Enoughness 101

Hey there, Cadre. How are you? Happy Saturday. It's interesting, it's still kind of dark outside. m. and yeah, there's a couple of clouds, but the seasons are changing. Even though I'm a Minnesotan and I can't help but talk about weather, I raised that today to say, hey, when things change, when seasons are changing, that changes you. So you may be someone who is really sensitive to the length of days or the amount of hours you have to do the things you do or the amount of sunlight you get. So if you're starting to feel change, you must be alive.

You must be doing this game. Hey, Aristigma. Hey Jules. Hey beezabits. How is everybody doing today? I hope you're well. If we've never shared time and space together before, thank you for the opportunity to spend some time with you right now. It is a gift to spend time with you no matter how you are doing. It is a gift. So thanks for sharing that gift with me. My name is JC and this is enoughness 101. Enoughness is a concept. Enoughness is a tool that you can use to calibrate all the things that you are and all the things that you do.

What is enoughness? Enoughness is the idea that you are already, indeed enough, in this moment, capable of doing something that has great value. I'll say it again, this time slower because I can speak fast. Enoughness is the concept that you are already, indeed enough right now. Meaning that you are capable of doing something that has great worth without having to upsell yourself, change yourself, improve yourself. You are always capable of doing something that has great value. The world kind of invites us to think.

Contrary to that belief, the world likes to say, hey, you know what? If you just get better, then you'll be able to do x if you just use this tool, if you buy this product, if you believe this thing, then sooner or later you will be enough. Now, I always have to put the disclaimer that enoughness doesn't mean complacency. Enoughness doesn't mean, hey, don't change, don't grow, don't consider other pathways of existence. Enoughness actually is the opposite of that. Enoughness says right now you are capable of doing something that is going to change your next state, your next moment.

And with that being said, enoughness has four tenets, kind of four levers that you can play with or focus on. The first one is your words are enough. That's your honesty. So you can consider all of the ways that you use your words and your truth. Actually, Jules, Jules sent me a message on the LinkedIn saying that Jules was calibrating their your words are enough lever of their enoughness. Jules, please let me know if it's okay to share a highlight of what you shared with me. And as you type, type, type, I will talk about the other tenets.

Number two, your feelings are enough. That is your intuition. Number three, your thoughts are enough. That's your curiosity. And lastly, you are enough. That is your presence. Honesty, intuition, curiosity, presence. These are things that we often mute or cover up or hide. And it slows down our ability to be all that we can be in our uniqueness, in our enoughness. So I have to tell a story if you listen to my live stream. Yesterday, I spoke about a tennis match that I went to. Now, this tennis match was being played by a young person who is the daughter of my first athlete that I ever worked with.

I started working with her when she was a 6th grader, and now her daughter is a 9th grader. That's 1997 to 2024. Well, it was interesting. We were talking about all the life and history that each of the three of us have experienced. The athlete or mother myself. We reminisced while watching some of her teammates play. And all of a sudden, this great moment of enoughness presented. We got to observe someone being enough, and I want to know if this resonates with any of you. Someone reactively made a mistake, and then they had the opportunity to go, oh, I made a mistake, and then move on.

You may be like, I need more context. What do you mean made a mistake? Well, here's what happened. If you know tennis, or if you don't know tennis, both of the players. So it was a doubles match, so it was two on two, and the good guys. net and the other people were at the baseline, so they were far away from the net. And all of a sudden, the opponents hit a ball over our guys, and one of our guys said, oh, it's going out, it's going out. In other words, the ball was going to be out of play and the good guys would have won the point.

Now, reactively, our teammates said balls out when it was still traveling through the air, because their forecast, what they thought their prediction was that the ball was going to go out. And all of a sudden, a little bit of breeze showed up, and the ball landed really close to being out, but was in. Here's the opportunity where enoughness came into play. The girl who called the ball out prematurely, had to go. And she looked at her teammate and she was like, did you think that was out? Did you think it was in?

I already said it was going out. What do I do? And her teammate said, nope, the ball was in. And her teammate, you could see on her face, had this moment of shame, this moment of embarrassment, this moment of, wait. Did they think I was gonna. Did they think I was trying to call the ball out even though it was going to be in? Did they think that I was being mean? Do they think I was being a cheater? Do they think I was being unsportsmanlike? And then all of a sudden, the opponents who knew that the ball like, no, the ball was in.

The ball was in. They looked at the girl who prematurely called it out and said, was that ball in? And the girl went, yeah, yeah, it was a great shot. Nice shot. There's so many times I see tennis players do a couple of different things. They either cower and say, yeah, it was in, and they're embarrassed that they prematurely called it out because they thought it was going out, or they call it out even though it was in because if all of a sudden, they are the person who said it was going out, but then all of a sudden it was in, and they need to live up to the fact that someone's thinking that they are being unsportsmanlike or being a cheater, so all of a sudden they lie.

All of a sudden, them living up to the truth that they put into the world, even though it was false, is more important than them going, no, I am not in my mistakes. I am not of the things that I do that I take back or that I change. And it's really fun to watch these two girls who are like, hey, our opponents who don't know us that well, we're opponents right now, are either going to see in me someone who is grounded and enough, or see someone who's going to have to fight to prove to the world that they are worthy of being seen for what they are in that current moment.

Now, here's the deal. How does this play into our larger life when we are attempting to hide our not enoughness from the world? It's exhausting. It bears us down. It puts ghosts and reminiscence of thoughts in our mind, and it makes us not be able to do all the things we're capable of doing. Here's the passing thought for the day when it comes to sport, and I think everything is sport. I think everybody, everybody who's alive. Everybody who has a body, everybody who has a mind and a spirit and things that move them.

We are all athletes. In other words, we're all doing things. Here's what sport is. In my definition, sport is doing something, learning from that doing, and then doing that action again in consideration of what we just learned. So it's like if you're shooting free throws on a basketball court, you go, oh, that one went a little right, a little left, a little shallow, a little deep, and you go, I'm gonna change it a little bit. Cooks who make a recipe, it's like, ooh, that soup was too salty. It wasn't salty enough.

I need to add a little acid. I need to add a little citrus. Talking to a sibling or a friend, ooh, I was a little harsh. I was a little unclear. I need to xYz. So everything is sport. I made my point. Here is how we win. It's getting to ready position first. What's ready position? It's being ready to acknowledge all the things that are going on in any moment and say, here is my opportunity. And then, guess what? The next moment exists. And you say, okay, here is what's present right now. And here's my opportunity.

And here's my opportunity. How often are you not in ready position because you're ruminating or you're hiding or you're covering up? Enoughness invites you to be where you are with what you have and to honor that our stigma. Thank you, my friend. I appreciate the story resonating. And hey, everybody, me and our stigma are going to be live on YouTube this coming Wednesday. You can check out our stigma Seth livestreaming right here in the Cadre sphere on Sundays. And. But the cool thing is, is being in the Cadre sphere permeates out into the rest of your world.

So no matter where you are, no matter what you have going on, know that we are here to remind you who you are and all that you're capable of doing in this world. And then you may even see us walking around the grocery store because we are you and you are us. And y'all, that day is out there waiting for you. So have a great Saturday. Kristen's coming up in about an hour and 15 minutes. You'll see Dan coming from the west coast this afternoon. Otherwise, you'll see me tomorrow morning. m. thin space.

Talk to you later. Bye.