In this video, I discuss a really important concept in mental health. Sex Positivity is a philosophy meant to combat the shame and stigma around consensual, safe, and self-expressive sexual behavior. So many of my clients come to therapy with sexual trauma of many kinds as well as shameful messages that exacerbate trauma around sex. I deeply believe in this philosophy but no everyone subscribes to every element of it which can be okay. I'd love to hear your experience and the elements you agree or don't agree with. Let's make this a safe space open for dialogue and learning.
Sex positivity is a philosophy intended to combat the shame and misconceptions that come from one's society around sex. If a sexual behavior is consensual and does not cause harm to yourself or others, its all good. Sex positivity can really help you move past sexual trauma and open you up to a new world of fun.
Have you heard of the term sex positivity? Did he just say sex? I did. And if that made you a little uncomfortable, that's exactly why this topic is so important. As a therapist, it was so important for me to understand this topic, especially because I work with a lot of LGBTQ clients and sexual assault survivors. As a society, we're often afraid to talk about sex because there's a lot of taboo and shame that comes from it. It's strange because sex is such an integral part of our survival as humans, yet we have a really rigid ideology around sexual behavior, just gender and what we deem to be acceptable.
As I alluded to before, so many of my clients have trauma around sex, whether it's physical, emotional, or religious abuse or simply it was the messages they were taught about sex or what they weren't taught. So then what is sex positivity? All right, I'll stop doing that. Sex positivity is a philosophy intended to combat the shame and misconceptions that come from one's society around sex. Simply, sex positivity states that if a sexual behavior is consensual and does not cause harm to yourself or.
Or others, its all good. Now some people may say that certain sexual behaviors cause shame and that is therefore harm to oneself, however, that comes from society and not the sexual behavior in and of itself. The more we learn about human sexuality through research, the more apparent it is that we all have differing sexual templates, fantasies, desires and ways of expressing ourselves. So what is the purpose of applying strict rules, punishments and policing ones sexuality? Well in my opinion there is none.
Look, we all have different morals when it comes to sex and its not my job to tell you whats right or wrong. I just ask that you keep an open mind because sex positivity can really help you move past sexual trauma and open you up to a whole new world of fun. At the end of the day, sex is such a huge part of our lives. I mean almost every song and literally every movie has a love component to it. Therefore, if were able to shed some of the baggage and unlearn some of the sex negative messages we got as children, it could really improve your quality of life.
And guess what? You deserve that.
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