A speaker explores how being seen and known fuels community connection, sharing an example of strangers finding common ground and practical prompts—ask more questions, widen the aperture—to deepen relationships.
Jules: Being seen and known is a really wonderful superpower that we can give to others. On Tuesdays we talk about how do we form relationships with one another. Watch what happens to the conversation when you fuel it with connection with things in common.
Well, hey there. Good morning, Cadre. How are you? I hope you are great on this Tuesday. And if you're not, that is absolutely okay as well. All of us here in the Cadre sphere are always rooting for you. We're also rooting for those people who aren't in this Cadre sphere you yet. Why? Because we do better when we do better. We do better when we are seen and when we are known. Hey, Jules, nice to see you. We have an event coming up next week on safety in the workplace. And I was meeting with a friend of mine and I had the thought that I feel safe when I'm seen and when I'm known.
And I think if we look at what's happening any day in the history of the universe, being seen and known is a really wonderful superpower that we can give to others and that we can receive. Here's, here's, here's what I mean. So I was at the TV station yesterday. A friend of mine was doing, was doing a segment and I came along to escort her to the station. And all of a sudden she also brought, brought a friend who was in town. And then we sat down in kind of the waiting area and another person showed up who was going to be on tv who, who's a good friend of mine didn't know she was going to be there.
But then those three people got to meet. All of a sudden there's two other people who are going to be on the show that day and listening to the five of these people talk who did not know each other, who did not know they were going to be sharing space, but they had time. What did they do for the half an hour that they had the opportunity to spend time together? They, they wouldn't say it this way, but they spent time seeing and knowing one another. They found connections by asking questions like, so what do you do?
So what are you going to be talking about? So how are you? So what's going on? And then they start going, wait, I have a connection to that. Or that's interesting to me. Tell me more about that. And you may be like, jc, there's, there's nothing magical about what you're describing right now. And I go, no, there isn't. But what happens when people are seen and known is indelible. It changes them. And those five people exchange information and phone numbers and ways to connect on social media. And they have now more people within their sphere, within their community, who see them and know them.
On Tuesdays we talk about exactly that community, how do we form relationships with one another? My invitation for each of you is if you're going, gosh, it's really hard for me to see or know the person on the other side of the table. Increase the aperture, ask more questions, spend time going, what do I have in common with them? And then see what happens. I'm not going to say. And then watch world peace happen. I'm not going to say that. But what I am going to say is watch what happens to the conversation when you fuel it with connection with things in common.
Because being seen and known changes the way that people operate. I am so grateful that I have two people who I love seeing and knowing in this world, Betsy Hodges and Dr. Leslie Davis. Coming up on Cadre later on this morning afternoon. So if you got time, check them out. But also like my friend Jay Petruno, a dietitian located in Massachusetts. He dropped a really great video, I think yesterday or at least yesterday's when I saw it in the pre recorded content all about if you're not used to giving yourself a break, whenever you have a break, it may feel like you're not doing enough.
And it changed my day, y'all. There's something simple in this Cadre sphere, but that simple thing is very powerful. This place of professionals and peers creating resources, webbing together a community to show you that there are many ways to be seen and known. That's what we're doing here. Have a great Tuesday and I'll see you tomorrow.
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