoy.

But, yeah, it's officially another change, another shift as we entertained August. So I hope that that's going well for you. And if it's not, that is okay to speak wonder. I am proud that you are part of my y'all. So on Saturdays, we talk self care. You're gonna see quite a wonderful lineup of people coming up the rest of the day. You had the it's your birthday crew right before me, so, ah, I got a dog hair in my mouth. One of my babies wanted to make sure that they made an appearance on the livestream today.

So you just saw me take a little piece of dog hair out of my mouth. We keep it real here in the Cadre sphere. So enoughness, definition of enoughness is I am already indeed enough. Not the definition, but kind of the statement that we make. Enoughness is the belief that in this moment, you are already indeed enough. That you are capable of doing something in this moment that has great worth and value that can continue to help you do the things that you do. And there's four tenets to this idea of enoughness.

Four little calibration levers to go, hey, let's work on our enoughness. The first one is that your words are enough. It's your honesty. The things that you say in the way that you say them have value. Because we know so often we stop ourselves from communicating in the way that we communicate because we don't think it is. Say it with me. Enough. Well, I have a little story. On Thursday night this week, I spoke at an event that was all about a word. I'll tell you what that word is in a little bit.

But this event is led by this beautiful human who their kind of purpose in life is to be with people and to talk with people about grief and loss and bereavement and death and all of those things. So this person, their name is Kelly, does these events throughout the year that are conversations with people and about things that will be helpful for people who are in grief and bereavement and loss and death, mind and heart spaces. And I was the guest this week, so this room was filled with more people than I could count.

And they're sitting there without any. With. Without me knowing any about what they're dealing with later on, when people ask questions and shared their context for their questions. There's a gentleman who is there by himself. His wife has terminal cancer and was moving to the stage of end stages of that. And, you know, he shared his story while he sat there by himself. And, you know, one of the things he shared is his wife is now in the hospital, and, like, he goes to bed alone. He wakes up alone in the house because his wife is in the hospital.

Like, those are the. Those are the types of the things that people were carrying with them. So I mentioned, right, that specific evening, we were talking about a very specific word, and that word was hope. Hope. What does the word hope mean? And I'll say this, one of the first things I said when Kelly started asking me questions and she wanted me to bring this up, and you've heard me say this before, because it's a part of enoughness, is that words are, and I always do this. Vessels, they have no value.

No specific value. Right. It's what we place in them that has value. You could have the most beautiful wallet or purse. You could wrap a present in the most beautiful paper. But, of course, that vessel is secondary to what's in it, and that's the reality of hope. How often do you go, ah, well, the definition of hope is what someone else kind of tells you. I think that's the reason why hope is something that a lot of people struggle with. Hope sounds fluffy and flighty and non realistic and non helpful in the way that other people may define it.

Not that their definition is wrong, but it's their definition. I want you to think about how you define a word like hope. Speak Wonder says, hope is the thing with feathers that perches on the soul. Emily Dickinson. Yeah. See? What a perfect example. Speak wonder. And I'll use you as the example here. Speak wonder is doing something really powerful. Speak wonder shared someone else's definition of hope, but. And because me and speak wonder go way back, I know that speak wonder goes, ah, this is something that I place in my vessel of hope.

Like the word hope, this makes sense to me. That's what speak wonder is saying. Please make sure that what you say means something to you. It's like, if you ever watch, like a. Like a five year old, if you ever watch the show, kids say the darndest things, and we listen to kids talk, and it seems to make sense. Why? Because it makes sense to them. So in that room full of people who are in spaces of loss and grief and trauma and things that they can't even talk about, to raise up a word like hope, they want that word to mean something to them.

And that little person inside you wants your words to mean something to you. Cindy, Joyce says, I went through that with my husband. Hope gets you through tough times. Yeah. Cindy, I always say that hope is a vehicle. Hope is a vehicle that allows you to see that there are roads wherever you need to drive. Like hope is wonderfully irrational. Hope is allowing you to believe and see and feel and think whatever it is you need to believe and see and feel and think in the moment that you're in to travel to a space where maybe.

Maybe something is different, maybe something is clear, maybe something is better. All of those things. So we talk about enoughness. I am already, indeed enough. The way that you perceive something is your body saying, hey, here is how I perceive this thing. Please trust me. Please listen to me. Please use what this wonderful, intelligently designed being is giving you to move forward. You know, we have some pretty powerful wordsmiths in the Cadre sphere, like speak, wonderland. And we often go.

It's like, wow. The poets and the authors and the thinkers of this world, they're so good with words. I'll say this. The gift that a poet has is they choose to see that the things that they place within their vessels are beautiful. And when they choose to see that and others get to go, huh, they think there's something valuable within these vessels. I want to see what's in that vessel, too. You are enough. That's not a pleasantry. That's not a false statement. That's not meant to make you feel good.

You are enough. I am already indeed enough. You are already, indeed enough means that right now you are capable of doing something. The four tenets. Your words are enough. That's your honesty. Number two. Your feelings are enough. That's your intuition. Your thoughts are enough. That's your curiosity, and you are enough. That's your presence. This is tools that you have to calibrate. These are parts of who you are. So, please, if you ever feel not enough, tweak those four calibration tools. Tweak them because you are enough.

Whether you like it or not, whether you know it or not, whether you remember it or not. The great thing is when you have a community like this in the Cadres sphere, we can help you move on forward. Everybody, have a great rest of your day and hang out in the Cadre sphere. If you need some more friendly faces who risk to go ahead and connect, that's what we do in the Cadre sphere. A special group of people with a special intention. Y'all, we'll see you later.